Why are women so desperate for men?

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I'm female and have been officially single for 13 years. Love it, wouldn't have it any other way.

But don’t you talk about being with guys ? 0.o

Willingly single is probably happier then forced single. But that’s same with anything. People enjoy willingly doing stuff but not forced to.

Those weren’t official relationships, and I was very unhappy in all of them. Having low self esteem meant you gravitated to the most abusive, horrible natured people. They put me off romantic involvement for life, and I’m extremely grateful that I at least learned, finally, what I don’t want. Better to be alone than with someone who treats you like trash.

Same for men. Many men can't live without a woman. In fact, in my observation, men get more upset and more depressed about being single than women do. But the fact of the matter is, some people really just don't like being alone. For some people, being alone is one of the worst things in the world for them, and even a toxic relationship is more appealing to them than being alone. As for break ups, in my observation men take break ups harder than women. As to why are women so clingy....some women are clingy, as well as some men, but when men are clingy, society doesn't call them clingy, society calls them "possessive" and "jealous".



I'm not sure where you get this idea. I think how quickly people start to consider marriage depends on many factors, such as how much they like the other person, their age, and where they are in life. For example, in one's early 20's, in the west, most men and women are not ready for marriage and would not, at that point in their lives, consider marrying their partner. Men tend to start thinking about marriage slightly past their mid 20's, which is when women tend to also start thinking about marriage, and people in their late 30s, both men and women, are more likely to be looking for marriage. When I go on dating sites, most of the men in my dating pool are in their mid to late 40s and are looking for marriage. The difference is, a women in their 30s who want children may, on average be looking for marriage more than a man in his 30s who eventually wants children, because she has less time to have children, so she may be more likely to want to get to the point, whereas a man may feel he has more time to "play the field".



In my observation, women who are clingy are more likely to find a man and marry him. I preset as evidence, myself vs. women with borderline personality disorder.

I'm not a clingy person. I prefer a lot of time to myself. Women with borderline personality disorder are the epitome of clingy because people with borderline personality disorder rely on others to give them a sense of self. People with borderline personality disorder also tend to create stormy, toxic, abusive relationships due to their emotionality, paranoia, and perpetual fear of abandonment. I'm sure you have hear of those women who stay with abusive men who hit them and wonder why (some of these women have BPD but that's not what I'm getting at) there is a parallel for men. Men who stay with abusive women with BPD.

On this message bored, most of the people posting about the problems they have with their spouses are women with partners they think have AS.

However there are message boards geared towards BPD where most of the people posting about their spouses are men who believe their wives have BPD. After reading some of the horrors these men have been subjected to, one starts to ask "Why do these men stay with these abusive women". The men provide an answer to this question. Because, via their clingyness, the women made the men feel like they were the most important person in the world, and the attention they bestowed upon the men made the men absolutely enamored with them.

The lesson: Women who give men a lot of emotional and sexual attention don't have a hard time getting men for any type of relationship.

I'm going to be single for a long time.

Yeah, you are completely right. I've been without a girlfriend since HS (I'll be 35 in May) and I have to say I'm a very very lonely individual. I've been depressed for a long time, and having a woman around me I've felt is about the only thing that honestly makes me feel happy. For a long time the only thing I truly wanted since HS is a life-time female partner, but once they start to get to know the real me, they often times just see me as desperate or very lonely, clingy, weird or "too passive". It honestly sucks being alone, and I just want to find someone. I don't want to grow up into a depressed old man like my father is.

^ There is just as many women who are single as men, though they probably aren’t as desperate.

Biology dictates that it’s a 50/50 split between males and females. Like I said, the men wanting more sex likely causes the balance to skew.

A desperate woman might date a man who is essentially using her for sex in the form of a fake relationship. Really common.

Sucks for guys who genuinely want one.

That's because they killed so many female infants.

There are more women in the world because women live longer. If the birth rate is roughly equal and women live 10% longer than means there will be 10% more women at any given time.

Yes there are male sets of twins. There are also female sets of twins and mixed sets of twins. I don't see how multiple births will lead to more males.