To all the bitter men

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An anxious female virgin with no friends is actually a target for a lot of men. To them she is essentially a blank slate which they can fill with their own view of reality.

I'm sure this is a euphemism!

I'm not sure what you mean, but it's a real problem especially for autistic women. There are a lot of men out there who are looking for someone vulnerable.

Sometimes for the reason stated above.

Other times, for more altruistic reasons.

I agree with what you are saying, and I'll get my mind out of the gutter.

This is true. I've seen it happen and end in disaster. Better to be alone.

If there is one thing to make yourself more attractive without working on your flirting skills, this is it. And it's not just true for guys either. People are most attractive when they're not trying to attract people in any way. When I was in high school I desperately wanted to date. I was socially awkward. No guy wanted to date me. In college I lost my enthusiasm for dating and just worked on myself. I shed my baby chub. I dressed better. But I never tried to get a guy to date me. And it's crazy how many guys suddenly wanted to date me and appreciated my personality. It disgusted me, really. Are you sure you like my personality? Or do you like my newfound hotness, that I worked on because I grew up, and didn't give a s**t about you?

They like your newfound hotness. Then they met you and liked your personality too. Don't get mad or disgusted. Men are visual when it comes to attraction. Looks are always first, that is the reality. Then the other stuff can come into play - and be genuinely appreciated, too.