How to ask a girl out

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Sorry, just saw this first part.

I am a believer in chemistry. So, I understand this second piece. When I started dating Mr. Rath, it began with a series of computer fixes. I had known him online, and he agreed to come and help a Single Mom in Distress when my hard drive failed and I had all my children's pictures on there. About #3 visit, I realized I felt like I was going to faint when he stood near me, and I could smell the clean soap on his skin. I was completely smitten. There's nothing at all wrong with that. If he'd turned me down, I would have been so sad and I barely knew him in real life!! That just means you're alive, and maybe the next gorgeous girl won't have a boyfriend.

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Wow... I can't even believe some of the interesting theories y'all have about women. Go for an average looking chick in your math class because beautiful women want a super hot boyfriend? Also, the one about how if she were interested she would have checked him out in class and he would have noticed... Isn't he aspie? If so, he's not necessarily going to pick up on a beautiful girl checking him out. I'm an aspie, and I know I never pick up on that stuff. I had a boyfriend request the song "She Don't Know She's Beautiful" one time at a country dance club he dragged me to because I never had a clue how many guys rubber-necked when I walked into a place dressed up. On top of that, not checking a guy out means absolutely nothing in female-world. Most of my friends are rarely interested in a guy until he expresses an interest in her and it prompts her to start thinking about the guy in that way.

From a beautiful girl's point of view... (okay, granted a beautiful aspie woman... but my attractive NT friends would agree with me)

I say nothing ventured nothing gained. My experience with many hot guys is that they know they are hot and are used to women falling all over them. If a guy like that walked up to me and told me I was beautiful and then asked me out, I would roll my eyes because I've heard it a million times and recognize it as just a line. If a quiet guy I'd just talked to a few times walked up to me and told me I was beautiful and asked me out, I would be flattered and maybe even do a coffee date. The one thing you want to be careful about is that whether you have the guts to approach her that way or not doesn't matter; it is how she would receive you being the person to deliver the compliment that is important. Make sure she would be receptive to such a compliment from you. Like if she is ending conversations claiming to be really busy every time you talk, she is not going to take it well.

I cut out the rest of the advice I was going to give since you said you were going get over it because of the boyfriend (just keep in mind college boyfriends come and go pretty quickly), but really... don't listen to half of what the guys on this thread said about beautiful women. It is not true.

Hey, wanna go out?

Keyz profile says she's really a male.

doesn't matter. if the advice is solid. take it.

"Tend" to, yeah. Not always the case though. I've known plenty of hot girls who dated average guys. Even a few who dated unattractive guys (and get this, there was no money involved ). Really, it's not so set in stone.

How is it creepy to put some thought into how to ask out someone you admire? Not everybody is that smooth.



Maybe better off not dating people you aren't attracted to?

Can you tell me where these mythological creatures happen to be or no?

And they don't need to be hot either... anything up to my own weight/girth (which is considerable in it's own right) would be fine for me. What I'm more interested in is a woman that actually likes me for me... [i]that[/] is what is mythological in this day and age...

I'll be brutally honest....it is not creepy, it is the way a lot of us aspies work, we obessess over things privately. I have to say it would be kind of creepy to just say "you're gorgeous" to someone you have barely talked to. I would say it would be best to go up to her and just have a casual conversation. Then, invite her to go to something with some other people as a group, perhaps even with some fellow classmates as a study group or something. Then ask her out to do something just the two of you together. I believe this would be the best way to go about it without being creepy while also giving yourself some time to get to know her better as well as giving her a chance to get to know you a bit better.

ok well. Your idea of just kind of going up to her like that. I dont think that would be a good idea. Because for one thing i know alot about girls i am friends with alot of girls. And i can tell you. That idea. Would be like a swift kick to the pants. Because it would take her by surprise. And if anything it would scare her off. Big time. That has happened several times with me. What you need to do is find a way to ease into that kind of stuff. It doesnt happen over night. The main key is patience. What i usually do personally is i dont ask them out right away. Because that would most definitly make you look like a creeper i can gurantee it. What you wanna do is this. You need to just talk to her. Openly. No real intentions at first. Because alot of the time girls will decline a date because they feel like you hardly know them and they hardly know you. So step one. Get to know her. Find what makes her tick see if you guys have anything in common and also see if it is even worth it. Because my friend. Beauty is never the best part of a woman most times it shouldnt even matter because its not what makes them beautiful on the outside. But rather their own heart what makes them beautiful and unique on the inside. Because a woman loves a man that thinks they matter or knows a girl matters. Alot of times most guys our age dont give a crap. And that kind of turns off a light in a girls head that doesnt want anything to do with guys. Girls love a man that wonders what they want to do in life or what their dream and aspirations have been in life. That is my point of view off my experience. Message me or something if you want some more help. I hope i helped with what i gave.

Wise at age 17. I'm impressed.

wow. Totally didnt expect that based on your post earlier. Thats honesty right? haha but thank you. Almost eighteen very close. But in case you were wondering i am not gay. Cuz most gay guys know that kind of stuff about girls. I just talk to girls i hang with girls. I dont have a girlfriend right now. Cuz i personally like having a lot of female friends. I had a girlfriend once and i made a error in judgement and broke up with her. Very bad mistake. But she and i are still pretty close. But yes thanks. That truly means alot to me. Teachers were calling me wise at like age twelve haha but thank you.

It might depend on how you know the girl.

Straight up asking some girl you just met or have never spoke to before would probably not fare well. I think most girls would find that too aggressive and creepy.
I find it a bit easier to ask out casual acquaintances as that usually seems to be good point to determine whether you want to date, friend, or ignore someone and the other person kind of knows you by then but hasn't pigeon holed you into the friend zone yet.