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Aspiewifey
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18 Mar 2010, 4:33 pm

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Then why is it that all intelligent men I know personally feel a strong desire for an equally intelligent woman who likes to have in depth conversations with them? In fact, there is little I find more attractive than a woman who can easily beat me in real life discussion on topics like politics of philosophy.


Well, partly because the experience I'm recounting wasn't with men...it was highschool and college boys. I'm married now to a brilliant man, so I guess I can't really complain. But it never ceases to amaze me how when we relate our early experiences to each other, the stories of feeling overlooked and ignored are so similar. All I can think is that men and women BOTH are somehow culturally trained to look for love in all the wrong places.


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The only reason why I can imagine anyone would dumb themselves down, is to attract unintelligent or at least shallow men and in my opinion that's pretty damn stupid itself.


A LOT of people think anyone is better than no one. Again, not my take anymore, but there was a time when I'd have settled for the attention anyone was willing to bestow on me. Call it stupid if you want, but I think it's more sad than stupid.

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Aspiewifey wrote:
Even in this day and age, women pay the price if they are too smart, too aggressive, too strong. Going through school, the men who regarded me as an intellectual equal, even the ones who were perfectly friendly and respectful, de-feminized me. Like they could handle female mental equality only if they completely desexualize her.


WTF?!?


Like I said...teenage boys.



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18 Mar 2010, 5:35 pm

Aspiewifey wrote:
Well, partly because the experience I'm recounting wasn't with men...it was highschool and college boys. I'm married now to a brilliant man, so I guess I can't really complain. But it never ceases to amaze me how when we relate our early experiences to each other, the stories of feeling overlooked and ignored are so similar. All I can think is that men and women BOTH are somehow culturally trained to look for love in all the wrong places.


Maybe it's an Aspie thing, but I don't feel like I'm trained in any way on that issue. In fact, it sometimes feels like I'm just lost in a desert...

Aspiewifey wrote:
A LOT of people think anyone is better than no one. Again, not my take anymore, but there was a time when I'd have settled for the attention anyone was willing to bestow on me. Call it stupid if you want, but I think it's more sad than stupid.


Well, I guess I tended to get a crush on any woman giving me more than the usual amount of attention so I shouldn't say too much here, but still.... Would you really want to attract just any moron with half a brain just because he gives you some attention?!?

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Like I said...teenage boys.


I was the only boy in a class filled with teenage girls and they all hated me.... so don't go there :P



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18 Mar 2010, 6:39 pm

if your last thread is anything to go by, I can see why women stay clear of you.