I want justice.

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[His social skills don't matter, I'm purely talking about his intentions and plans. They are just wrong. That they are common doesn't make them right, and they can still hurt women.]

The guy I mentioned is an example, but yet I dislike him having these intentions. I don't like him doing this, just as I don't like my former bullies to be all happy and never having to experience any form of retribution for what they've done to me and other people. It isn't fair.

Please don't judge me too easily.....

Here is the problem. It's about justice.

I've met a person using a forum for people with some kind of handicap or difficulty, varying from physical handicaps to shyness, and we decided to meet eachother.This guy is now 22 years old and due to social phobia and past depression still a virgin, but yet he's very eager to have sex. I thought we'd meet as friends, but he started to act as if he was in love with me, continuing to do that over MSN after the meeting.

I have been in love once, for a couple of days, and therefore I know how you act in such a state and as people have fallen in love with me earlier (don't ask me why) I know how you look and act if you are. This guy was lying, no doubt about it. He even told me over MSN when he was drunk how much he wanted to get laid. Fine. He also gave compliments that were obvious lies, he probably thinks every girl wants to be model so he told me I'm so pretty that I should become a model. Give me a break.

This whole situation makes me angry because he wanted me to believe him and lose my virginity to him. My body is nothing but a mass of flesh and virginity is worth nothing, I think, but there are millions of girls out there who DO care, who DO add value to their virginity. He knows that and therefore it's quite a severe moral crime. A moral crime he committed to me. I do not want to tolerate this. Autistic = naive it seems, otherwise there wouldn't be that much 40-year-old creeps who try the same because they want to f*ck an 18-year-old. Yes, I've met several of them through forums, all blocked on my MSN list. Approaching little innocent girls.

It's nothing but a pathetic and pretty disgusting attempt of taking advantage of someone's weaknesses/disorder.

Furthermore, he could say the same stuff to another, more naive girl, and she would lose her virginity to a lying bastard who doesn't give a sh*t about her except for what's between her legs.

That's a moral crime and it diserves punishment. There are WAY too many moral crimes being committed, and I have a hard time allowing this moral crime to happen as the SO MANIEST without any form of retribution. Billions of moral crimes take place, just look at the amount of bullies.

I wish I could get back at him in some way......

Even though my (and other's) bullies will remain unpunished, how can I still let this happen? Justice in one case in a million is better than no justice at all. It would make the world an extremely, unimaginably small bit less unjust. It's perhaps nothing but a priciple.

Is there any way I can get equity for this? I have a hard time just letting this happen. I want to see justice, even more because he might now be trying to ruin the ''first time'' for another girl.

Replying is useless... apparently you can't get that even though something isn't a legal crime, it still can be a moral one. That's why I spammed the word 'moral'. If it'd be a legal crime too I could leave that word out as it'd save me some typing.

The fact that I knew what he was trying doesn't make it better either. The crime ITSELF doesn't change.

If anything it sounds as if your the monster who has serious issues here having turned this into a personal vendetta when you have no solid evidence to support anything you are saying.

Also you claimed to have been in love but only for a couple of days. How are you possibly in a position to pass judgement on anyone when you clearly don't know what love is yourself.

The world tells us to watch out for ourselves when it comes to the concept of moral crimes. That is basically what the posters are telling you. It isn't your business what moral crimes a person commits as long as they aren't against you, and to the extent they are against you, the law does not allow remedy. You do your best to protect yourself but there is no other official buffer. So deal with your own feelings as you need to and move on.

Because it was obvious. When on MSN he told me he was going to watch a film because he had to and that he felt awful about it while he was still on the computer when ''away'', but then playing World of Warcraft. He even introduced me to it as he wanted the reward, so later on I knew when he was online, and indeed, after I started to play too he never watched a film with his family members again. The reason he introduced me to that game was because he wanted a certain reward you get for making people to play and thereby spend money on the developers. It's an ingame advantage.

He even told me when drunk how desperate he was to have sex. That's quite an indication. He also behaved like a bad soap actor. I found out about numerous times when he claimed he was eager to come on MSN but that he couldn't that he was lying. Apparently I was/am too boring.

Because it was obvious..........yeah because you can really tell when something is that clear over the internet (that's sarcasm by the way incase you dont get it)

Maybe regarding the film and world of warcraft, he changed his mind. As for wanting you to join it so he could get an ingame advantage whilst playing it online.......where is the crime in that? If a friend of yours asked for the same favour would you instantly assume they were just after a quick sh*g? Probably not. People get horny whilst drunk, that's human nature as the brakes come off for a lot of people under the influence of alcohol. I'm sorry but your 'evidence' is is nothing but trivial and you are clearly just twisting everything to fit your hasty and unjustified assumption. Did you ask him out right whether he was only after 'one thing' or not? Oh wait you didn't and even if you had you still wouldn't have believed him anyway as your conclusion of his character was already made up well in advance.

Go see a doctor or a therapist, you clearly have unresolved issues that need addressing.

OP, how many people have to tell you that your perception of this situation is inappropriate before you're willing to accept that it may be based on inappropriate expectations and inaccurate conclusions? It seems as though you've resolved to abandon your plans for retribution against this kid, which is good. But you've shown absolute inflexibility in your evaluation of this situation. That kind of inflexibility will prevent you from incorporating new knowledge into your understanding of the world and people - and it will hinder your maturity into adulthood. I really encourage you to think about that.

I simply cannot find this alright behavior. This isn't alright, I spent some time explaining why. Because virginity etc matters to a lot of people. It matters much. I also fail to understand how you can find the behavior acceptable or appropraite just because it's common, or because I don't care that much. I'm a rare exception in this and my perception regarding sex doesn't matter when evaluating the morality of his actions.

How can one see this as acceptable behavior? Please explain this.

Let's examine what you say he did:

Said he was in love with you: acceptable

Said you were pretty enough to be a model: acceptable

Drunkenly said he wanted to get laid because he was a virgin: in this particular context- inadvisable and unlikely to work but still on the border of acceptable.

You seem to think that a smitten man's attempts to seduce the woman he's fallen for are immoral. I don't agree with that. If you think a man should never attempt to say anything that might be taken as a sexual invitation to a woman he thinks he's dating, you are in for a whole lot of moral outrage. Most of the planet thinks that this is acceptable. The exception is Saudi Arabia. I suggest you move there.

Sigh. THis is completely out of context. I advice you to read the first post.

There's nothing wrong with attempting to get sex, what I do find wrong is lying about it to get it, thereby hurting someone.

Can't you read? I've met him in person.

By the way, he asked me first on MSN what my age was. Fine. 17. Immediately he asked me when I turned 18. He started to talk to me a lot more after my birthday.