do you find autistic girls attractive?

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This is an interesting thread. I'd never really considered the "switching between acting 100 and acting 4" thing before, but I might be prone to that myself. Is this not typical of most people?

Maybe its also typical for nts but they have a way of hiding it.

Apparently you are not supposed to do that and the fact that you do that makes others think you are weird.

My GF has AS and i think she's pretty attractive, yes.
or as i'd put it, "positively adorable"

I'm not so sure nt's have it quite as extreme. When I said it, I meant it pretty literally. Everyone does tend to shift maturity level back and forth, but I don't think it's quite as extreme as how I tend to do it.

These days I just try my best to stick to the 100 end of the spectrum. I'm less vulnerable that way.

I'm an aspie guy who happens to be drawn to shy and awkward girls. But I've learned a lot in pursuing those.

For one: The insecurities of others is bad for you. REALLY bad.


And for another: A person whose shyness spells inexperience might be a real firecracker underneath it all. To this day, I've not had a relationship quite as remarkable as with this shy albino girl, not even in my marriage. She "said" she was a virgin, never had a boyfriend, never even been kissed. And yet she handled all these firsts like a pro. The fact that I pointed this out really built up her ego, too. The net effect of the relationship was that I knocked off all the shyness and she really came to shine around other people and in those things she enjoyed doing. It was a real shame we had to break up, but it was for the best.

Not to say she was "better" for me than my wife. I'm with the person I think I'm meant to be with, and I really wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

But I basically did the same thing with my wife. When we first met and started going out, she already had a boyfriend who was horribly abusive to her. He was a lot of firsts for her, though she'd been kissed and had boyfriends before. But because of a lot of her own shyness and insecurities, she didn't know that she even could get out of that relationship. So my job was #1 get her away from that guy and #2 show her what a REAL relationship was like. Because of all the abuse, suffice it to say sex was NOT #1 on the list. More like #420. But we stuck together long enough, became best friends more than anything else, and decided we were best friends enough we wanted to live together. And we just HAPPENED to have a couple of kids along the way.

She's an NT, but she's always been a really shy person. Once again, what I did in part was knock all that shyness off, which was a lot of fun. Now she's a "power secretary" for a small-time law firm, and she won't hesitate to cuss out clients. Her boss knows better than to call her on it. And that office has been more successful now than it ever has been, and it's all due to the fact that the lawyer isn't really the boss, but rather my wife who is the lead paralegal. I should also mention my wife's college degree is in psychology, NOT paralegal or pre-law! She's just that dang smart.

I've only met one other autistic girl in real life, and though she was pretty she wasn't very nice to me. That's all the experience I have with that.

I've seen some smokin hot girls with Asperger's.

I haven't met any aspie girls in person, as far as I know. But many of the female wrongplaneteers seem interesting, several being very physically appealing aswell.

Ehhhh, that just wasn't a flattering picture of her. Actually, Heather Kuzmich is quite gorgeous:

I don't know how you'd stumble upon an Autistic woman- it's hard enough to just stumble on an Autistic person in general, and Aspie women are so rare, at least diagnosed ones. And how would you know she was Aspie until you were already dating, or at least friends?

My mother always told me "Still waters run deep." She's right.

There's no correlation between people's beauty/attractiveness and autism, at least physically.

As for mental attractiveness, it's very subjective.

I don't think that's true at all- propensity to not conform to, or be completely oblivious to, accepted social norms includes aesthetics, such as means of dress and personal hygiene. A tentative list of female-specific Autistic traits being developed actually includes the tendency to dress for comfort and not for fashion. There's also a statistical correlation between Autism and eating disorders, for what it's worth.

Why not? Autism doesn't affect looks unless they just let themselves go. If you got enough ASD people, you would have an identical bell curve for how people rate in their looks.

Or are oblivious to what they're "supposed to" do in the first place,
or know about it, but can't be convinced of the logical merits of it.

Umm.... I was more talking about naked beauty (regardless of fashion/dresses).



Hmm...good point.