Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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that sounds like borderline personality disorder testing to me, they do a lot of testing peoples affection for them. Binge eating disorder is associated with BorderlinePD aswell so maybe they would be more likely to be over weight. I dont think all or most 'fat girls' do testing of peoples affection though.

Personally I think people can be good or bad independant of how they look or any other groupings/categories, I think its a mistake to think people are behaveing a certain way because of how they look, a false association.

It doesn't. Splenda is a good choice if you feel the need to use artificial sweetners, but the newest one on the market is stevia and it is supposed to be the absolute best. The advice I get from doctors is to use none at all. I just started drinking only water (for the most part) again.

For what it's worth, I agree, especially with that last statement. But could it be that an underlying cause of obesity is an underlying psychological disorder? If so, then saying that (most) overweight are b!tches is no longer an issue of false association, but of profiling.

In the case of my former love interest, the girl had two things going against her--she was lazy/inactive, and spoiled. And because she didn't care to understand the intricacies of real-life intimate relationships, particularly ME, everything that didn't magically and perfectly fall into place (no matter how insignificant) was cause for overreaction. IF this is a major psychological cause, rather than result, of obesity, then one can reasonably assume that BBWs in general won't be pleasant company.

I also had a temporary job with a lawyer who had that attitude. I'll never forget one day a large woman came in to talk to me about suing a school district that she had previously worked for. I was still fairly new at the time, so I smiled and said he might take her case. So not long after she went in to talk to him the guy LOST IT and went up one side and down another with this woman. It seems she'd been persistent after he'd already told her she didn't have a leg to stand on. She was NOT happy when she left.

So I asked him what happened. He very plainly said that the school district had already settled with her, that nobody wants to earn a bad reputation by going against a school district, and that the lady (I thought she was nice) was just after money she didn't have to work for. I said that she didn't come across to me like that. He said that she was fat (his words), and that fat women tend to be b!tches.

Now, he COULD be right. Up to that point I never looked at women as fat/skinny/whatever, but rather that people are just people, and I did start to notice certain patterns of behavior among his bankruptcy clientele (overweight women with 10+ kids living at home).

But on the other hand, he could be basing his attitude towards women in general upon his own negative experience. He married a pretty, young thing so skinny you could see what she was thinking. She ended up unsatisfied by this guy's lifestyle, cheated on him, got into some exotic drug use, and her husband (the lawyer) took her to the cleaners, basically ensuring she'd never really have any kind of quality of life. Can't say I blame him. But along with that came just letting herself go physically, and the only time I ever saw the lady was when I was working on a Social Security Administration brief that she researched. I'm a kinda big guy myself, and she HAD to be twice as heavy as me. Compared with the photo I'd seen, she couldn't have even been the same person. No recognizable features at all. Probably due to the ravages of time and irresponsible behavior. And I think because he loved her so much and because the experience was really traumatic for him, he came to lump all obese women together--you know, they're ALL just alike.

I like sugar @_@

I wouldn't be against trying stevia though, at least it's not artificial.

A girl who is just a bit thick is actually more attractive to me than one who is skinny, on the mean. I kind of like the idea of a girl being a bit of a physical challenge to me, and it wouldn't take much because despite my height I am a weakling.

Obesity, however, isn't attractive.

Awww, thanks. I'm not sure what magazines like the short and pudgy but it's the thought that counts.

@SabbraCadabra - I like sugar too. It's one of my weaknesses. D:

Well, the other option is gluten free or low carb diets (I've done the latter, lost quite a bit, but hit a damn plateau after 6 months). Sadly, once you get off of low-carb, your metabolism gets shot to hell (had trouble losing weight since). That aside, I recall one site researching obesity and they think it's one of two things: viral or allergic. That's why gluten free exists because those allergic to "sugars" can still fulfill their sweet tooth . . . sticking with it, however, can be expensive.

With respect to the "stigma of obesity," and i have a bit of a gut too, it's media programming as a result of our plastic society. In many shows, the "heavy woman," is portrayed as wanting to be skinny, and sour because of hurdles. Or, she is someone who no longer cares, and goes through life almost alone. The only time you see the triumphs of the heavyset is in movies or comedies, which is insulting. Hell, Paul Giamatti was passed up for an Emmy just because he didn't look as good as Tom Cruise (and we all know Tom was never a good lead actor). You could call America a Book Cover society since that's how it goes about judging folks . . . few take the effort to read the story. "If it looks good, it must be good," is the damning motto these days. I'll end the rant there.

I agree. :/

As a writer who is also pudgy, sometimes I get discouraged thinking that no one will ever read my books or try to get to know me better because of the "Book cover" mentality. Finding a boyfriend in college is almost impossible because so many of them are shallow pricks. Even the intelligent ones go for the skinny girls with no brains or personality and it's so frustrating. >.<

Also, I was never a Tom Cruise fan. He's weird and an overrated actor.

At least where I'm from fat girls have it good. The stereotype is that fat ex-goths get all the skinny nerdy guys, myself included.

Where are you from? I might have to move. Pennsylvania boys are either abusive jerks or momma's boys incapable of making a decision for themselves. D:

I'm not ex-goth. I'm a nerdy renaissance chick. The only guys that would go for me would be those in the Renaissance Club and most of them are taken already or not my type. XD

Those guys won't always be taken, people never get along forever.

But even then, would they want me? They are still NTs after all. Even aspie men have rejected me so I just don't know.

You mite be asking the wrong Aspie men out. I can think of a few here who probably would NOT reject you

I've only known two aspie men and one is a very close friend and is almost like a brother so that'll be weird. The other accused me of being a stalker and never spoke to me again when I've done nothing of the sort. Then again, his roomies tend to think that he's not actually an aspie but inflicted with narcissism personality disorder which seems about right. :/

There's lots of guys on this site thou who would love it if any women showed interest in us. Maybe you should try meeting guys here

I guess I have a stigma with online dating too. My dad met his 2nd and 3rd wife from the internet and they were complete psychopaths. One made my brother and I sleep in the attic.