"You need to work on yourself!"

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Why does it matter that he didnt tell you to do something you're not actually interested in? That's not hypocrisy. He's suggesting that's within your grasp and that might interest you.

You're just nit picking for the sake of it here. Just go and have a look at the college prospectus and see if anything interests you.

It's not within my grasp, though. I don't have any sort of skills relating to trades and I am not good with my hands.

I have taken college courses but I couldn't find my niche and I was socially frustrated because I kept seeing couples everywhere on the campus and I got "f**k off" signals from people whenever I tried to engage with them socially.

I don't believe that people have niches or callings.

Maybe a small few who have passions in certain fields.

People are rarely naturally gifted at things.

Is there nothing in the prospectus that catches your eye? I chose my course by accident, just flicking through a brochure. It IT stuff. I went on and did years 2 and 3 after that because it was really interesting. But it's also given me useful skills to use in my jobs.

Sometimes it's the fact that you showed perseverance in working hard to gain a qualification is what impresses employers.

I went to an entry level junior college and I had no idea about trades. I took an accuplacer and had to do mandatory remedial math since I failed the math portion of the stupid thing. I could only take one other course in addition to the math but my difficulties with math stressed me out and the stress carried over to any other course I was taking. I flunked the math course a few times and got low grades in the other courses which meant I got low credits. I just focused on the math after a year and it took me until August of that year to finally pass it to where it was no longer mandatory to take it unless I wanted an associate's degree but I was extremely burned out by then because of severe stress, an unrequited love spell, and dead ends in trying online dating. I just wanted to die at that point.

I had to do a math block as part of course too. I also had to do an English block. I went back as a mature student and we were told, "if you did this in high school you don't need to do this." I was like oh I've done this. They told me, no they've changed it since you were in high school, this is a new course. Man I felt old.

Math was the subject I did worst in at school. So I can sympathise.

You are at a different point in your life now. Its baby steps remember. You dont need to do everything all at once. You could maybe pick up a different course now as a stepping stone.

The last time I went was the first part of last year. I actually passed the course I took but I was still socially frustrated. My younger brother told me to take a composition course since it was required for even a basic degree and I decided to give it a try even though it was a night course and the first time I ever tried a night course I fell asleep whenever the instructor turned off the room's lights to present something off the overhead projector. On the first (and only) night of the composition course I took, I immediately fell asleep when the instructor did the same thing and he was expecting an immediate turn in on the assignment he just projected. I was so exasperated that I immediately dropped the course. I haven't tried another course since.

I feel like baby steps aren't an option for me anymore. I am at the age where I should have atleast an associates degree but I don't even have that. I don't feel like I am fit for anything and should just kill myself.

Most people look at me and say he’s physically able so he must just be lazy and stealing from us via government abuse.

A young gothic girl is volunteering at the joke of a library I work at but she's married and I think she has a kid or two (I've seen her once before and heard some of the things she said). I really hate my life.

Praying could work instead of working on myself. I will pray to Jesus to help me with my problems. Dear Lord Jesus make my life better and take my pain away so I can live happily ever after!

That won't accomplish anything. I did the same thing and what were the results? Nothing.

Well you can bet her significant other doesn't reside with his parents. If you're going to compare yourself to others, you might as well make it a full comparison.

My living at home didn't stop my older brother from telling me things like "You need to get your dick wet!", "She'll pet your fella!", and "You'll get your pee-pee rubbed!" Yes, he seriously said that last one.

My stepfather is telling me the glass is half full and not half empty. It's easy for him to say that because he's a redneck.

And your parents also told you that God had a plan for you...

Not everything people tell you is true or accurate.

Mark, I really think that you need to take control of your own life. That means looking towards moving out and ironing out the logistics. You'll see yourself being independent and that will lay the brick work for a foundation of confidence, which will help you immensely in finding a partner.

If you were 20, you'd get more leeway for living with parents because there are others who havent moved out at that age, and you're only 2 years into adulthood. By 30, the vast majority of people have experience living out of home, and they're going to view your not having moved out as an indicator of immaturity and a marker for dysfunction.

I didn't say it was true. I was just told empty and trite clichés.

I literally have no people skills. I am that bad! No eye contact, can not detect sarcasm/irony, monotone voice and low emotional intelligence. I avoid social interactions so not to make the same mistakes I made back in my school days. It is an unforgiving world, people either fit in or they do not!

I struggled through mainstream school system and obtained a college degree. But no employment at the end of it. If I went through a special school I would have been better off now! I was dealing with jerks on a daily basis that threw me off my game. I was smarter than most people in the school but they came after me everyday and made my life a living hell. if only I went to a special school I would have been happier and achieved more in life. Business degree and unemployable!