Asexuality

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I walk a bizarre line that is neither sexual nor asexual. It is, I suppose you could say, the worst of both worlds. If anyone else out there is experiencing a similar torture, you have my condolences.

As a broad generalization, asexuality means without sexuality, it is a description of a person’s sexual orientation. Asexuality as an orientation is defined by no sexual attraction to either side of the gender binary e.g. male and female and by extension, anyone else of whichever gender they are: I can only speak for myself, so for me I can recognize someone as being aesthetically attractive without feeling sexual attraction to them regardless of gender. This for me does not mean that I do not have a sex drive or do not enjoy sexual interaction it just means that I am just as likely to have sex with either sex but not based on sexual attraction. Or perhaps I just completely miss the point altogether like most things related to emotion and do not conform to the norm.

I know that being asexual can be positive due to the world being overpopulated, one should stop worrying about asexuality

I wish I was asexual. That way I would stop having these damn relationships fantasies.

My "big brother" is an asexual aspie. I don't know how it is for everyone but I know for him he is physically attracted to males and females but has no sexual or romantic attraction whatsoever. He also gets weirded out by discussion of of sex and when I was discussing attractive girls with our oldest sister (I'm bi and she's lesbian) he just stood there rolling his eyes.

I'm not asexual. I just detest wh*res and manwh*res. For example, my friend who is 27 and has a lay count of 15. He obviously will never turn down sex and probably would have had more of it if the opportunities presented themselves.

I want to have sex, but only with someone I have feelings for or have an attraction to that goes beyond "oh she has big t*ts." I almost laughed when the guy asked the other guy to be his wingman and found out he was gay.

It seems if you want true maturity, you have to go to church (and I'm not religious) or seek out older folks who've been there, done that, and no longer wish to partake.

I'm not asexual (there are plenty of words and actions I find erotic!), but I have the impression that I'm not getting the "attractiveness" triggers that most people seem to get just from looking. I very rarely find the shape of either the male of female body directly stimulating. I say very rarely, because right now I can think of precisely one time that I've looked at someone and thought "oh my...", though there have probably been others. Not sure whether it's a blessing or not.