why women to date jerks, but chase after them also?

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Its less of the parents relationships, more of the childs upbringing tbh.

My ex's were jerks. Pure and simple to understand. You can't change someone if they don't want to change so it's best to move on. They will change if they wanted to such as if they didn't want to lose their partner, they would change. What's ironic is, I told my first ex I was thinking about breaking up with him and he took it well and was like "if we break up, we break up" and one day I dumped him and he fell into deep depression.

I did tell him why I was thinking about breaking up with him and he took it so well. Then he claimed I gave up on him after I dumped him. Hello he didn't want to change so why was he saying I gave up on him?

this pretty much sums up why i chase after as*hole guys. i'm sure it's why a lot of girls do. another reason why is probably because some women have low self-esteem and think if a nice guy likes her, it "doesn't matter" because something "has to be wrong with him" if he's into her and therefore he "doesn't count".

Women are messed up in the head.
Men are too but at least our dysfunction is more predictable.

Well people often DO desire for the things they cant get.
Plus when you are younger it's all about getting accepted by your peers or you would get bullied.

So sounds logical enough actually.

Perhaps it comes down to the biological ideal that women are the choosers due to the amount of investment in offspring and chasing after the jerks at least allows for an assessment of the worth of their inherent biological value.

What I mean is that dating a "nice guy" gives no indicator of serious evaluation of the value of the female in the relationship... Due to eagerness (desperation some would say)... but just kind of automatic approval from the nice guy for the girl. This could lead to a false positive assessment of the female's worth... Whereas chasing after the "jerk" gives an active process of evaluating the female's status. It's kind of like what H_B was sayin in her post.... They want that approval from the jerk cause it's perhaps not given so freely. I'm just tryin to explain why that might be.

idk.

I always thought it was an insecurity issue.

What I'm still wondering is how much can women shift this urge to be gratified in healthy territories or alternate means? Both genders have destructive sides/urges to their sexuality, I'm just wondering what helps women get their heads around this.