I think love is elusive because society is broken

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They remarried.

You certain?

My great grandmother never remarried....

What I'm really asking is, what if a female was single back then or is everyone assuming that all marriages were arranged?

Oh I know not every woman remarried. But it was an option.

From what I've read, single women stayed with (or returned to) their families.

Ah sorry for the confusion.

I bet in an Edwardian society it would've been much harder for a female from poverty and no family. From what I gathered the only optional jobs they had were serving as servants and nannies....they were lucky if anything to be making enough money by living on their own. Most of them had to live with their employers.

Aaaah what a nightmare...

Yes, but the society we are brought up in totally conditions the acceptable expressions of it. While we do have our wild natures, it is obvious to me that we most certainly do *not* behave according to our fundamental wild natures at all. 'Civilisation' as we know it couldn't function if we did.

The "go grab it all keep ahead of everybody else only those of high status win out" messages we are bombarded with put huge pressure on relationships. Stimulating our expectations to get us into a state that whatever we've got, it's never enough, we need something else, something more, someone else....

You forgot the other option that women with little to no resources have traditionally fallen into -- prostitution. Sad but true, and still the case world-wide, even in the Western world.