How many people here are polyamorous?

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Although I have met others that enjoyed this situation, and even though the thought of it seems entertaining, I do not fit this exploration; I have discovered that I am a one woman man. As for cheating, I find that horribly repulsive, and if any woman did that to me, I'd kick them out immediately under any and all circumstances. I'm a relationship kind of man with one woman. Period.

But then why would you want to be tied down to one person? I am the same as you with feeling more of a connection with nature than other humans, so wouldn't you want your relationships to be less serious, and live around a bunch of friends you could also be sexual with?

Not everyone is out for recreational sex.

i would also have serious issues with it - plus you never know [removed by lau] or how many STI's are in there.

I am in a open/poly relationship. As it stands it is more of an open relationship, but it has been poly in the past.
I have to say it takes alot of work, and is not for everybody.

I'm pretty sure it wouldn't work for me. I'm not about to experiment because there's too much for me to lose.

Ever heard of protected sex?

Probably not...

Condoms don't guarantee anything.

Now you're sounding like the pope.

They're the safest protection against diseases we've got so far but yes they are not always guaranteed to be safe.

The same can also be said of relationships that assume polyamory is equated to people just sleeping around. Normally I would've thought the same thing back then but I know a few people in such relationships.

What about abstinence? I'm about as sexually frustrated and curious as they come, but I've managed to keep my pants zippered.

Me too but what the heck does that have to do with polyamory or people who want to make love to eachother?

They're walking statistics. That's why it amazes me how many virgins on here feel like their life isn't complete. People fornicate. It's a fact of life.

I'm sorry I'm having trouble putting virgins who feel they're life isn't complete with people who are in poly relationships...

As for fornicating, it depends on what you mean. Normally people who fornicate aren't married yet or are cheating behind eachothers backs. I fail to see how this is in relation to a said lifestyle where both parties consent and agree. Would homosexulity be considered fornicating since marriage is illegal in some countries? Would people who were in a 3 way relationship be considered the fornicating type? You make it sound as if people are irresponsible when it comes to sex and even I know that isn't all together true.

Fornicating may be a fact of life but it's all rather subjective. I think people who are at more risk in being in the statistics are usually the ones that live risky lifestyles ie. drugs, sharing needles, using no protection, etc. Then there are those who don't meet the staticstics as far as risky lifestyles go who get it from they're husband or wife who cheated on them behind they're back and didn't use protection.

Polyamory from what I know isn't exactly an orgy or partners getting with other partners without some consent. In fact most people still assume that polyamory is just another word for a kinky threesome. I find it is better to ask rather than to assume whenever one lives an alternative lifestyle much different than mine.

I have a problem with people (both men and women) who are promiscuous in the first place.

Generally or personally?

My only suggestion would be to probably not get with someone who is what you deem promiscuous, you would probably not be happy. However nothing is always written in stone so be prepared if something were to happen.

On a whole, I usually try and not make people's lifestyles my business. If they're happy with what they have and there's no harm being done then I don't see a problem but that's just me.

Call me old-fashioned, but I believe that in society romance wins over sex. It might not seem that way, but most of those around me are either single and celibate or in a committed relationship or married. I know of one guy that has slept with 15 women, and a lot of that can be accounted for because he goes to a lot of parties and doesn't have respect for himself.