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15 May 2013, 2:59 am

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When did I ever say that it guarantees they will both love each other? I never said that. I even gave you examples of how I was heartbroken and betrayed. So now, you baffle me. Of course it doesn't always work out, but so what? As long as I am in a committed and loving relationship(and as long as the other person agrees to this understanding) is all I care about. Anyhow I have already expressed my opinion about this all. You have expressed yours. I think we should let other people express their opinion on the matter now without judgement.


Why this post sounds to me like "Shut up, I no longer want to hear you" ?

Judgement? what judgement?



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15 May 2013, 3:00 am

:D I backed up my claim because why wouldn't I? Some good research right there. ^ let's put this to rest we already know how we feel about all of it.


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15 May 2013, 3:01 am

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And the research does show indeed that people do expereince issues with it in the majority percentage which is why I showed it.


I thought you were just expressing your personal preferences. You don't need research to express a personal preference. You only need research when you are trying to judge others and argue that your way is "superior."

The fact that you quoted statistics makes me feel judged and attacked, so no, I am not going to just stop.



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15 May 2013, 3:02 am

If you feel the need to discuss it further, feel free to message me. I don't think it's allowed to argue in circles like this on the forums.


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15 May 2013, 3:03 am

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:D I backed up my claim because why wouldn't I? Some good research right there. ^ let's put this to rest we already know how we feel about all of it.


You have no idea what I feel about love and long term, you are the one who's implying a sous-entendu judgement.



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15 May 2013, 3:05 am

^I meant how you feel about FWB(you feel okay with it). I know nothing of your love life. Sorry for the misunderstanding. KAY!


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15 May 2013, 3:05 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cakey wrote:
:D I backed up my claim because why wouldn't I? Some good research right there. ^ let's put this to rest we already know how we feel about all of it.


You have no idea what I feel about love and long term, you are the one who's implying a sous-entendu judgement.


What does sous-entendu mean?


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15 May 2013, 3:10 am

As has been said, to me FWB demonstrates a shift in attitudes towards relationships

Before the church came along and started the concept of marriage, people lived in a much more FWB-type way so it's as if the conditioning of the church is wearing off

marriage will still continue to exist but other models of relationship/interaction have developed as alternatives

It's only if you see life within a religion-based ideological framework that FWBs are 'wrong'

and I say that as a Christian who has no time for repressive rules that are more about control than wanting to be a good person


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15 May 2013, 3:17 am

nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cakey wrote:
:D I backed up my claim because why wouldn't I? Some good research right there. ^ let's put this to rest we already know how we feel about all of it.


You have no idea what I feel about love and long term, you are the one who's implying a sous-entendu judgement.


What does sous-entendu mean?


implied, innuendo...something like that



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15 May 2013, 3:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cakey wrote:
:D I backed up my claim because why wouldn't I? Some good research right there. ^ let's put this to rest we already know how we feel about all of it.


You have no idea what I feel about love and long term, you are the one who's implying a sous-entendu judgement.


What does sous-entendu mean?


implied, innuendo...something like that


I get it now - 'sous' means 'under' in French, so it's the 'underneath' meaning

Never heard that phrase before though

I love learning a new word or phrase!


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15 May 2013, 3:36 am

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As has been said, to me FWB demonstrates a shift in attitudes towards relationships

Before the church came along and started the concept of marriage, people lived in a much more FWB-type way so it's as if the conditioning of the church is wearing off

marriage will still continue to exist but other models of relationship/interaction have developed as alternatives

It's only if you see life within a religion-based ideological framework that FWBs are 'wrong'

and I say that as a Christian who has no time for repressive rules that are more about control than wanting to be a good person


In the religion I was born with ( Shia Islam, atheist now), there's the concept of 'temporary marriage', called 'pleasure marriage' - it is a legal form of FWB (with nonsense conditions).



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15 May 2013, 3:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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As has been said, to me FWB demonstrates a shift in attitudes towards relationships

Before the church came along and started the concept of marriage, people lived in a much more FWB-type way so it's as if the conditioning of the church is wearing off

marriage will still continue to exist but other models of relationship/interaction have developed as alternatives

It's only if you see life within a religion-based ideological framework that FWBs are 'wrong'

and I say that as a Christian who has no time for repressive rules that are more about control than wanting to be a good person


In the religion I was born with ( Shia Islam, atheist now), there's the concept of 'temporary marriage', called 'pleasure marriage' - it is a legal form of FWB (with nonsense conditions).


It sounds like an enlightened idea


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15 May 2013, 5:20 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
As has been said, to me FWB demonstrates a shift in attitudes towards relationships

Before the church came along and started the concept of marriage, people lived in a much more FWB-type way so it's as if the conditioning of the church is wearing off

marriage will still continue to exist but other models of relationship/interaction have developed as alternatives

It's only if you see life within a religion-based ideological framework that FWBs are 'wrong'

and I say that as a Christian who has no time for repressive rules that are more about control than wanting to be a good person


In the religion I was born with ( Shia Islam, atheist now), there's the concept of 'temporary marriage', called 'pleasure marriage' - it is a legal form of FWB (with nonsense conditions).


It sounds like an enlightened idea


Yes and no.



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15 May 2013, 5:46 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
As has been said, to me FWB demonstrates a shift in attitudes towards relationships

Before the church came along and started the concept of marriage, people lived in a much more FWB-type way so it's as if the conditioning of the church is wearing off

marriage will still continue to exist but other models of relationship/interaction have developed as alternatives

It's only if you see life within a religion-based ideological framework that FWBs are 'wrong'

and I say that as a Christian who has no time for repressive rules that are more about control than wanting to be a good person


In the religion I was born with ( Shia Islam, atheist now), there's the concept of 'temporary marriage', called 'pleasure marriage' - it is a legal form of FWB (with nonsense conditions).


It sounds like an enlightened idea


Yes and no.


What's the downside of it?


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15 May 2013, 6:06 am

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What about the FWB people that don't make you join the club? Are they okay?


Yes, I said twice that I'm ok with people that are into a friendship with benefits if they don't try to sell me that option constantly. There were men I dated that tried to make me a friend with benefits but I was not interested. They tried to convince me. it's like if saying that I don't like the FWB offended them.

I know BanjoGirl, it's strange that although we all keep repeating how we are fine with other people's FWB option, they still keep trying to say we are somehow against them. It's a never-ending battle! But all well! :lol:


So true. It seems that there is only one valid opinion here :?


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15 May 2013, 6:17 am

^ it's you and cakey who sounded offended the most to be honest.
Plus FWB people aren't necessarily anti-marriage/LT.