19 Jun 2012, 4:03 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Wolfheart, this is no place for stripping.
I understand that but her answers specifically related to me and how she keeps saying that taking photos of yourself somehow qualifies someone as a douchebag. I don't see how it makes someone a douche.
If you've spent hours working for a good body or hours working a job to buy a nice car, what is wrong with showing it? why do people assume it's a sign of a douche? It's an achievement if anything. If you worked hard making a model ship or rennovating your house and posted photos of it, people wouldn't assume it's a sign of a douche.
I guess it's douche to act like anything is the best thing since sliced bread but if you're doing it for achievement or motivation purposes, what's wrong with it? If I see someone that became wealthy and they earned that wealth from nothing, it's more respectable as opposed to someone who inherited or stole that wealth.
To me it is a statement of what you value most about yourself. You are asked to post a picture of yourself on a dating website, basically so people can get some sort of idea of what you look like and whether you might be their type. Some women might think it is very important that a guy have a suitable chest/abs before she dates him, and so for those individuals, this is a good approach. If you want to date a woman who thinks this way, then go for it.
Similarly, if you want to date someone who highly values material things like nice cars, post a picture of the car.
If you want to date someone who just wants to get a general idea of what you look like, and learn about the rest of you later, and who values personality more than possessions, then skip these photos. Yes, I would get turned off by both a pic that was showing off your chest/abs AND a pic that was clearly showing off your nice car. They are quite similar approaches, IMO.
And...something that you built, like a model ship or a renovated house? Yep, I don't need to see those things either. Sure, you can show me later when we meet up if you like, but posting pics on your profile is just needless showing off. I just want to see what you look like with clothes on. That's all I need to know, visually, for now. You can write in your profile that you like renovating houses. That's telling me what sort of activities you like but not going to the level of boasting that a pic seems to take it. To me there is a difference between "I'm the sort of person who likes to work hard building model ships" and "You should see my model ship, I want you to see how awesome it is".
That's you and you are of the few.
In general, a peacock has to show off his c.... co... :O
...colorful feathers!
But I'm such a good catch!!
And so what?
So am I
, you know that.So guys should want to attract girls like me, of course!
No, you are right. I am of the few, so my opinion on this topic is probably not helpful. I never meant to join in on this thread anyway, but you ushered me in. As you were...
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19 Jun 2012, 4:27 am
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Wolfheart, this is no place for stripping.
I understand that but her answers specifically related to me and how she keeps saying that taking photos of yourself somehow qualifies someone as a douchebag. I don't see how it makes someone a douche.
If you've spent hours working for a good body or hours working a job to buy a nice car, what is wrong with showing it? why do people assume it's a sign of a douche? It's an achievement if anything. If you worked hard making a model ship or rennovating your house and posted photos of it, people wouldn't assume it's a sign of a douche.
I guess it's douche to act like anything is the best thing since sliced bread but if you're doing it for achievement or motivation purposes, what's wrong with it? If I see someone that became wealthy and they earned that wealth from nothing, it's more respectable as opposed to someone who inherited or stole that wealth.
To me it is a statement of what you value most about yourself. You are asked to post a picture of yourself on a dating website, basically so people can get some sort of idea of what you look like and whether you might be their type. Some women might think it is very important that a guy have a suitable chest/abs before she dates him, and so for those individuals, this is a good approach. If you want to date a woman who thinks this way, then go for it.
Similarly, if you want to date someone who highly values material things like nice cars, post a picture of the car.
If you want to date someone who just wants to get a general idea of what you look like, and learn about the rest of you later, and who values personality more than possessions, then skip these photos. Yes, I would get turned off by both a pic that was showing off your chest/abs AND a pic that was clearly showing off your nice car. They are quite similar approaches, IMO.
And...something that you built, like a model ship or a renovated house? Yep, I don't need to see those things either. Sure, you can show me later when we meet up if you like, but posting pics on your profile is just needless showing off. I just want to see what you look like with clothes on. That's all I need to know, visually, for now. You can write in your profile that you like renovating houses. That's telling me what sort of activities you like but not going to the level of boasting that a pic seems to take it. To me there is a difference between "I'm the sort of person who likes to work hard building model ships" and "You should see my model ship, I want you to see how awesome it is".
That's you and you are of the few.
In general, a peacock has to show off his c.... co... :O
...colorful feathers!
But I'm such a good catch!!
And so what?
So am I
, you know that.So guys should want to attract girls like me, of course!
How modest! ;p
Quote:
No, you are right. I am of the few, so my opinion on this topic is probably not helpful. I never meant to join in on this thread anyway, but you ushered me in. As you were...
As "you were..." what? :O
19 Jun 2012, 5:25 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Wolfheart, this is no place for stripping.
I understand that but her answers specifically related to me and how she keeps saying that taking photos of yourself somehow qualifies someone as a douchebag. I don't see how it makes someone a douche.
If you've spent hours working for a good body or hours working a job to buy a nice car, what is wrong with showing it? why do people assume it's a sign of a douche? It's an achievement if anything. If you worked hard making a model ship or rennovating your house and posted photos of it, people wouldn't assume it's a sign of a douche.
I guess it's douche to act like anything is the best thing since sliced bread but if you're doing it for achievement or motivation purposes, what's wrong with it? If I see someone that became wealthy and they earned that wealth from nothing, it's more respectable as opposed to someone who inherited or stole that wealth.
