How to talk to Asian girls?

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Since the topic was originally about White boys who are attracted to Asian girls and want some advice for pick-up lines: would a White boy stand a chance in India of finding a traditional wife, or would the girl's family just scoff and send him away? Even if he offered a reverse dowry? Based on some of the articles that you posted, it seems like it could be quite dangerous for both him and the girl, if he (and she) didn't approach it right.

My ex's family must have been extremely progressive.

He is Indian from Mumbai. He came to the USA for University and then to work. I met him while we were both in Uni. At first, he was terrified to tell his family about me (I'm not Indian and not a girl.....) but he finally got the courage after a year and guess what... they accepted me after getting to know me. I think his mom accepted me because I am just like a girl, I look like one and did all the domestic things. I did everything a "wife" traditionally does, including keeping murthis and everything properly; I learned puja, too. So I was like a female substitute. That doesn't offend me or bother me whatsoever since I like doing all those things. Anyway, I went to India to meet his family and they were the most loving and kind people I've ever known. I didn't have a family growing up, especially not a mother, so I became close with his mom. We traveled the country together and I lived as a regular Indian person for a while. Those are still the most precious memories of my entire life. When I was in India, I felt loved and accepted just as I am. I know a lot of it is because the neighbors probably thought I was a girl and Mumbai is more progressive than other places in India. But a lot of it had to do with my personality. Before my mom passed, she raised me according to strict Japanese tradition and there is a similarity in thinking across all Asian cultures. I blended very naturally with Indian culture without much effort. I also treated their son very well (he's the first born male so that's important).

I don't know, maybe I was just lucky that his family was so open minded.

Sadly, my ex treated me terribly and we went our separate ways after 6 years. But the story has a happy ending. His parents found out everything he'd done to me and really laid into him. I think a month after I moved out, he started to realize that I was really leaving and was devastated. He'd always been spoiled and got whatever he wanted so it was a shock to him. He completely changed as a person and I am extremely proud of him. Most people never admit their shortcomings and never change. He really did and I'm his friend now. He got his citizenship just a couple months ago and I'm very happy for him. I also learned a lot about myself through that relationship and am better for it.

I rambled a bit, but my point was to describe the open-mindedness of the Indians I knew and came across in Mumbai. I miss his family so much, I cannot even tell you.

On a side note, I feel very "third gender" and so I was VERY nice to the hijra when I saw them in Mumbai. I understood them in some way.

That's terrible.

I've heard of rich Arab men going to countries like Pakistan and Bangladesh to add wives to their harems (they can have up to four), but I never heard of them marrying a girl just to abandon her. The poor girl's life must be ruined.