Dating website advice please.

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visnofskygirl
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14 Jul 2009, 10:35 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
Dox47 wrote:
visnofskygirl wrote:
as early as possible...you should tell if u really want them to like you the way you are :)


I would agree with you, but online dating allows for a degree of finickiness that will often cause a potential date to flee from any perceived "dealbreakers", and AS simply is not well understood enough by the general public to count on most people from seeing it as anything but a reason to pass you over without any further thought or consideration. If you honestly describe your "symptoms" but don't identify them as such or refer to your AS, the same people who would flee from a "syndrome" are more than happy to give a chance to someone who is "shy", "quiet", "a bit of a nerd", etc. They can like you just the way you are without knowing that your "quirks" are due to a neurological disorder until a few dates down the road when they know you well enough not to freak out over the terminology.


I agree with that, being labeled as 'shy' , 'weirdo' or 'quirky' is far better that being labeled with something so alien like ASPERGER's SYNDROME , damn even I get scared each time when I read this word :P (joking!). There's no need to mention this weird condition to people around.


I'm always jealous of people with AS :)



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14 Jul 2009, 10:47 am

visnofskygirl wrote:
I'm always jealous of people with AS :)


There's not much to be jealous of in AS, especially at your age... we're always the targets for bullying, and almost nobody appreciates anything we might actually be able to do well...