She broke up with me because im an aspie

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That sucks that her family is putting pressure on her to dump you. Please don't take it personally; I think they were just out to find any old excuse and settled on 'aspergers' (could just have easily been your hairdo or parents' jobs).

At 16, she's still very young and her familys' opinion do count for a lot, so try not to hold it all against her. At least if you part on friendly terms and stay in contact, you may have another chance a few years down the line...

Yes lucky we have parted on friendly terms and we are still friends. I still cant stop thinking about her tho. This is making it harder to move on.

If she agrees, then forget her anyway.

I'm sure that, if you want to take it really far, it'd also be possible to sue the parents for discrimination or something too...

Its not a nice situation but I dont think its worth sueing over tho.

Um well if he's in America he can't sue as I understand it the UK has some more stringent anti-discrimination laws so maybe you can... But I seriously wouldn't bother b/c you'd either lose or look like a moron b/c she's already broken it off no point in suing them that won't do anything but make her hate you etc etc etc... Oh and as for getting over her and being friends you can't not like before atleast not right away I'd recommend not inviting her (if you do) to hang out with you and others or trying to spend time with her as much. The best way to get over her is to not be around her as much as possible and to do that and still be friends is not easy at all but good luck.

stand up for yourself, convince your gf that her parents are wrong and your aspergers is irelevant to your relationship. if your gf absouletly refuses to be with you she isnt worth chasing

Iv kinda resigned my self to the fact that well never going to be togatehr again and she has made that pretty clear to me. Im not sure if I want in laws like hers anyway tho. Iv tried standing up for my self by telling her I can change .I think trying to go back again will cause more pain. I think im better off finding another GF with a family that accepts me.

I should rephrase change to improvements E.G Improving my social skills

Only you can decide that. I think it's a lost cause, though. I'd stay friends with her, and with a bit of luck the situation will improve with time.

Sucks but that's the way it is. How did you get together with her? If you flirted and eventually asked her out, you're already doing things that most people with AS would be terrified to do. So it's not like you're on the low-functioning end of the spectrum. You sound like a reasonable guy; her family members are probably avid readers of Stormfront and would throw out any guy that's doesn't fit the Aryan phenotype.

Besides that, you're 18. I'm sure you weren't thinking of having kids yet, and if the girl was (until her family shot you down), she's delusional.

AS is highly hereditary, highly dominant, and usually y-linked. In other words, if you and your wife have a boy, there's a huge, huge chance he'll have AS as well.

@Sprax: yes I agrere she is a lost cause however we are still friends.

@Ssenkrad:My friend said that we would get along well so my ex andded me on facebook we began by talking on facebook.She then started putting xoxox at the end of the messages and I figured that she was intrested in me.I then did the same as her. At this times I was trying to get over my gaming addiction and I needed to tell people about this problem so I told her and she was said she would support me. She then asked if I wanted to meet her (by this time we had exchanged numbers) so we arranged to go to her town (she lived a 15minute trian journey away) so I took the trian to see her (this was the first time I took the train so I was nervouse as well as nervouse about meeting her ) So I arived safly but an hour early. lol. I then sore her she seemed pleased to see me and we hugged. We then proceeded to walk around the town chatting . We then met my friend (the friend that introducwed me to jessie (my ex) ) and we chatted and had a good time . She was having probmens with her laptop so I said I would go round hers and fix it for her .We then walked to the bus stop things were going really well we were getting along well . I have done some resaearch into flirting in the past so to confirm that she was intrested in me I put my arm around her. She did not show any negative attitude or response to this advancement. We then arived at the bus stop and we were chatting and about college and off the cuff I said "I rekon if i was in your class I wqould not be able to conentrate I think your a nice beutifull person..its a sahme your not single" I quickly said at the end remmemberin that 'she was ina relasionship' she then said "she then said si that a proposal and i am single" for a split second I was thinking about chikening out but then common scence kicked in and I thaghut i could not waste this chance so I said "yes it is" .

So thats how it started I have been a total and utter falier with flirting in the past but thats another story.

Nope I was not thinking about having children. Im not ready to make that decion yet. How ever if I do meet the right women and we decide to have children having aspurges wont stop me because I dont thing having a child with aspurges is the end of the world and I bieleve people with AS have as much chance as sucseeding in the world (or maybe even more) than NT's (hope i have not offended any N.T's)