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16 Feb 2022, 8:22 pm

r00tb33r wrote:

No, not so much in a predatory sense, that was a joke. The dating scene in college might be better and in an environment where you might be demonstrating your better qualities. Also seemed to notice a greater age disparity in couples.

For older men who return to undergraduate studies that could be the case. For those going into postgraduate studies it's too late because the girls in postgrad degrees are either in relationships/married.

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16 Feb 2022, 8:36 pm

cyberdad wrote:

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Yeah he can't just hit on anybody. I actually agonized about the fact that any of my likable female classmates were already in a relationship... Interestingly, often with older guys.

I noticed they were more socially comfortable with me, perhaps them being in a relationship makes them more secure and confident with other guys. But to me it was a false sign of interest, which lead to some awkward situations.

OP definitely has to look for the women interested in dating. I believe schools often host such gatherings where students meet...

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16 Feb 2022, 8:52 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:

Special ed is a female-dominated field.

Correction: it is a married female dominated field.

kraftiekortie wrote:

I think he was just kidding about the "young babes."

He advises you to go for your PhD.

I've thought about going for a PhD. But not for those reasons.

ironpony wrote:

And you don't want to give the FWB thing a shot either, because maybe then you still have some intimacy and the glass is half full maybe still?

I'm open to FWBs. But women are not interested in any kind of sexual relationship with me.

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On one hand I'm not sure what you'd do with a PhD in that... On the other hand it's possible to have an academic career.

No, not so much in a predatory sense, that was a joke. The dating scene in college might be better and in an environment where you might be demonstrating your better qualities. Also seemed to notice a greater age disparity in couples.

That wasn't the case in my undergraduate or my masters. I was the only unmarried person in my entire masters program.

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16 Feb 2022, 10:25 pm

r00tb33r wrote:

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Fine arts is probably the best, very broad minded girls.

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16 Feb 2022, 10:39 pm

cyberdad wrote:

very broad minded girls

Oh. Oooh. I see what you did there. :lol:

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17 Feb 2022, 12:37 am

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r00tb33r wrote:

I can't squeeze out the paragraph of my thoughts on it, but is the relationship all about just the mechanical aspect of the sex? A relationship with a sex doll is not rewarding in any other way. If you do something nice for the doll, does it really appreciate it, does it really make a difference? If you do it for a doll, why don't you do it for a real person? Doing a nice deed for someone where it makes a difference is surprisingly rewarding when you see that person thrive, even if it's only emotional. It might help you think your existence has some purpose. There's also behavioral accountability. You can just as easily mistreat this "thing", even if it has an AI, you could always push the reset button and the consequence of your behavior is lost and erased. With a real person you can't be abusive, the consequences keep your behavior in check. I think that's important, not developing unhealthy behavioral patterns.

you have much higher social functioning than me and likely are far more intelligent. that said, i can tell you that within my limited awareness i know that i and my "behavior patterns" would not harm another living thing. i especially would not harm my expensive dolly! i'm not a genius but i'm not exactly stupid either, at least in my own estimation. i am well aware that the doll is fundamentally a consolation prize in life [along with porn] for people who lack the social genes. i know not to expect bona-fide emotional feedback from it. but once the horniness is definitively relieved, my imagination can take it the rest of the way, and i'm not the only one who feels this way. you can't argue with the numbers. it is a growth field due to unfavorable social conditions in most western cultures.

Have you considered castration?

Supposedly one loses all desire and sexual interest with it, and with it goes away all of the frustration, and the person is able to live a happier life enjoying other things. Supposedly some monks practice it.

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17 Feb 2022, 12:49 am

Well I just don't get why the OP is not willing to get his hands dirty if he wants results and just for younger women. Sure they may reject you OP but at least try. And I'm sorry you are morbidly obese, but they are morbidly obese young women out there too.

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17 Feb 2022, 1:13 am

auntblabby wrote:

it is more a mismatch of life experience.

Oh I see. But I guess in the OP's situation, I guess he is just going to have to deal with that if younger women are the only ones he may have a chance with, maturity wise?

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17 Feb 2022, 2:22 am

ironpony wrote:

I'm not sure if the OP wants to settle with a morbidly obese woman though?

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17 Feb 2022, 2:33 am

there is, at long last, a cosmically karmic reason why certain humans are repellent to other humans, i have found, in this sartre-esque "no-exit" hellworld we live in.

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17 Feb 2022, 3:17 am

auntblabby wrote:

sartre-esque "no-exit" hellworld we live in.

Anything like this?