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06 Jan 2018, 1:42 am

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Nobody said you are horrible.

Message the ladies, for crissakes!

They said it in fancy talk and that people like me shouldn’t be in relationships. So I’d only be doing harm messaging those girls. Appareently it’s my god dam fault women are super picky. Apparently I make them picky. Sure ain’t my fault I was born defective and can’t meet women’s requirements that’s for dam sure. People can only be at fault for stuff in their control and they did. My disability and it’s resualting effects isn’t in my control. Being picky and superficial is in those women’s control. Women don’t have t be picky and have Huge lists of what a man must do to date them that’s something they consciously decide to do. So it’s their fault not mine. They have every right to do it but doesn’t make it right, moral or ok and sure doesn’t make it my fault :cry:

So if I’ll just be horrible in a relationship and just hurt either of these women shouldn’t I just ignore them?



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06 Jan 2018, 1:47 am

Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.



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06 Jan 2018, 2:13 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.



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06 Jan 2018, 2:18 am

Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.

I dont know. Ow men with personality but bad looks or pictures will completely be out of luck since they can’t win them over with a great first message anymore



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06 Jan 2018, 2:21 am

sly279 wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.

I dont know. Ow men with personality but bad looks or pictures will completely be out of luck since they can’t win them over with a great first message anymore


That's definitely true, but when women recieve thousands of these "great first messages" they only become more selective sly. So mechanisms like this one might make it easier for a lot of guys.



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06 Jan 2018, 3:41 am

Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.



Not really; they did it for the women.

Now thoughtful intro messages have zero value, only the messages from the very handsome men will be noticed.



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06 Jan 2018, 3:46 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.



Not really; they did it for the women.

Now thoughtful intro messages have zero value, only the messages from the very handsome men will he noticed.


Well,if they are playing dirty like that,maybe you should turn catfish.


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06 Jan 2018, 4:26 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.



Not really; they did it for the women.

Now thoughtful intro messages have zero value, only the messages from the very handsome men will be noticed.

What boo said. If your ugly or just not really handsome or take good photos you never be seen now.
What I don’t get is how will their business model of getting men to pay continue or are they planning in making all their money from advertising towards women? Certainly this will drive most men away eventually and it’s mostly men who’ll pay them for their services. Most dating sites work this way it’s why there’s so many fake women profiles to attract men. They really should make fake meal profiles to attract women and evennip the gender ratio though. This seems like a stupid solution to dick pictures would only had to be banning accounts that send dick pictures



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06 Jan 2018, 4:30 am

I just cannot for the life of me, fathom why on earth some men send dick pics....



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06 Jan 2018, 5:36 am

:?: :?: :?:



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06 Jan 2018, 6:14 am

sly279 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Okcupid is going fully Tinder.

Now your first messages are only visible to the women who like your picture.

https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-okcupid ... 4d492e7853


Check the comments, men and lesbian women are the unhappiest with this change.


I actually think it's a good change for men ultimately.



Not really; they did it for the women.

Now thoughtful intro messages have zero value, only the messages from the very handsome men will be noticed.

What boo said. If your ugly or just not really handsome or take good photos you never be seen now.
What I don’t get is how will their business model of getting men to pay continue or are they planning in making all their money from advertising towards women? Certainly this will drive most men away eventually and it’s mostly men who’ll pay them for their services. Most dating sites work this way it’s why there’s so many fake women profiles to attract men. They really should make fake meal profiles to attract women and evennip the gender ratio though. This seems like a stupid solution to dick pictures would only had to be banning accounts that send dick pictures


:o Do you guys pay to be on these sites?

I don't see the benefit of just photos for women either with the exception of those women who are just on there to flirt or wind people up. It would be no help to one looking for a relationship.


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06 Jan 2018, 8:20 am

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I just cannot for the life of me, fathom why on earth some men send dick pics....


I've always thought that, because some men wanna see boobies, they assume women want to see their junk. We don't.


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06 Jan 2018, 8:33 am

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Sly: Why don’t you pick up some new/additional interests then? You have a lit to choose from.

Should I keep talking to these ladies? They messaged me more but people here say I’m horrible and shouldn’t be in a relationship so now I’m anxious


Just out of curiosity, who said those things? You're not horrible and I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be in a relationship.

I don't understand why you don't know if you should reply. Isn't the logical solution replying to people who show interest? Where will you get to if you don't reply to anyone?



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06 Jan 2018, 8:36 am

Closet Genious wrote:
I just cannot for the life of me, fathom why on earth some men send dick pics....


It’s an exaggerated phenomena.

In my dating experiments, when I faked a Bi female profile, a only very very few men sent me dick pics unsolicited - many do ask first though “hey wanna see my dick?”.

Do you know which category of people send unsolicited nudes to women way more than men?

Check this: viewtopic.php?t=358512



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06 Jan 2018, 11:02 am

The real world is not an online dating site. I can say this with complete certainty.



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06 Jan 2018, 11:03 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
The real world is not an online dating site. I can say this with complete certainty.


I definitely agree. What does irritate me is that when a celebrity commits suicide all over what goes on in the internet. As heartbreaking as comments can be, just turn it off. Go call and text your friends instead of talking to them online as that is what I do. I think the most important thing we should all learn is the difference between stranger, acquaintance, friend, and girlfriend/boyfriend. Depending on how long you know the person and whether or not the person was to invest more in you is what determines your chances of getting into a farther relationship.