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17 May 2020, 5:13 am
17 May 2020, 6:11 am
rick42 wrote:
Cyberdad doesn't know how it's like to go a entire lifetime without a single woman being interested in him,but he's telling you,me,along with other aspie men that we continue to try to meet women,that it's our fault for why women dislike us and why meeting women in real life is somehow going to make our situation better,which will not in reality.
I find it odd that an NT, especially one who has no training in psychology, is giving advice to those on the spectrum.
Rather, he should ask questions to try an understand our valid situation and gain enlightenment.
Aspie males have difficultly with relating to NT women.
NT women are usually interested in NT males.
Nature at work.
Natural selection is a biatch.
Not rocket surgery.
17 May 2020, 6:26 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have to go around in life emphasizing to other people that you have worth and you are a viable person.
Just because you might be “Aspie,” “autistic,” or whatever doesn’t lessen the fact that you can be as useful, or more useful, than an NT person with the “usual” interests. You are not “less” than the NT person.
Just like one shouldn’t discuss anime with a woman, a woman should necessarily talk about the intricacies of applying makeup. Both interests just might bore listeners.
Just because you might be “Aspie,” “autistic,” or whatever doesn’t lessen the fact that you can be as useful, or more useful, than an NT person with the “usual” interests. You are not “less” than the NT person.
Just like one shouldn’t discuss anime with a woman, a woman should necessarily talk about the intricacies of applying makeup. Both interests just might bore listeners.
There is a large group in society who think those on the spectrum are broken.
Many think to have an autistic child is a serious blow to their life aspiration.
You have people terrified in having have their child vaccinated, because "it causes autism".
Even in the TV series "The Good Doctor", they looked into the difficulty of autistic people finding a significant-other relationship.
It is a problem.
We aren't the problem.
The evolutionary process is a heartless blind biatch.
Tony Attwood made the comment that those on the spectrum have a problem.
And that problem is having to deal with neurotypicals.
kraftiekortie wrote:
Females are people, too.
Get outta here!
Have you ever met one?
17 May 2020, 6:33 am
XFilesGeek wrote:
Just saying....
Women are still expected to be the caretakers and the nurturers. They may not be attracted to men that will add to their burden of people they have to take care of.
I've been friends with people who are at a much lower socio-economic status than me, and it always ended up that I had to pay their way. In the end, married men live longer than single men, and married women drop dead sooner than single women.
A woman I conversed with on Reddit said, "I look for assets, not liabilities." Maybe more men are willing to support poor women, but women are not willing to support poor men who have nothing going on in their lives.
Women are still expected to be the caretakers and the nurturers. They may not be attracted to men that will add to their burden of people they have to take care of.
I've been friends with people who are at a much lower socio-economic status than me, and it always ended up that I had to pay their way. In the end, married men live longer than single men, and married women drop dead sooner than single women.
A woman I conversed with on Reddit said, "I look for assets, not liabilities." Maybe more men are willing to support poor women, but women are not willing to support poor men who have nothing going on in their lives.
Cruel.
Life is cruel.
Pragmatism is cruel.
Natural selection is cruel.
Such is life. <shrug>
We just have to deal with it.
17 May 2020, 6:50 am
XFilesGeek wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Just saying....
Women are still expected to be the caretakers and the nurturers. They may not be attracted to men that will add to their burden of people they have to take care of.
I've been friends with people who are at a much lower socio-economic status than me, and it always ended up that I had to pay their way. In the end, married men live longer than single men, and married women drop dead sooner than single women.
A woman I conversed with on Reddit said, "I look for assets, not liabilities." Maybe more men are willing to support poor women, but women are not willing to support poor men who have nothing going on in their lives.
Women are still expected to be the caretakers and the nurturers. They may not be attracted to men that will add to their burden of people they have to take care of.
I've been friends with people who are at a much lower socio-economic status than me, and it always ended up that I had to pay their way. In the end, married men live longer than single men, and married women drop dead sooner than single women.
A woman I conversed with on Reddit said, "I look for assets, not liabilities." Maybe more men are willing to support poor women, but women are not willing to support poor men who have nothing going on in their lives.
Would it be fair to say if you're helpless it might be hopeless?
I'm saying much of this "relationship" stuff is a crapshoot.
Both men and women are shallow, and finding your "soul mate" is as much a matter of luck as effort.
Agreed.
I am aware that there are examples of a more profound interpersonal relationship, but from what I have seen, most relationships are very philosophically/intellectually/emotionally anemic, a la Kardashian style.
It's embarrassing.
Have people ever wondered about the degree of domestic violence in families?
Finding a significant-other and establishing a family is not the be-all and end-all, despite all the social brainwashing one has had to endure.
17 May 2020, 10:27 am
17 May 2020, 10:37 am
Pepe wrote:
rick42 wrote:
Cyberdad doesn't know how it's like to go a entire lifetime without a single woman being interested in him,but he's telling you,me,along with other aspie men that we continue to try to meet women,that it's our fault for why women dislike us and why meeting women in real life is somehow going to make our situation better,which will not in reality.
I find it odd that an NT, especially one who has no training in psychology, is giving advice to those on the spectrum.
Rather, he should ask questions to try an understand our valid situation and gain enlightenment.
Aspie males have difficultly with relating to NT women.
NT women are usually interested in NT males.
Nature at work.
Natural selection is a biatch.
Not rocket surgery.
I'm starting to agree.Natural selection is probably at work and natural selection is pretty much telling me that I will be alone forever,and there's nothing that I can do about it.You're also correct that NT females are interested in only non aspie males.Even aspie females(who make up a very small % of the population anyway) seem to be only interested in non aspie males as well.At this point,I accept that I will be doomed forever,no matter how pretty I look(unless I look like Will Smith),no matter how much money I make(unless I'm rich) ,no matter how much confidence I have,no matter how much I improve my social skills.At this point I'm getting close to just giving up on dating and females entirely.I don't want to say it's over,since I'm still want intimacy and affection at some point in my life.However it does seem to be over for guys like me (assuming if it ever began in the first place).
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