Most Aspie men are in over their heads with dating.

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I don't even know where to begin on picking this one apart - its too late here.

All I can say for now is all these butthurt men who cant get a GF, who post on forums and blogs about what they think "femenists" are, and how its the womans fault they can't get any, really only need to look in one place, and it's here:

Please don't take that statement literally.
Its reflecting the person, even if you only see with your eyes the apperance.

Physical apperance is a very low priority of mine.

Personally, I think it's not so much feminism that's the issue as to why it's difficult for Aspies or others who find it hard to form relationships with the opposite sex. If feminism has had any influence I think it's only as part of the wider individualistic culture, feminism only being one feature of that. But I think it's the wider individualism that's more to blame, a culture that encourages a self-oriented "me me me" attitude where people go their own way and much altruism has been lost. A culture that's not unique to America above all countries, rather it's the English speaking world above all countries.

Also, as an Aspie with the social skills deficits I have, I know these deficits far outweigh feminism as a reason for why I'm chronically single.

I think there is something to be said for going down the foreign dating route, as countries like Mexico and others outside the femisphere are not as individualistic as the US or other English speaking countries and have more traditional family/community values.

And I'd be interested in your views on this, fs, but I also think people in America shouldn't need to leave America, if they look into the right parts of America. Many Americans who post here, and on other sites, about feminism and how difficult it is for them to find a partner live in the more urban, cosmopolitan and liberal parts of the US, where things are a lot more individualistic. That is the type of America many of them have experience with. Although it's only online that I've been able to form relationships with women, and online relationships don't work, it's at least given me clear clues that the red states or rural areas or areas off the beaten track are the parts of America to look into. That tends to be where the women I've met online are from.

Unfortunately I don't think anything in the UK is in comparison with the types of areas the American women I formed relationships with are from.

Keeno, you make a very interesting point about individualism. But let me answer your easier question first. While women (and people generally) in small towns are friendlier than people in big cities, I personally would not recommend American women from anywhere. The legal system, the language (meaning media), and the education system are fairly uniform across the country, and all are dominated for the same culture. I have been to small towns America and there is just no comparison between women there and women in non-feminist cultures.

I am active on anti-feminist forums and I have been pushing the point that individualism is largely to blame. But what is happening here is a self-reinforcing loop. Individualism promotes feminism and feminism promotes individualism. So they are two side of the same thing, until society finally collapses and feminism becomes irrelevant.

Historically, successful cultures start as tribes where the men of the tribe are unified and cooperate, and where individualism is seen as selfishness. Since the men are unified, they enforce patriarchy and monogamy. This guarantees that each man has a wife and so has a vested interest in the tribe. Once the tribe becomes successful and becomes an empire, the bonds holding men together lose traction and individualism takes over. As a result, men lose control of women who also express individualistic selfishness in the form of feminism. But this feminism, which is primary about removing sexual restraints on women, in turn destroys whatever little unity and integrity is left in men. This is because women flaunt their sexuality and encourage men to compete for them. So men start stabbing each other in the back to get sex. This is how cultures collapse. Once the culture does collapse, feminism disappears since women once again need men for protection. Women are again forced to try to get a man to commit to her, and so start considering chastity and other things that men value.

Most societies today outside of the feminist world are basically in the culturally collapsed state. Feminism doesn't exist because society has disintegrated and can no longer support it. But individualism remains and men do not cooperate, so these societies do not function well.

b9, if you do watch the movie "Arranged", please let me know what you think. I think it would help you understand my point of view.