Asexual Aspies

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For a short period of time I though I might be asexual as sexaully I wasn't interested in being with anyone else. Just myself-narasistic I know.
But I found it hard to imagine being with people I admired sexaully in that way.
Now I have a girlfriend whom I admire a great deal and I feel that perhaps I could copulate with her. As I feel comfortable with her.

Whereas people I don't trust or hardly know I become diffident and I couldn't do anymore than kiss. If they did make a sexaul advance I would become incredible uncomfortable.

I don't know,. I have sexual drive, but I'm not in a hurry to ba in a relationship with somebody...

My sex drive is a very, VERY curious thing.

Romantically, I fall in love with tomboys (I'm not too big on girly girls) who hald the time end up being lesbians.

Sexually, I am an FA, or as it stands for, Fat Admirer. Basically I'm attracted to larger girls. Being 5' 11" and 110 lbs kinda makes sense with it. Still kinda awkward though.

I was pretty much asexual til I was 17 then I started to get a lil more active .

It can be tough being a woman in our society, because it is custom that the man is the initator of romantic and/or sexual relationships and women find it hard to say no to something their partner suggests.

Anyway as a child and teenager, I did not have a model of a normal functioning romantic relationship to look up to. I lived with my mother as a kid, she never had a relationship when I lived with her or expressed any interest in one. When I was a teenager I lived with my dad and his ex-wife, but that relationship was gradually heading down the drain. When I first arrived to leave with my dad, his wife at the time had recently left him to live with another guy temporarly. She came back to my father not very long after I arrived.

I am asexual and genderless. I have no desire to have sex with anyone. I consider myself to be a bisexual asexual, because I am attracted to both males and females, just not in a sexual way.

I also feel as if I am neither female or male. The body is female but I feel no affinity with it. Fortunately, I do not look very female. The only thing that bothers me about the body is my period. I have considered a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) but I realise that is not possible if the body is healthy.

I'm attracted to males, but not often in a sexaul way. Therefore I guess as far as men are concerned I'm celibate.

I used to have lots of sex drive. It's just about disappeared in the past few months. Why? I don't know, and I don't think I can blame any one thing for it.

I remember when I was young, maybe 8 or so, and my friend and i found a pron magazine in the woods. I think that is where most of my early sexual drive came from. That and my step-dad had a crazy huge porn collection. BUt anyway, I think that if I hadn't been expose dto that at a young age I would've been where I'm at sexually earlier in my life. during ym first marriage I wanted ti all the time and when I got divrced I used to go out and try to meet women, but being an aspie i usually just stood there lost in though. It's amazing how clearly i can think with a drink in hand, music blaring and hot chicks that I dont know how to talk to walking around. but yes, my sex drive has dropped to almost nothing as of lately. i even find myself looking a porn it the hopes of getting some drive back. doesn't work though. so i try my best so my current wife doesn't feel bad.

Woah! That is very odd. Talking about "the body" as if it is in another galaxy.

You know what I think? When I hear "Asexual" or "don't really care about sex" or whatever, I think of people that never really had sex as it is meant to be.

If people get sexed good, they develop a permanent taste for it. They have no choice. Their body wants it. People that have never been sexed properly? There is something inside of them that has not been woken up. Something that has not developed or matured.

In my opinion, these people just need a good porking to wake them up. Then they will forget all the asexual, non sexual stuff.

That thing inside of you that is supposed to wake up? IMO, it has something to do with aspergers. If it wakes up, you are "normal". If it doesn't wake up, then people have trouble. If someone wants to put a label "aspergers" on it, that is fine.

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Last edited by Ante on 09 Nov 2005, 9:02 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yeesh. I'm not taking offense at this as a moderator (this is not an official warning) but as a person. There's a lot more to being asexual than just having never been woken up. Take a rape victim. "A good porking" is likely to be highly traumatic - because sexual feelings have been strongly tied to terror and helplessness - so it becomes easier to feel nothing than to let your body respond. Or take a touch-sensitive aspie. They are so distracted by the presence of another person, the (sandpaper?) feel of another person's skin on their own, that they have no energy left for natural sexual responses. A person like that could easily be pushed past their limit if it was demanded they have "a good porking" in the typical NT fashion. So complete celibacy is preferred.

And that's not even starting in on those asexuals who don't tie it to past trauma or other issues, who simply biologically do not have the prerequisite level of hormones in their body to enjoy sex.

Human diversity is a wonderful thing. There are those that enjoy dancing and f*****g, those who don't enjoy dancing and love to f**k, people who don't love to f**k but like to dance, or people who don't like neither.

Your post made me laugh because it shows that you don't have a deeper understanding of how asexuality affects the human individual. You're just making an assumption that their sexual feelings are dormant, and they need a nice porking to get them interested, hence "in my opinion".

I hope you've enjoyed my "porking" on your weak argument as much as I did.

i am absolutely with pyraxis on this one - bloody well put, pyraxis.

sex drive depends on many things, including hormones, depression, age, busy-ness. it is hardly merely a matter of whether or not one has had good sex previously.

after all, adolescent virgins can have an enormous sex drive, can they not?

i've got the feeling that i think i'm going to retire from all this notion of two-person relationships involving myself. I just am not in the mood and each time there's an interesting person who comes along, and that's few and far between, there's always something to rule them out. I dunno, just tired of it i suppose.

I wanted to talk about this a bit further, I was certainly not asexual from 13 onwards. I did feel some sexual attraction to females, but I was not interested in ever having a relationship with one. I had things and hobbies which were more important than relationships.