Do crushes feel different than 'love'?

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If love is supposed to be two-way and involves being in a relationship with someone, then I have never loved in my life. On a biological level, I don't see how the long-term deep emotional attachment, obsessive rumination, completely involuntary (unlike my other "crushes") nature of the feelings, accompanying deep despair, the person changing my life and self, and them being the first person to ever get through to me could not have been love. It was certainly much more than a crush.

Um I don't know. I would not want to date someone who is willing to die for me at all costs. That's just f****d up.

Also current knowledge, such as from functional brain scans shows that the reason why people want to do anything is because it simulates them.

So it seems to me that so far as love exists, it is between people being mutually simulated to a high degree. Sacrifice becomes automatically easier if you are getting something out of it.

^^dude, I wouldn't die for anyone. I was thinking more about a "killing someone to feed them with when there's no food left" scenario

What happens when you're still hungry...

well, I guess then it's time to compare muscle to fat ratio and eat the limbs of the more meaty person. in which case, the woman usually wins I could cook it for them though, that's as far as I'm willing to go

ah nice. We should exchange recipies some time. Personally I would go for the organs first as they contain the most nutrient. I wouldn't eat the brain though, rather not have Kuru

I am soooo not coming to your next dinner party, Anna.

I think you could describe a crush as a different sensation because it goes only one way. Except for the loving and longing which are pretty much hard enough for lovers... a crush has that loving and longing without answer... talk about your knot in the stomach!

Other than that... when the 'being in love' cloud has floated over there is a relationship between two people left. If you're lucky the person you were in love with has exceptablt features, exceptable friends and family and a nice communication style. Apart from that after you've had lots of sex you're pretty much physically attached too.

There's actually been a lot of research measuring intimate relationship. How long it will hold depends on lots of things; like the presence of significant others and the already mentioned communication style. It has been measured that happy relations (not just partners but parents and siblings too) have a positive communication ratio of 1:5. That means for every nasty remark or criticism, there need te be 5 pleasant ones. Otherwise the relationship is doomed, unless the couple is very religious... which makes the split up rate a lot smaller (though that says nothing abut how happy the couple is).

If you have a crush all this un-romantic stuff never gets to you. You stay in awe of that one idol, who gets more and more perfect along the way... you never get to meet the human half.

Well, I refuse to be cooked in an amateurish fashion. I like fine dining, so I expect you to take some thought over the courses. Also has to be GFCF.

Words will never be sufficient to describe feelings. You have to experience it.