Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
I don't buy that the polyamory is connected to neurodiversity. Polyamorous people tend to be highly gregarious and so they have a lot of opportunity to find new/additional partners.
That's why we would expect to see a negative correlation between neurodiversity and polyamory, but the reality is that there is a positive correlation. Because many neurodiverse people have trouble finding one partner, the correlation is a lot higher than it seems to be.
If you buy it or not is not interesting. I've proved there is a positive correlation in multiple large datasets.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Neurodiverse people can and often DO seek out strong emotional attachments to other people. Being non-monogamous requires a high degree of emotional multitasking that most Aspies aren't capable of.
No, it doesn't. Polyamory doesn't work like that. For monogamous people, multiple attachments would compete with each others, and require "multitasking", but this never happens because they end one of them. For polyamorous people the attachments won't compete and can live side-by-side. That's how you know you are truely polyamory: If you can form a second attachment and it doesn't compete with your first, then you know you are polyamory.
Of course, this relates to the attachment process in neurodiversity. The problem with breaking attachments has everything to do with polyamory, because if you realize you are polyamory, you can just keep the old attachment and continue with a new one. If you are monogamous you need to get your ex out of your system because the attachments compete.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
I suspect you theorize this because you think that limited empathy enables neurodiverse people to view sex as a purely physical act without the need for an emotional connection.....
Not at all. I view asexual polyamory as the Neanderthal relationship behavior.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
But in practice it doesn't work like that. Non-monogamy is strong correlated with other mental disorders like bipolar and borderline, which do not by themselves impair social skills.
Aren't you arguing against yourself now? Bipolar is part of neurodiversity.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Which is entirely correct. And that's why any hypotheses about their sexual behavior and culture in the absence of any written records left by them are purely speculative other than the fact that they did indeed have tool making and left grave goods.
No need. If enough relationship behaviors can be linked and shown to form a consistent "package", it's highly unlikely it could be part of / a variant of the typical relationship behavior.