Why are women so desperate for men?

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No idea. I’m not really that interested in other people having sex. But I don’t think it’s the main drive for women to want a relationship in general. It’s pretty easy for women to get sex without any commitment.

I think it's because of this whole marriage culture. Us women are being taught from a very young age that we're nothing without a man and that we have to have a man to be validated and that being married is the only thing that will make us happy in life. Just look at the Disney movies with princesses, in 99% of cases the end up married. Not that marriage is a bad thing but we should'nt teach our daughters that a man is the only thing that will make her happy.

Some people are emotionally needy. To each their own.

Could you all do me a favor and find me an attractive woman who's also desperate for a man? Thanks!

Some women that I know have never really been single for more than a few months and they find the idea of being out of a relationship really... destabilizing to their life? Scary? Like they're going to lose a piece of themselves maybe? Won't handle life on their own?

Just today I had a chat with my friend who really wants to break up with her useless boyfriend who also has anger issues but... but... she's so settled in her life as a part of a couple that the thought of being alone feels to her like being out of water to a fish. She never mentioned love once in this conversation - that maybe she still loves him or even likes him. Nope.

To me, this is just crazy, but she's not alone in this thinking. My sister is another example. My 2 unhappily married friends too. They'd rather jump from a guy to a guy straight away than have a break which I just simply can't understand.

But then again I have female friends who are happily single and in no rush to marry or settle, or ones divorced and really just having fun with random guys off Tinder. Why not.

I know some very desperate guys too, plus the internet is full of them - ones that at the same time desperately want women but hate them with passion That's... kinda bad for their mental state (and their poor girlfriends) and it shows.
...so I wouldn't generalize that women are always the clingy, desperate types.

Yay more picking on sad lonely guys.

[quote="MSBKyle"]I know several women who can't live without a man.

You generalise in your title from several to the implication that all women are desperate for men - a fallacy

They act like being in a relationship or married to a man is the only thing that will make them happy.

Perhaps for those few women it is the only thing they want, same for some men. Dependency disorders are not sex specific.

Whenever a man leaves a woman or when a woman is alone, she is depressed and acts like it is the end of the world.

I live alone and know many women who do so by choice. None of them are depressed by that, they have control over their lives and love it. Whether to partner up is a choice too. The thing that makes women depressed the most AFAIK is a domestically violent partner or husband who is really into power and control, unable to treat his partner as an adult woman.

I don't understand why women are so clingy.

All women you imply again. You are generalising again. There are men and women who are clinging vines, and my advice would be to avoid them, both sexes can show it in the same kinds of behaviours. Easy to recognise.

Yes, going through a breakup or being alone may not be pleasant experiences to some people, but there is more to life than having someone by your side 24/7. It seems that women can't accept themselves unless they have a man.

It might seem so to you, though again, I know many who relish independence. I have no problems with self acceptance, and self esteem has increased in the years I have been on my own. I see men as people, not potential partners, and have a number of male friends in groups I belong to. They respect me and I respect them - as individuals. Character matters to me in who I allow to be friends.

When a woman starts dating a man, she expects him to propose to her shortly after they have started dating.

I must have missed that bit of socialisation. The advice was to really get to know someone and take your time evaluating character, because people often don't show their real selves in the early stages of a relationship. "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread" was the general saying.

Women seem to want to rush into things instead of taking the relationship slow and getting to know the man. I think that the reason women have a hard time finding a man is because many of them are clingy, desperate, and want to marry the first guy they meet. Unless women start changing their ways, a lot of them will end up alone for the rest of their lives.

I was happily married for a long time, until death of a partner. I have since been alone, though not without the company and friendship of men who have loved me. I chose not to remarry. I am picky about who I allow into my life. I am not driven by fear that I will live alone for the rest of my life. That's my choice. If I met a man that I truly deeply loved and it was reciprocal, I might change my choice.


My overall response to your OP:
All women don't do everything the same way because all women are not the same, nor do they want the same things.
Ditto men. Wrong Planet has a ton of evidence for those two claims.

I'm female and have been officially single for 13 years. Love it, wouldn't have it any other way.