For guys who are having zero replies on okcupid....

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I deleted it it because I'm in a relationship and don't really want to be bothered by people who want a relationship, haha. I put in a relationship, but people aren't getting the message. I think I may end up deactivating it after all.

At the beach of course, if you have one.

Outside has better lighting & taking a picture out at a pool or beach let's you show some skin without looking so much like a douchebro.
And pictures taken out and about can make you seem more personable/interesting than similar pictures taken with a webcam or in the bathroom by yourself.

I think if you're going to have a topless picture, that is a good modification.

No pictures of skulking topless in boom closets? Totally not creepy at all!

What if like all your pictures of you are out and about? Does it seem like you're "trying too hard" then?

i dont think so. Now if you're out and about posing and all dolled up then yes. But if theyre just pics with friends and whatnot basic things and maybe 1 posing then it should be almost ideal

I think "candid" photos or pictures of you posing on a hike or trip or something look a lot less like "trying too hard" than perfectly angled bathroom self portraits do.

well? i got 3 quivers so far not sure what it means though and like 10 visitors.

Interesting point, I took my profile picture in the bathroom by myself. I don't see what's wrong with posing your body because it shows confidence but I feel like you get the impression it's something an exhibitionist would do? would my photos come across as trying too hard for you?

Wolfheart, this is no place for stripping.

Quivers are like "best matches" chosen by the system.

My quivers are always Israelis ...... what a stupid robot.

I understand that but her answers specifically related to me and how she keeps saying that taking photos of yourself somehow qualifies someone as a douchebag. I don't see how it makes someone a douche.

If you've spent hours working for a good body or hours working a job to buy a nice car, what is wrong with showing it? why do people assume it's a sign of a douche? It's an achievement if anything. If you worked hard making a model ship or rennovating your house and posted photos of it, people wouldn't assume it's a sign of a douche.

I guess it's douche to act like anything is the best thing since sliced bread but if you're doing it for achievement or motivation purposes, what's wrong with it? If I see someone that became wealthy and they earned that wealth from nothing, it's more respectable as opposed to someone who inherited or stole that wealth.

To me it is a statement of what you value most about yourself. You are asked to post a picture of yourself on a dating website, basically so people can get some sort of idea of what you look like and whether you might be their type. Some women might think it is very important that a guy have a suitable chest/abs before she dates him, and so for those individuals, this is a good approach. If you want to date a woman who thinks this way, then go for it.

Similarly, if you want to date someone who highly values material things like nice cars, post a picture of the car.

If you want to date someone who just wants to get a general idea of what you look like, and learn about the rest of you later, and who values personality more than possessions, then skip these photos. Yes, I would get turned off by both a pic that was showing off your chest/abs AND a pic that was clearly showing off your nice car. They are quite similar approaches, IMO.

And...something that you built, like a model ship or a renovated house? Yep, I don't need to see those things either. Sure, you can show me later when we meet up if you like, but posting pics on your profile is just needless showing off. I just want to see what you look like with clothes on. That's all I need to know, visually, for now. You can write in your profile that you like renovating houses. That's telling me what sort of activities you like but not going to the level of boasting that a pic seems to take it. To me there is a difference between "I'm the sort of person who likes to work hard building model ships" and "You should see my model ship, I want you to see how awesome it is".

That's you and you are of the few.

In general, a peacock has to show off his c.... co... :O


...colorful feathers!

But I'm such a good catch!!

And so what?

So am I , you know that.