Where do people find their bf/gf/friends?

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That, and "There's someone out there for everyone."

When I turned 45, I decided to go to a church singles group date. I had never met these people. There were about 8 people there and all were very nice. The problem was that I was the ONLY person there who was actually single. All of the others were either divorced, widowed or currently married. I felt so horribly out of place as they were all talking about their kids and stuff like that. Eeeek! I couldn't get out of there fast enough. If anything, it was a serious reality check for me though.

It was here, actually. I wasn't looking, and neither was he; it just started as friends and went from there (quickly).

My parents met at a Kroger where they both worked. My paternal grandparents met in college. My little brother met his latest crush at the lake (though it didn't work, as far as I know). I don't know about the rest of my family.

I met my boyfriend at school.

I met my boyfriend at school.

I met one of my ex boyfriends in a MMO game.
One of my girlfriends also met her boyfriend in a MMO.
I think it's a nice way to meet people if the game has a good community.

I met my last boyfriend in a social networking site.

I met one of mine through a church thing, the others through friends.

Some places people meet partners:
1. School/college (even if you aren't in school, you can take a 'fun' college class just to meet some people)
2. church activities/volunteering/community service
3. online
4. through friends
5. through family (blind dates and stuff)
6. work

Can't think of anymore right now.

Girlfriend #1- a Facebook group for the college I currently attend.

Girlfriend #2- I've known her for ages (her brother and I are best friends).

I guess being on a site like this you are communicating with people who share a common condition and so that is a way in which you establish communication. Perhaps you should engage in speaking to people one to one via PM or msn who share common interests as yourself? Sometimes it helps to take a risk and simply approach people and if you find them not interesting or you don't like them then the advantage of the internet is you can kinda block such people.

Outside of the internet though I don't really know what your home city of Gdansk/Danzig is like for industrial/ebm music. I'm quite fortunate that I live near a city like London that has a healthy music scence that caters to all genres. I found I made a lot of friends through a mutal interest in such music in my late teens and early 20's. A large cosmopilitan city like London attracts people from all walks of life so you have a greater chance of meeting people who you share common values and interest with.

If Danzig is not like that maybe you should venture outside of your familair surroundings travel around central and western europe or other parts of Poland? Such an experiance would increase your confidence and put you in situations were you are meeting new people all the time.

Friendships are just as valueable as relationships if you are seeking to avoid becoming an anti-social hermit.

Making other friends is definitely a great way to find a girl/boyfriend - I met the only proper girlfriend I've had at a friend's birthday night out and have had much better contact with women at other events.

The problem is I think the OP struggles making friends too - something I can relate to completely. Even at places with common interest, I wouldn't know who to approach to talk to or even what to say to them if I did.

I'm on the door step of Manchester city centre so have access to lots but couldn't go to anything alone and my social circle has dwindled to an almost non-existant state so feel in a similar position.

Oddly enough i've attracted both women and homosexuals online

one gay guy kept IMing me once on myspace trying to convince me to let him give me a blowjob, he even offered to buy me food and stuff.
I kept having to tell him no, and it got a little annoying once.
But it was all largely just hilarious to me .

Oddly enough, the same thing has happened to me (and honestly, I'm 100% straight).

I would never try and chat up a straight guy on MySpace. Although, if either of you are interested......

My current GF and I used to be neighbors. In the past, I have most commonly met partners through mutual friends, but have also dated women I met at bars, via work or school and on WP.

I met my partner at "camp". There are various social events and activities that people can go to...choose something that you're interested in and if you're in luck, you can connect with someone.

As a lesbian, I attended a weekend camp where we stayed at a camp and had a blast. I was only able to approach my partner when an acquaintance of mine showed interest in this other woman. It was then I could approach her and let her know that "someone" wanted her to go on a boat ride. I made sure that I sat by her and we talked and later exchanged telephone numbers.

I'm not AS but I do feel extremely socially awkward when it comes to dating...

As I'm 30 and mostly a shut-in (save for the occasional rock concert or geek-culture convention that takes place in Cincy), I've done most of my socializing online this past decade, either on social networking sites (Twitter/MySpace/Facebook) or forums for my favorite musical acts or video games...I haven't found a GF yet, but I don't think there would be many girls living around me who'd go for a guy like me either...

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

I met both of my past boyfriends online, and both were amazing relationships.The first was through the popular dating site Lavalife (lasted about 5 months) and the other I met through the gothic/industrial networking site Vampirefreaks (lasted 3.5 months).