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oh so there is such a thing?

the home page doesn't look hideously unprofessional (looks pretty decent, really). that's enough for me to sign up

i don't necessarily only want contact with other "spectrum people", but i do not want contact with "normal people". that much i know for sure

I only seem to get along with other spectrumites. with NT people I can only hold it together for just long enough to get out of their way.

I usually feel like I can relate to people on the spectrum better than NTs.

definitely

I feel much the same way. Although I'm in a big city, I feel it difficult to find anyone I can relate to here and feel like moving somewhere else, but I don't think that will solve that problem.

I have long had trouble relating to middle-class people, it is like there is a big divide here between the classes. I also have trouble relating to most working class people as well, and this whole mess is a part of why I must be a hermit. I am a stranger in a strange land.

i lived for a little while once in the middle of a north-american upper-middle-class neighborhood. it felt to me like "rich people in denial, struggling to convince themselves that they're not rich". twisted psychology. it was eerie. like the beginning of a horror movie, when you know something's really off, but you can't quite put your finger on it just yet

on the other hand... i really can't relate to the poor people around me. it's almost like they're another species i can barely communicate with

i can relate to my grandfather though. living a simple life away from the city, and never wanted anything different. he lives the same kind of life here as he did in his homeland. he could afford more, but he doesn't want more

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I only relate to a few working class folk around here, because I have always been working class, that is my family background. but our tastes are totally different. it is like I have some middle-class tastes but not the social status that goes with them. I don't look middle-class or working class, and this seems to put me in the "uncanny valley" just as much as the other things that go along with AS for many of us.

despite my age, everybody assumes i'm a student. i'm fine with that, actually

people in general see me as an overgrown boy, rather than as a man.

if people see me that way (which apparently they do), then i'm content with it, because then it means i'm projecting an accurate image of myself

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jK6meH9z4uA

i can't relate to "grown-ups" who take themselves seriously as such

[quote="anagram]i can relate to my grandfather though. living a simple life away from the city, and never wanted anything different. he lives the same kind of life here as he did in his homeland. he could afford more, but he doesn't want more[/quote]

It seems like I can relate to my grandma better than most people because I feel like I don't get misunderstood by her like I do other people and I don't think she feels like she needs to treat me differently either. We have trouble communicating though because she has hearing problems.

It seems like people drift away after a while and I don't know why. It doesn't just happen once in a while and it's almost like a pattern.

You seem like a nice person. Don't give up, just keep trying! You are likely to find someone that treats you right.

you've got to look in the mirror and like what you see first. nothing else matters if that condition is not met.