To me it is a statement of what you value most about yourself. You are asked to post a picture of yourself on a dating website, basically so people can get some sort of idea of what you look like and whether you might be their type. Some women might think it is very important that a guy have a suitable chest/abs before she dates him, and so for those individuals, this is a good approach. If you want to date a woman who thinks this way, then go for it.
Similarly, if you want to date someone who highly values material things like nice cars, post a picture of the car.
If you want to date someone who just wants to get a general idea of what you look like, and learn about the rest of you later, and who values personality more than possessions, then skip these photos. Yes, I would get turned off by both a pic that was showing off your chest/abs AND a pic that was clearly showing off your nice car. They are quite similar approaches, IMO.
And...something that you built, like a model ship or a renovated house? Yep, I don't need to see those things either. Sure, you can show me later when we meet up if you like, but posting pics on your profile is just needless showing off. I just want to see what you look like with clothes on. That's all I need to know, visually, for now. You can write in your profile that you like renovating houses. That's telling me what sort of activities you like but not going to the level of boasting that a pic seems to take it. To me there is a difference between "I'm the sort of person who likes to work hard building model ships" and "You should see my model ship, I want you to see how awesome it is".
That's you and you are of the few.
In general, a peacock has to show off his c.... co... :O
...colorful feathers!
But I'm such a good catch!!
And so what?
So am I
, you know that.So guys should want to attract girls like me, of course!
How modest! ;p
Quote:
No, you are right. I am of the few, so my opinion on this topic is probably not helpful. I never meant to join in on this thread anyway, but you ushered me in. As you were...
As "you were..." what? :O
Sarcasm, not modesty
"As you were" is an expression to mean "I'll leave you to it, everyone go back to how you were before I interrupted".
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19 Jun 2012, 5:32 am
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Wolfheart, this is no place for stripping.
I understand that but her answers specifically related to me and how she keeps saying that taking photos of yourself somehow qualifies someone as a douchebag. I don't see how it makes someone a douche.
If you've spent hours working for a good body or hours working a job to buy a nice car, what is wrong with showing it? why do people assume it's a sign of a douche? It's an achievement if anything. If you worked hard making a model ship or rennovating your house and posted photos of it, people wouldn't assume it's a sign of a douche.
I guess it's douche to act like anything is the best thing since sliced bread but if you're doing it for achievement or motivation purposes, what's wrong with it? If I see someone that became wealthy and they earned that wealth from nothing, it's more respectable as opposed to someone who inherited or stole that wealth.
To me it is a statement of what you value most about yourself. You are asked to post a picture of yourself on a dating website, basically so people can get some sort of idea of what you look like and whether you might be their type. Some women might think it is very important that a guy have a suitable chest/abs before she dates him, and so for those individuals, this is a good approach. If you want to date a woman who thinks this way, then go for it.
Similarly, if you want to date someone who highly values material things like nice cars, post a picture of the car.
If you want to date someone who just wants to get a general idea of what you look like, and learn about the rest of you later, and who values personality more than possessions, then skip these photos. Yes, I would get turned off by both a pic that was showing off your chest/abs AND a pic that was clearly showing off your nice car. They are quite similar approaches, IMO.
And...something that you built, like a model ship or a renovated house? Yep, I don't need to see those things either. Sure, you can show me later when we meet up if you like, but posting pics on your profile is just needless showing off. I just want to see what you look like with clothes on. That's all I need to know, visually, for now. You can write in your profile that you like renovating houses. That's telling me what sort of activities you like but not going to the level of boasting that a pic seems to take it. To me there is a difference between "I'm the sort of person who likes to work hard building model ships" and "You should see my model ship, I want you to see how awesome it is".
That's you and you are of the few.
In general, a peacock has to show off his c.... co... :O
...colorful feathers!
But I'm such a good catch!!
And so what?
So am I
, you know that.So guys should want to attract girls like me, of course!
How modest! ;p
Quote:
No, you are right. I am of the few, so my opinion on this topic is probably not helpful. I never meant to join in on this thread anyway, but you ushered me in. As you were...
As "you were..." what? :O
Sarcasm, not modesty
"As you were" is an expression to mean "I'll leave you to it, everyone go back to how you were before I interrupted".
Don't leave us =(
19 Jun 2012, 8:17 am
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20 Jun 2012, 3:30 am
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20 Jun 2012, 2:09 pm
Gorgeous pic.
As for Kinme, sorry you're taken, i can't flirt you .
btw, i am trying out another dating site too http://www.yagharami.com/index.php?language=arabic , a local one... I like the 'read/unread' there, at least you wouldn't wonder if you got ignored or just your message wasn't read yet.
been there for 4 days, and got 2 phone numbers already (+ emails from other, 1 FB with full details :-/ , one gave me her skpye address), the downside that profile are very poorly developed there, so I have to reply on messaging/chat in order to know the basics of her character....
but still VERY promising O_O
20 Jun 2012, 3:00 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Gorgeous pic.
As for Kinme, sorry you're taken, i can't flirt you
.btw, i am trying out another dating site too http://www.yagharami.com/index.php?language=arabic , a local one... I like the 'read/unread' there, at least you wouldn't wonder if you got ignored or just your message wasn't read yet.
been there for 4 days, and got 2 phone numbers already (+ emails from other, 1 FB with full details :-/ , one gave me her skpye address), the downside that profile are very poorly developed there, so I have to reply on messaging/chat in order to know the basics of her character....
but still VERY promising O_O
/Random... Huh? Why were you going to flirt with me?
20 Jun 2012, 3:00 pm
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