Are most men struggling to get healthy weight women?

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Could it be that you aren't spending enough time reading profiles. Some profiles indicated women are upset by men who, in their opinion, can't be bothered to read a profile before sending an email. Or maybe you aren't enough spending enough time writing emails? Women want to feel special. A generic "one size fits all email" may be offensive.
Finally, online dating is tough for everyone. Your frustration may be showing. Some time out may be in order.

I always read female profiles. Firstly I check her pics to get a grasp of her body weight, etc, then I read the profile.

- If her profile reads high maintenance I move on.
- If she spews the same old line "Where are all the good men gone", I move on (the good men are out there, there just not as hot or as tall and high status as she would like)
- If she says "where are all the handsome men?" in her heading, I move on, because from experience they only want male models looking guys to contact them.
- Any use of ghetto language or Jamaican patois then I move on (such as the use of "youzz knowz, babezzz xxxxx"" etc)
- Any height requirements I move on. Huge red flag when a woman demands 6ft+ when she's just 5ft5 or so.
- Single mothers who put the line "my kids mean more to me than anybody" is another red flag. From experience it just means any guy in her life is an accessory.

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If I like her profile, I will doctor a message to include what I like about her profile.

I think I'm no different to any other guy. There are immature guys that send offensive like "you look fit babe. Would bang". But I'm not like that. Never have been.

It occurs to me that if you were to monetize a cure for weight gain in the UK you could be a billionaire.

It doesn't matter; they have super alien powers. They can read your mind and your future just by looking at you.

Oooo scary.

But the thing is, if women really have this magical woman-powers then why this guy was getting matches on tinder:
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Their powers totally failed to detect that he is a psycho.

Why does an 'ideal body' have to be imperfection free? Perhaps people get carried away with what an ideal body has to be...they want a fantasy body not a real attainable body.

Plenty do seem to know that, but some guys certainly do value looks of women more than anything else about them, and even will sort of treat women they deem to be 'unattractive' as lesser people...rather than simply treating them as people they aren't romantically interested in. They'll likely even scare off the attractive ones one they realize the guy is viewing them as just eye candy and not a person.

IDK based on this response I wouldn't be surprised if maybe they do sense a little bit of stuck up/superiority complex attitude from you. I get it you don't like that poster thinks maybe people could pick up on your attitude online...but its certainly not that terribly out there of a possibility.

Also the way you worded that seems to imply you think women are generally irrational and illogical, that is an example of how people can sense your attitude on-line.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 06 Mar 2017, 1:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yes at 5'4" she'd likely be significantly fatter than a 5'10" guy especially if she has a small frame. Your initial statement was a lot more vauge....so wasn't sure you were considering factors like height or frame size.

Meanwhile..... a lot of "BBW" want want tall and fit to accept them, but they laugh at short men.


Profile full of red flags, drug addict...horrible....but I was curious to know what's BBW there, I forgot what it is.


This time I am not cropping anything so Sweetleaf doesn't accuse me again of creating those.














Hmmm.... this gives me an idea of an experiment, I am gonna message overweight/MoreToLove/Overweight women and check the attitude they demand from men toward their over weight VS their own attitude toward shortness in men, I already have an idea of past experiences but it will be interesting to make a showcase of this....double standard attitude.

Let's see if they adopt what they preach against body shaming (hint: most of the ones I met online didn't so far).

alright do it then...lol

Also all this copy past shows is that you take anything regarding your height way too personal, or you just really weren't into this girl to begin with so were planning to abruptly end the interaction in the first place. All she did was agree with you that you're short after you told her what your acronym meant.....you didn't even give a chance for her to say anything mean/insulting about it or reject you on the basis you just immediately assumed she would.

I shouldn't care but it looks like you just blew an opportunity to me....she probably didn't know you were so sensitive about your height since you were the who brought it up and was joking about an acronym for it.

You didn't even give this one a chance to show if they adopt what they preach against body shaming or not...

^ Oh Sweetleaf, you do have a point actually... she only said 'lol' but:

I have used my men-superpowers and I was able to "sense" her "attitude" regarding short men.

You see, not only you women have such powers in detecting shallow attitudes in men; we have similar powers too!

Blowing an opportunity?
What opportunity?
Are you serious?

Did you see her profile's description? She admits she uses drugs and she does sound like drug-filled; no thanks; her weight is the least problem really; I am better than that.

Yes looks like things could have went in the direction of a date at least, and looks like you yourself blew it. Guess it doesn't really matter if you weren't interested in the first place though.

Also though I am confused people are supposed to judge these girls you messege very negatively, yet you're the one doing 'experiments' be leading women on. Granted guess not too much harm is done if you stop the communication before meeting them in person, but it doesn't exactly make you look like the good guy and them look like the bad guy...when you're being insincere with them in the first place just to get their reactions so you can use them for generalizations about women. I have to assume this sometimes skews the way you interact with them since you're focused on getting certain reactions to prove certain points.

For proper statistic collection you can't be so personally invested, have to be much more objective to minimize skewing of the results.

A "date at least".

You are funny, Sweetleaf.

I thought that was usually the purpose of online dating.

Of course you didn't even like her anyways, too incompatible of lifestyle with the drug use, so I suppose if she had suggested meeting in person you would have turned her down anyways even if she didn't see your height as an issue.

So I guess you didn't actually blow it since its not what you wanted.

Today, I saw a rather "rotund" woman in the street. She was fairly short. I would say she was pushing 200 lbs.

She had a pretty face. And she moved around in a feminine manner. I liked how she looked.

If I wasn't taken, I would have been tempted to try to date her.