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10 Jul 2022, 1:32 pm

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If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?


No, he should try to keep an open mind and continue to meet new people while engaging in personal growth opportunities.

This holds true for any and all genders.

Actively trying to go after 20 year olds specifically because they, supposedly, might be easier to have sex with reads a bit creepy in my opinion.



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10 Jul 2022, 2:57 pm

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If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?



A thick cucumber can loosen his butthole a bit.



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10 Jul 2022, 3:00 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ironpony wrote:
If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?



A thick cucumber can loosen his butthole a bit.


It sounds like you have some experience with such things.



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10 Jul 2022, 3:05 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ironpony wrote:
If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?



A thick cucumber can loosen his butthole a bit.


It sounds like you have some experience with such things.


I have some visual illustrations if you’re interested!

**Oh btw I just realized Iron meant « lose » not « loose »; that…. confused me.
So, nevermind my advice Mr. Iron.



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10 Jul 2022, 3:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ironpony wrote:
If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?



A thick cucumber can loosen his butthole a bit.


It sounds like you have some experience with such things.


I have some visual illustrations if you’re interested!

**Oh btw I just realized Iron meant « lose » not « loose »; that…. confused me.
So, nevermind my advice Mr. Iron.


I’m good, but thanks for the offer.



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10 Jul 2022, 4:05 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
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If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?


No, he should try to keep an open mind and continue to meet new people while engaging in personal growth opportunities.

This holds true for any and all genders.

Actively trying to go after 20 year olds specifically because they, supposedly, might be easier to have sex with reads a bit creepy in my opinion.


I see your point. Just trying to help think of ways to loose virginity that might be more likely possible.



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10 Jul 2022, 4:13 pm

ironpony wrote:
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ironpony wrote:
If a guy is still a virgin by 30 and has trouble loosing it, would it help if he tried to loose it to younger women say around 20ish because they might not care about a guy being a virgin as much as a lot of older women?


No, he should try to keep an open mind and continue to meet new people while engaging in personal growth opportunities.

This holds true for any and all genders.

Actively trying to go after 20 year olds specifically because they, supposedly, might be easier to have sex with reads a bit creepy in my opinion.


I see your point. Just trying to help think of ways to loose virginity that might be more likely possible.


I hope people’s main goal in life is not to lose their virginity. If that’s the case, they’ll probably be extremely disappointed once they do. It’s not the end all, be all in life.

With that being said, it’s a good idea to set some personal goals (whatever they may be) and find ways to meet new people.



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10 Jul 2022, 6:25 pm

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Have you tried online dating at all? (If it's one of those obvious questions forgive me)

I have, and my experience wasn't very good. For the most part, it just made me feel worse about myself when I received practically no reciprocated interest.

I haven't tried online dating in a few years, both because I don't want to go through the same thing I went through last time, and getting good pictures nowadays is a challenge because I don't do much worth taking pictures of and I'm also not very photogenic.

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We're in an age where the onus of finding a suitable partner is squarely on the individual, and if you're an introverted autistic man with pretty much no connections with women your age, that's a really challenging starting point.


It can be really hard for autistic men (no pun intended) AND women.

I agree, but I specified man because that's what I have personal experience with, and I think the onus on the man to approach and initiate, and the skewed ratio on online dating generally puts autistic men at a greater disadvantage when it comes to finding someone to date.



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10 Jul 2022, 6:29 pm

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Twilightprincess wrote:
It can be really hard for autistic men (no pun intended) AND women.

I agree, but I specified man because that's what I have personal experience with, and I think the onus on the man to approach and initiate, and the skewed ratio on online dating puts autistic men at a greater disadvantage when it comes to finding someone to date.


This is an assumption I’ve seen on here over and over again for years. It needs to stop.

Autistic women can have just as difficult a time at finding someone to date as some autistic men do. Claiming that they somehow have it easier is not cool, especially for women who would like to receive support on here.



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10 Jul 2022, 7:01 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
It can be really hard for autistic men (no pun intended) AND women.

I agree, but I specified man because that's what I have personal experience with, and I think the onus on the man to approach and initiate, and the skewed ratio on online dating puts autistic men at a greater disadvantage when it comes to finding someone to date.


This is an assumption I’ve seen on here over and over again for years. It needs to stop.

Autistic women can have just as difficult a time at finding someone to date as some autistic men do. Claiming that they somehow have it easier is not cool, especially for women who would like to receive support on here.


Oh I thought that the notion was that women had it easier than guys when it came sex, not dating. However, do people believe that women have it easier when it comes to dating as well?



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10 Jul 2022, 7:03 pm

ironpony wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
It can be really hard for autistic men (no pun intended) AND women.

I agree, but I specified man because that's what I have personal experience with, and I think the onus on the man to approach and initiate, and the skewed ratio on online dating puts autistic men at a greater disadvantage when it comes to finding someone to date.


This is an assumption I’ve seen on here over and over again for years. It needs to stop.

Autistic women can have just as difficult a time at finding someone to date as some autistic men do. Claiming that they somehow have it easier is not cool, especially for women who would like to receive support on here.


Oh I thought that the notion was that women had it easier than guys when it came sex, not dating. However, do people believe that women have it easier when it comes to dating as well?


Some people on here believe that they have it easier with both, but they don’t.



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10 Jul 2022, 7:06 pm

Oh okay. I thought that women have it easier at getting sex, based on my female friends who have joined dating sites, and then said guys sent them all sorts of sexual messages and pictures of their 'butternut squashes'. So I thought women had it easier to get sex based on the ones I know and the attention they got online, compared to men. Not sure about dating though.



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10 Jul 2022, 7:07 pm

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Oh okay. I thought that women have it easier at getting sex, based on my female friends who have joined dating sites, and then said guys sent them all sorts of sexual messages and pictures of their 'butternut squashes'. So I thought women had it easier to get sex based on the ones I know and the attention they got online, compared to men. Not sure about dating though.


So you think that the experience of a couple of women that you know personally reflects the experience of all women?



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10 Jul 2022, 7:11 pm

Well I've also heard this from every woman I met off dating sites, and they will all say that guys send them these pictures and give them sexual lines. So every woman I met who has said that to me, would add up to about 40 women over the years. That's more than a couple though, isn't it?



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10 Jul 2022, 7:15 pm

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Well I've also heard this from every woman I met off dating sites, and they will all say that guys send them these pictures and give them sexual lines. So every woman I met who has said that to me, would add up to about 40 women over the years. That's more than a couple though, isn't it?


It’s still not a large enough or sufficiently randomized group of women.

Also, is receiving “sexual lines” from guys a true indicator of dating success? I doubt it.

(And this is why few women participate here. Male posters tell them that their own, personal knowledge and experience about women are wrong.)



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10 Jul 2022, 7:17 pm

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Well I've also heard this from every woman I met off dating sites, and they will all say that guys send them these pictures and give them sexual lines. So every woman I met who has said that to me, would add up to about 40 women over the years. That's more than a couple though, isn't it?


It’s still not a large enough or sufficiently randomized group of women.

Also, is receiving “sexual lines” from guys a true indicator of dating success.

(And this is why few women participate here. Male posters tell them that their own, personal knowledge and experience are wrong.)


Oh sorry, I meant it was an indicator of sex success, not dating success, or so I thought. I don't mean to tell women that their own personal experience is wrong, I am just speaking from mine. Doesn't mean I am right, I just thought there was a good chance women were better at getting sex from the one's I know, and others I have met over the years, but that is just my perspective.