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13 Feb 2023, 1:17 pm

Looks are sometimes important, especially in superficial contexts.

Frequently, though, “looks” are secondary to other characteristics, especially as people get to know each other better.



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13 Feb 2023, 5:54 pm

Well when I first met my boyfriend Jerry he told me that he has seen pictures from my Disneyland trip last year and said I was "pretty" so appearance really DOES factor into dating or romantic relationships!



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13 Feb 2023, 9:36 pm

i do seem to attract men a lot without behaving a certain way
yes i wear a lot of makeup and style my hair but i dont do that to attract people i just do it because i like doing it..i even do it when im not going out the house.i just get enjoyment out of it .

but im impossible to live with so it takes a very understanding man to put up with me and most men wouldnt despite my looks

im impossible to work with too but as a bus driver i dont have to work with colleagues which is a relief

when i was born i was born 3 months early and even the doctor reckoned i might had a face deformity because i looked quite odd even for a premature baby
but i wasnt deformed and quickly developed my normal facial features around a month old or so

my sister is attractive but average looking like most people.and she has always been jealous of me for my looks even tho she is nt


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13 Feb 2023, 10:40 pm

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Maybe I should go to the gym for a few months in my life and get ripped just to see people's reaction. My looks are super-average but I do have my 6 feet 4 backing me up. Maybe I'd look like Hulk Hogan or something (wishful thinking).


:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

You are a damned good match for your wife.
You compliment each other.
You two support my position perfectly. 8)

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13 Feb 2023, 10:42 pm

auntblabby wrote:
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Maybe I should go to the gym for a few months in my life and get ripped just to see people's reaction. My looks are super-average but I do have my 6 feet 4 backing me up. Maybe I'd look like Hulk Hogan or something (wishful thinking).

problem with muscle bulking is that it becomes a lifestyle, you have to maintain that with continued vigorous strength training and proper diet with very little cheating allowed.


I prefer to exercise my brain.
Some "chicks" dig that. 8)



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13 Feb 2023, 10:56 pm

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Indeed. We need to keep in mind this thread seems to be intending to collect feedback from users making observations, ideally casting the widest net possible in the process.


I have a "lifetime" of observation to draw upon.
While there are exceptions to the rule, most couples find partners in their respective "physical leagues", in my considered opinion.



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13 Feb 2023, 11:04 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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I bet also if the guy with the same squirrel was ugly or fat or too skinny; no such comments would have existed, so no it’s not the squirrel’s effect ;).


Check what Joe90 said, she is a woman too and since you are obviously have something against men, you will find her words more credible than ours - and she perfectly nailed it. No matter what we say, you will keep trying to put us in a negative light.


My position is that BOTH men and women tend to prefer partners who are in a similar "physical league".
I have no idea why this GENDER WAR eventuated. :scratch:



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13 Feb 2023, 11:08 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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I bet also if the guy with the same squirrel was ugly or fat or too skinny; no such comments would have existed, so no it’s not the squirrel’s effect ;).


Check what Joe said, she is a woman too and since you are obviously have something against men, you will find her words more credible than ours. No matter what we say, you will keep trying to put us in a negative light.


I have nothing against men. I have made no anti-male posts. I’m not sure what you are talking about. Disagreeing with you does not mean that I dislike men.


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13 Feb 2023, 11:16 pm

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I never disagreed that “looks” could have something to do with attraction.

All I’m saying is that this sort of thread gives the impression that “average”-looking people have a decided disadvantage in the dating and romance domain. And this might deter people from seeking romance, might exacerbate loneliness, and/or encourage the formulation of idiot theories like “80% of women sleep with 20% of men.”

I don’t get oohs and ahhs and flirtatious comments when I post my picture. Yet I’ve had quite a few relationships, one engagement, and one marriage.

Nobody ever said “what a hunk” or whatever as a reaction to my avatar.”


I beg your pardon? <in a huff>
Haven't you been paying attention? <flutter eyelids> :heart: :mrgreen:

Average guys with average personalities ARE at a disadvantage.
PERSONALITY is the most important component in a healthy relationship, period. 8)



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13 Feb 2023, 11:16 pm

Let's be honest, if you're hot, you can get away with serious personality or behavioral flaws a lot easier compared to if you were average or ugly.

My cousin for example is very attractive and could always find a new boy with the snap of a finger. The problem is that she's very high strung, a hardcore alcoholic, has little to no hobbies and interests, and has the emotional intelligence of a 13 year old girl. But because she's hot, there will always be guys out there who want her.



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13 Feb 2023, 11:29 pm

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Let's be honest, if you're hot, you can get away with serious personality or behavioral flaws a lot easier compared to if you were average or ugly.

My cousin for example is very attractive and could always find a new boy with the snap of a finger. The problem is that she's very high strung, a hardcore alcoholic, has little to no hobbies and interests, and has the emotional intelligence of a 13 year old girl. But because she's hot, there will always be guys out there who want her.


I agree with the first part, but how long would the "relationship" last with the last part?

A "proper" relationship needs more than looks. 8)



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13 Feb 2023, 11:42 pm

I don't like the way people use the word "ugly" to describe people. Nobody's "ugly" really, and people who have deformed faces just look different or have a deformation, they're not ugly. I hate that word. It's cruel and offensive.

If I want to describe someone who doesn't attract me I just use the word "unattractive" (not to their face of course, even though it's only a matter of opinion but it's still insulting to be called unattractive to your face).


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13 Feb 2023, 11:42 pm

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Personal Preference:

(Sorry for speaking when Pepe isn't here but I think it's OK)
Twilight and I were stating a personal preference or opinion, when Pepe came on telling us big men are going to die earlier. I asked him to please not make it into a debate because we were still entitled to opinions. I had a feeling it was going to start being scientific, with data and info provided to show our opinions were somehow wrong / misguided. That's exactly what happened when we were given death date stats, and "proof" that our preferences weren't healthy. Then the bell curve information was provided in a condescending / smug way to prove the things we had already been saying (e.g., that all women can have different opinions.) I don't know what other purpose the bell curves were supposed to prove, except that Twilight and I were somehow wrong for saying the same thing Pepe was trying to say, but we were treated as being stupid for saying it first.


I don't take kindly to misrepresentation.
Most ppl know that.

As I said:
The "bell curve" was specifically introduced to indicate A VARIETY OF OPINIONS.
My point was that the BULK (pardon the pun) of PEOPLE prefer to connect with ppl in a similar "physical league".
If you want I can do the hard yakka and copy & paste where I said that.

There was never a gender war in my mind. <sigh>



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13 Feb 2023, 11:49 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

One can disagree with someone without finding the person you’re disagreeing with “substandard.”


"The hell you say!" 8O :mrgreen:



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14 Feb 2023, 7:38 am

Pepe wrote:
1986 wrote:
Maybe I should go to the gym for a few months in my life and get ripped just to see people's reaction. My looks are super-average but I do have my 6 feet 4 backing me up. Maybe I'd look like Hulk Hogan or something (wishful thinking).


:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

You are a damned good match for your wife.
You compliment each other.
You two support my position perfectly. 8)

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You dirty skunk! :lol: For the record I ran my photo through this AI attractiveness test and it came out at 6.1, with the mean score being 5.9. Can't get much more average than that.



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14 Feb 2023, 7:43 am

I’d probably get a “4.”

But at least I take showers :)