WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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The stability of NT relationships? Perhaps that has no relevance at all to the stability of ND relationships?



I'm an atheist and wife is Christian, and it works. I don't see why it wouldn't.

Same here. My wife's a Christian and I'm an atheist.

It wouldn't work well if she believes that you deserve to be burned forever.

Do you have children yet? Also is your wife just christian or is she really Christian and goes to church every Sunday and expects that you should too.

Kraft I know you don't have any children and same question about what level is she actually Christian.

Because being a lax new age christian that doesn't believe in hell is basically just being spiritual and can be compatible with Atheism.

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She believes, sometimes, that I my mouth should disappear--otherwise, I don't think she minds that I'm alive

She's not very stridently Christian, though she has a strong faith in God. She also has some belief in some Caribbean-type superstitions.

It's a matter of respect. I've been with wife in church even if I don't believe in the Bible. In fact, you cannot truly be an atheist if you haven't studied and understood at least one religion. Besides, as an atheist it doesn't matter if she thinks I deserve to burn or not since I don't believe anybody will get burned anyway. It's all fairy tales that won't happen.

That being said, I think it is possible to use and accept the moral stuff from Christian faith even when one doesn't accept the other stuff.

The kind of Church also matters as well, is it a well established denomination like Catholicism and Lutheranism or is it one of those new free range churches that are basically congregations of spiritual people.

Yes, three.



It has varied. At some point it was very often, but now it is very infrequent.

OTOH, I'm only an atheist in the sense that I don't believe in mainstream religion. I do have other spiritual beliefs.

It's somewhere in between. It's not the established Lutheranism, but it is not one of those odd churches either, and the denomination is quite old and not new age.

I am a strong Christian. I think it is very important when you are young and inexperienced to be married to someone of the same faith, especially with the potential for children. I think it is important for parents to be united in how they raise children, and spirituality is part of that. (Now, some people I know raise their children sort of "bi-lingual" in a religious sort of way, but that wouldn't work for me.)

But now that I'm older, if I were married to an atheist, I probably wouldn't care. I don't think it would affect my religious beliefs as long as he was respectful, and as long as I was respectful that he didn't share them. But I know too many atheists who are not respectful, and Christians who aren't either. Would I *hope* that my husband would believe? Of course. But I wouldn't push it. I would quietly live my life and let things happen as they may.

But that is all hypothetical because I am married to a Christian man.

I'm an atheist. I think you have lots of good qualities, Nerdygirl. Part of this "goodness" might be due to you adopting the ethics of Christianity. Thus, if we were married (hypothetically), ethics would be part of our bond.

Yes, that's kind of my view too, and it applies to many more things than just religion. If you merge your interests too much in the beginning you won't even know if your partner is respectful when you do end up with different positions, which is inevitable at some point. So I'd say people should have some non-similar views to start with just so they can check their skills at compromising.

Ah so you're the spiritual agnostic type, that is closer to more formal religions than a hardcore atheist would be so the relationship does make sense. It's not the same thing as say a Muslim and a Christian trying to have a stable relationship with children. My parents actually had the same type of relationship as you and your wife did, up till their divorce anyways, but that was for reasons unrelated to religion. Is it a Methodist church?

I think that way as well also, it does help to have some differences, I believe I phrased it as "bringing something new into the relationship". Gives it a direction of potential growth.

You've missed my whole point, it's about respect like you said:
It would impossible for her to respect you as a human being equal to Christians you if she really believes in that, no matter how forgiving she is.

I guess I would fall within the "hard core" atheist category.