My Aspie girl's a tricky one :p...

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Internet message boards are full of opinions, and therefore, people are going to make friends and enemies. Just because the members of this board (or most of them anyway) have Aspergers doesn't mean that they are all going to be friendly to one another? An analogy for it is if two people are in a club together of a similar interest...just because they share the same similar interest doesn't mean they are necessarily going to get along as people.

If the OP wants a high five for having an internet girlfriend, why not just talk to his real life friends? Why rely on random strangers who might see the situation more objectively and therefore tell him things he doesn't want to hear?

Okay, so I posted a comment on how it seem showy offy to do what he does posting the pics of his GF in threads he makes, he replied, and I ended it there saying congrats as he's had video chat and verified her identity... it was over.

And then you jump in, call me a hypocrite and a creep, someone else a newbie, and now you're complaining about derails and people critisising each other?

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Actually i already got real-life high fives from alot of my lady friends congratulating me even though i didn't even tell them. & ironically among my guy friends it didn't even seem to raise an eyebrow though i did tell them.

Well I'm glad Sean is oblivious to all the drama, I want to apologise to him for thinking of him as showing off. Thats what it looked like but may not be the case, maybe i'm just a negative nelly.

I am glad you're happy with your GF, and now the whole identity thing is cleared up, just seems like good fortune and a success story.

I'm not sorry for arguing with other people here, but I won't ruin your thread any more.

Sean, congratulations. I hope it works out for you, and it made sense to me that you wanted to show pictures of her (though I might think twice about that after the whole "we'll both be pleasuring ourselves to her pictures" comment).

I do have a question (mainly for hale bop) which I guess will show off how incredibly out of touch I am with the web world: Are fake internet girlfriends really a common problem? Is it particularly a problem in the AS community or is it common everywhere? I'm not really into the web a social networking thing (don't facebook, myspace, twitter, etc.) and I've only ever used it to connect with people I already knew in real life. This forum is a first for me.

I'm amazed to think that there is (and is need for) an established list of known fakes. Makes me sad.

Thanks

& yeah, that kind of disgusting comment has me kind of reluctant to post more pictures up now

It's common enough. It's common sense to talk to someone with webcams before meeting them, or at the very least talk to them on the phone, in my opinion, though.

@Seanmw - Look, I think it's really inappropriate for you to post pics of your gf's rack on a website. Face shots are one thing - the rack shot is a whole different story. I'm not claiming to know your motivation, but that pic has the effect of objectifying your gf - whether you intended to do that or not. IMO, that pic says to me, "Look at my gf - she's built like a brick house - ain't I one lucky dude?" Like I said, I have no way of knowing your motivation, but if I were her, I wouldn't like it. Frankly, I'm not her and I don't like it - it's disrespectful.

The rack shot?

I actually had to go back and look at the pictures again to see what you're talking about. I thought "Did I really not notice that one of the pictures was showing off flagrant cleavage or something?"

No, I didn't. It's a picture of her reading. Out of curiousity, if it had been the exact same picture with a small-chested girl, would you still have thought it was inappropriate? I doubt it. What if she had been overweight, so you wouldn't assume the picture was intended to show off? Honestly, women have enough body shame issues without feeling like they have to hide their bodies away from sight.

(This is, of course, operating on the assumption that Sean had permission from her to post the pictures. Because if he didn't, he shouldn't be posting ANY of them)

No offense, Aspiewifey, but what do you think the source of that "pleasuring ourselves" comment is? Or the "I'd so do her" comment? I think you may be in the minority on this one, cause I'm a straight female, and I noticed it. Since there are already two pics of this girl's (quite lovely) face, what exactly is that third pic displaying? Her literacy? Again, I'm not questioning the OP's motivation, but I am saying it's inappropriate - and that has nothing to do with breast size. I mean, let's be frank here - these are pictures, after all. Pictures are intended to show images, not character or non-visible qualities. The only reason to include a body shot of a girl is to display her body. And displaying the body of a woman to a "webful" of strangers is, in my book, objectification.

I think it is just a standard shot of a girl. lot of people wear low cut tops these days, the shops are full of them. And this top just shows a sliver of cleavage. Anyway, I think that a shot like that would make little difference to the male mind. Men have wolf-whistled at me (when I was that age) when I was dressed head to foot in a heavy wool coat, scarf and pants. Men would drool over a woman wearing a tracksuit and taking the garbage out, from my knowledge.

@zen_mistress, there have been a few men who have commented, quite directly, in this thread that they consider that pic masturbation material. I didn't say the pic itself is pornographic, I said it was a way of objectifying this girl (although I'm not saying that is intentional). If I were the OP, I kinda wouldn't want other guys masturbating to a pic of a girl I was dating. I sure wouldn't want to have been the one providing the material. The OP is young however, and now is as good a time as any to become a little bit smarter about the use/abuse of the internet.

I just dont agree. People the OP's age grew up with the internet, whereas older people are more cautious. In the future, people's lives will be lived more on the internet, not less...

And I think the guy who commented about masturbating over her photo would probably masturbate over a photo of ET, he seems that randy. I dont think posting a picture of a girl would suddenly change this.

@zen_mistress, you're entitled to your opinion. "Growing up" with the internet, however, is no excuse for being oblivious to how it's eroding our right to fundamental privacy - and how we're helping it along. And when that privacy is gone, it's gone. I'm not talking about folklore or urban legends, either. I'm talking about real and serious damage that can be done and is being done to people's lives because people put too much information out in forums and other websites that anyone can access. This young lady is a pretty girl, and she lives in Indianapolis, and she's on FB, and I believe we know her age and a lot of other details about her. At the very least, we know enough about the OP to track her down through him, because he's published his FB link. That's just not smart. And frankly, she should be able to depend on him to use better judgment in order to protect her interests.