The importance of looks

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Is the goal to have ANY relationship or a worthwhile one?

Being in a lousy relationship is not going to make one any happier.

If people are primarily interested in a person based on their appearance, I don’t think that bodes well for the relationship overall.

(Also, the comment section of YouTube videos is not great evidence, but I digress.)

Well when the hot persons looks go what are you left with then? At least a not so attractive person with a great personality would be good company as you get older in your relationship.

Good point Jamesy....you are learning now which is great

My theory is that people with higher levels of sex hormones and a higher sex drive place a higher important on looks compared to someone with a lower sex drive.

And this makes sense if you think about it.

Young men between the ages of 18-25 care mostly about looks because this is also the age where testosterone levels are at their peak and men tend to be fairly horny at this age.

Someone with a higher sex drive is more sexually motivated and is therefore going to place a higher importance on looks.



As men age and their testosterone levels decline and they get more life experience, for example dating a girl who's hot but has a terrible personality, men start to care less about looks. I'm not saying that looks don't matter at all, it just probably becomes less important with age.

I think I have a fairly high sex drive and I don’t care much about looks.

I have rather low sex drive and particular taste when it comes to looks - but when considering potential relationships, intellect is the main factor for me.

Maybe that's why I only get flirted with by older men...which means I must be unattractive.

How do you measure your own “sex drive”?

I use a combination of a metronome and a kitchen timer. Of course, everyone is different and has their own preferred measurement system(s).

No Joe. It doesn’t mean that.

Good lord….I wouldn’t want to eat of your cooking.

People think I’m a great cook, especially those who enjoy eating badger.

I'd never want to date a 10 or conventionally gorgeous person.
I picture that they'd get so much attention I'd always feel anxious.
Stunning people have more chance of people hitting on them all the time.
Some gorgeous people would use that opportunity to cheat.

Also I wouldn't want everyone saying "Why did they pick you?!" to me.
Not that I'm not pretty, but you know what I mean.
It just sounds like a headache waiting to happen.

Give me an average person who looks at me like I'm a million bucks.
I'm sold.

A badger pickle would be nice.

I love a big, juicy pickle.

OK, thank you.

Unless it means most men under 40 tend to go for the supermodel type girls who wear a lot of make-up and don't bite their nails and wear skirts and dresses, while most men as they get past 40 see physical attractiveness in less shallow ways and are more likely to be drawn to us average-looking women (average-looking still means attractive but just not supermodel type).

My NT cousin is super extroverted and she is the supermodel type, even though she's gay. So a lot of males in their teens, 20s and 30s would look through me like I'm invisible and ask her out. I had a neighbour who I played with a lot as a kid, and as a 30-year-old man he likes older women and he had a crush on my mum, never me. But I didn't feel hurt, because I respected the fact that he liked older women and my mum was an older woman. But then he actually dated my cousin, who's younger than he is. It only lasted a couple of weeks, but I felt hurt sort of, not that I liked him in that way anyway (and neither did my mum). I just thought I was just really ugly.

But my boyfriend finds me cute, even though he's an older man. I like older men though.