Question for members who are "religious"

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I'd be cool dating anyone of any religion to be honest, although I'd have reservations about Evangelicals/Baptists and extreme offshoots of satanism - basically if it doesn't interfere with my beliefs (which to be honest would be quite difficult ) or chosen lifestyle then it's absolutely no problem at all.

That might not be suprising if it turns out he's a Mormon.

This thread reminded me of the episode the psychic vortex from The Big Bang Theory.

Would she object dating someone from the same religion?




Dating is not like getting married right?

Sex seem to be an important issue I think, what if someone you are dating believes in sex after marriage only or wether they think some sexual practices are abominations, I believe that would be an important issue to consider.

What if they reject medication or few medical practices (eg blood transfusions) for religious reasons? Although that would seem to apply when it comes to family planning.

What if they are racists, homophobes, etc?

I tend to think that compatibility is very important.

Save it for the PPR forum.

By defending the idea that religion does not make one sexually dysfunctional, an inference is made that people she encountered have been questioning this. That wasn't exactly what I was thinking but now that she brought it up, and then disappeared, well... I've encountered this issue on more than one occasion, so now I am thinking that maybe people question this because sometimes there's something to it.

Someone can turn to religion after many years of whoring about and then becoming jaded for whatever reason. Often, it's a backlash against one's own former sinful ways, so heads up! A freebie virtue is thus acquired in forgoing something one was not planning to continue doing anymore anyway. I am at the very opposite end of this continuum, and I'm not all that interested in checkout plans as there are still too many things I have yet to experience.

BTW, whoever I date must be OK
with premarital sex.

What say you?

Demanding no sex before marriage would be a deal-breaker for me. I can vaguely imagine circumstances in which that would be acceptable, like if for some reason we had to marry quickly (like if one of us was living in another country) and she was still (bizarrely) also comfortable with having a prenuptial agreement, maybe that would be OK. But most of the time, if you think that, it's over.

My experiences with religious people have been opposite of what people typical assume. The people who wer the most religious; wer actuly the ones who had wild parties. They thought their religious beliefs wer a free pass to do what they wanted because they wer religions. I'm NOT saying that all religious people are like that but what I am saying is that I try to judge people by they way they practice their religion/belief;s the way they fallow the teachings ect. Some people can be extremely hypocritical about things; like lots of people assume that sense I'm a secular humanist, I do not have many morals yet I am straight edge & never had sex at 27. I cant say the same for a lot of the religious people I knew in high-school

I am Secular Humorist, I don't really care what my partners religion is as long as they don't push it on me or others, and thats just a joke btw I am atheist.

I'm a christian female and I wouldn't date a non-christian. Must be a strong evangelical christian.

I'm a Lutheran, but indifferent about what denomination she is, as long as it's not too strict.

I am a Christian and have been married twice to Christians; both marriages have ended. I have come to believe that my partner does not have to share my spiritual beliefs or journey, only respect them and allow me to live according to my deepest beliefs and wishes. I in turn should show them the same attitude.

This is a tough question. I am a Christian so would I date a non-Christian? Perhaps, but it would depend on the "non" part. I would have no interest in being with a Satanist/Wiccan/Pagan or Atheist. A Jew, well, Christianity is a branch of Judaism so, maybe. An Agnostic, possibly.

I feel that being with a Christian would be very important to me, overall, as our differences in vital views very well might cause much friction between us.

I am Agnostic and my fiancee is Catholic, so yes I would, because I do.

I don't see Atheists going around trying to force other people to be Atheists too. Meanwhile that was the Christian/Catholic modus operandi for hundreds of years, it has tapered off some in more recent times, but there are still many who attempt to convert others.

And the majority of Christians I've talked to have a "well I hope they find their way," attitude about anyone who is not Christian. As if a person is lost and needs to "see the light," so they can be Christian too or else they don't have as much value.

So, I would say Christians have a hell of a lot more arrogance than Atheists do, and yes pun was intended.

I personally am Agnostic, and think that everyone should choose whatever religion suits them best personally. The only time I get annoyed with someone else's religion choice is when they try to force it on me, or have an attitude that they are better because of what they believe.

I'm Catholic, and my religion is a big part of my life. But somehow I don't seem to have a lot in common, religiously, with most devout Catholics. I came to believe in AA/Al-Anon, and Christianity is more of a metaphorical language to express how I relate to the "God of my understanding" (as they say in the 12-step groups) than the source and foundation of my faith itself. Catholic practice, specifically the Eucharist, is a very powerful symbol of the love between God and me. I want to be with someone who understands that language, the metaphor of Incarnation and crucifixion and sacrament.

I had a Shia Muslim boyfriend once. I tried, I really tried to find a common language to express a common belief in God. His faith was a childish faith -- I think I understand that, I think it's because he was a refugee who had to leave his home before transitioning to an adult faith, and to reject his childish faith would have been to reject his country and family and all his hopes for a different future for his people. But the upshot was that we couldn't talk about God, I couldn't talk with him about this central force in my life, and it was alienating.

I would very much like to be able to marry a man with whom I could share that part of my life. When I was younger I fell in love with priests a couple of times ... thank God that hasn't happened in 20 years or so. If I ever do marry, I very much want to marry in the Church, so whether he's Catholic or not, please God he will be open to that.

Right now I have a killer crush on my landlady's boyfriend.... He's asked her to marry him but although she's been legally separated from her husband for 5 years, she hasn't gotten around to filing for divorce. She seems to care about the boyfriend but to be unenthusiastic about sharing his lifestyle, a lifestyle that looks like paradise to me (he lives on a beautiful, secluded 54 acres; she's an extravert, I'm an introvert, to her it no doubt looks depressingly isolated, but to me ... ah, idyllic). I think he's sick of waiting, and might be open to a woman who would really want him and all he offers. Well, he seems to be very open-minded and curious about religion, knows he doesn't know much, and maybe he'd be open to my religion, I don't know. His current girlfriend, my landlady, is a Mormon, and he sometimes goes to church with her; he's also somehow let the Jehovah's Witnesses in and is studying the Bible with them. I lent him a book last week to give him a different perspective on some of their assertions about the historical origins of the Nicene Creed and mainstream trinitarian theology. I think, as open-minded as he is, that he might be glad to have the opportunity to learn more from a more mainstream position. He just wants to learn, he's flexible and open (and *oh sigh* sexy as hell, might I add *sigh*). And honestly, I'm not a dogmatic Catholic, I don't really get the whole Trinitarian thing either -- it's all about the active relationship between me and God, how God changes my life, how much I need grace and how much grace does for me. So I just want someone with the open and humble orientation toward the divine, and not strictly tied to some other denomination -- I want him to participate in my church with me, I don't care if he totally buys all its dogma.

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