Serious issues with L&D Forum

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I think moving the problem to the Haven is a bad idea, its atmosphere would change if it had to be moderated more strictly, which might have an indirect censoring effect on how other people post in that sub forum. How about a mod edit to the problem thread titles in L&D indicating that they are a reoccurring rant?

We'll have to agree to disagree. Hunting for a partner is counter productive.

agreed. it is indeed a mixed bag idea, however, possibly a trial to see how it works? in my experience any sites i have been on where this is a feature appears to inhibit squabbling, rather than the reverse. with that said, going by some posters here, i think an opportunity to actually air things out would be beneficial.



pointless, incendiary and tasteless post.

the purpose of posting an inflammatory remark like this on this thread, is? if you really must engage in this type of puerile behaviour (ignore list circulating amongst the men? seriously? you for real?) this comment could not have been sent privately via PM, or was the point to be passive-offensive? how exactly, does this comment address the point of the thread?

even worse to me is the fact that this blatant bit of rudeness, wasn't deemed worthy of comment by other posters.

that said, your comments get better



really? REALLY? on a thread where opinions are sought, you would DARE to demean someone else's contribution by calling it "nonsense?"



here you go again! i'm all for freedom of expression but with that comes responsibilities...among other things it's called having some common decency and manners. if an opinion is expressed that you disagree with, fair enough, but, to ridicule, belittle, misconstrue and exaggerate another's opinions and views is surely part of the problem that everyone is discussing here?

or is L&D your personal playground and i didn't get the memo?



agreed.

Counter-productive if you don't want a partner that is. If nobody hunted for a partner then nobody would ever have a partner, not even a bf/gf let alone get married. The whole idea about dating is hunting for a partner. But suit yourself then.

Don't address me boofle, I don't want to speak with you.

I think Boo reviewing all the threads on the first page was a good way to help us identify the problem and how big a problem it is. If you were to judge just from the first page, anything that has gotten too out of hand was dealt with accordingly, although people will lead you to believe otherwise.

Yes, there are means in which this subfofum could be better moderated but it's not that bad. I suppose if you lived here all day and did nothing but try and win arguments in empty rooms against your ego-rival or the gender you dislike, then yes you will believe this is a bad place and your bubble that you live in could be popped.

I think some sensible ideas have been discussed here. Some ludicrous ones. And a lot of off topic ego-wars in between. At this point I think it is best to leave it up to Alex and the moderators to determine amongst themselves how "serious" the issues are for mods in L&D and for us to take a back seat.

I don't know about you guys, but I normally come in here just because of the drama and I imagine many others visit for the same reason. The people who shout the loudest here tend to be the most entertaining people, at times because their mindset is too extreme to work in real world situations and at other times because the generalisations made or uber-liberal karma-chasing are worthy of The Onion or College Humor. Nonetheless, these people should be allowed to air their views, and the mods should have the right to apply the house rules onto them. This as far as I can see is happening already so I therefore fail to see the big deal everyone is making.

Believe it or not, this is just a sub forum, in a main forum, out of millions of forums on the Internet, and even if we limit our scope to WrongPlanet, we're not a big deal. I think everyone just needs to get over themselves, give the mods less work to do and maybe apply a couple of minor changes if need be.

I like your mind, Amity; here I admit it now.

But I guess you already know that.

LOL boo I have to say "I'm not not talking to you, don't address/reply to me" remind me of certain users who have tried that tactic becuase they don't want their post to be criticised.

I'm kind of surprised you are going that route. I have no problem with you ignoring people though, I jsut don't get why you are taking issue with people quoting you. You can't control that.

awww shucks...how will i ever recover from this crushing blow?

Neither can you...
Muahaha!

I agree and that was smart of boo to compile that. It is basically what we have been sayign all along.

Maybe it's counterproductive for you but it's productive for many other people so stop making sweeping generalisations.

Trust me that I don't find anyone unless I look. Waiting to bump into someone works for some but not for al so to say your way is the only way that works is a gross generalisation of the whole human race.

This is is supposed to be an inclusive place for people on the ASD so to have a sweeping rule that excludes most of the ASD population is contrary to the goals and principles of the forum.

Also aspies are as different from each other as they are from NTs so to make the conform to a narrow box of strict rules would be harmful in the extreme.

Remember that aspies already have to put up with people trying to make them into something they're not in the real world so why do that here as well?

If you try to create a safe space for someone you might be taking a safe space away from someone else. To say that we all need a strict set of rules is a generalisation.


L&D is a place for people to learn, not a place for people to be controlled by strict idealogues. This is not a place for you to play your power games.

To say that all single people without a specific crush are bad is also a generalisation that harms both men and women.

The L&D board is a place to give and receive relationship advice, it is not a place for people to start debates about gender politics. If that's what you want go to the PPR board.

Sometimes you learn something good from your foes .

And yes, I can control it, if they keep bugging me, I just ask them to leave me alone, if they keep at it, then I report their posts.

I complied to proof how much the problem is exaggerated hyperbolically.

I guess even alex doesn't realize that, he is not active as a user in this forum, so I bet he is forming his opinion based on what some others are telling him, and I bet those others are the same ones who stir drama the most.

I am afraid that alex is being misinformed by others, receiving hyperbolic rumors.

But my list of threads is an objective sample, I hope alex will consider it.

Don't speak with me, next time you do it and I report you for harrassement.

Ok boo I get why you are doing this to make a point about those that might use this tactic. However the better point in this thread was about "serious issues" being exaggerated, which you have provided evidence.

I would save this for another thread, maybe approach differently. So that you get clearer messages in each.