Where all the aspie WOMEN at?

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ouch. that stings.

but, sadly, is probably true. Im diagnosed, but still have been working at overcoming the social issue AS presents.
Usually I can pass as an NT, right up until social gatherings....I appear really quirky.

the point is, generally NT women I can predict to a certain degree. But that creates the problem of they dont intrest me, and I dont like them.
Akward women, like my EX, really inturige me, keep me intrested in them. There is just so much more to thier personality, and everything.

maybe not just aspies, but really akward women. gamer girls, book-artsy types like me, creators. tinkering away.

I would figure some aspie women would be into the gamer, tinkering type.


Part of all of my questions and comments come from my jelousy over a few friends of mine, who have countless sucess with the ladies. even akward ones I kinda like, devolop things for them.

my ex, i keep mentioning and am so fond of in the worst of ways, i suspect dated me to get closer to one of them.
and yeah...he is an NT.

good lord, this is frustrating.
just gotta keep trying though, at least try to make some akward gal happy

I've also learned that since I'm beyond an exclusive, that they don't make autistic Russian-American girls. So, I'm dating someone whose NT.

Not to mention that most of my grandmother's friends don't have children.

Woman on the spectrum are hard to find, as like men on the spectrum, we're naturally anti(for the most part)-social. I myself am a hard one to track down. I think it's easier just to find someone with similar interests. Think of all the potential perfect matches you are missing out on by narrowing your search as you are.

very true.
I did narrow it. Ive dated NT's before, but as it usually happens, they just exile me after a certain point, dont really want me around.

I just kind of want to meet an aspie woman.
I think it would be intresting

Good summary. I'd add "and to b***h about all the stuff we have to deal with in our daily lives that is there because society isn't structured to suit our brain type".

good to b***h from time to time

Yeah, it's probably the only time I do, I'm not big on bitching, but sometimes you just need to vent frustration and alienation.

bewarethebob - I understand what you're saying, you're high functioning and don't feel you need "support". The support groups I go to are really more just social groups where people meet and befriend each other. I don't need so much "support" in that sense either, I blend in well as an NT for the most part, and have more than enough NT friends, but sometimes it's nice to spend time just with other Aspies.

Ive never met another aspie. only a woman I think was undiagnosed. Genreally I pass as a really wierd NT, but I am diagnosed. all of m friends until this point had to be NT, cause i didnt know a single aspie out there.

Yeah, well put. we dont need support, i think a rephrase is in order for groups like that, but in any case, I would be delighted to hang with other aspies for once in my life.

which brings me to biostructure's concern.

The bay area one's, [as he would claim, ive never been], are filled with shady people...perhaps I could do a bay area shout out to forum members?

Well sorry for stating the obvious book shops, EB games (with their NT boyfriend) OR at a "family entertainment centre" alone (often) or in a group (video game arcade)

Hell I've just come out of one just now after a 2 year hiatus and I suspect the young lass at the counter may be on the spectrum (18-19) quirky,cute, seemed really easy going . I could have killed at that age for a job like that, back in the day when the centres where dark, dingy, musty and far to often had creepy predatory men hanging outside I yearn for those days when these centres where not so clinical

As it's my # 1 AS hobbies I can say with authority their on bicycles. They say life is better on a bike and it is I kid you not , you should try it.

If everyone rode a bike it would be a more genteel , happier and less overweight world (not that i have a problem with fat people.)

I haven't had great experiences with online dating. It seems I tend to attract the overly agressive type who call me babe or chick. Not that I have a problem with it, in fact it's a bit flattering but if I want to get with a guy, I'd rather him take me a little more seriously than just a babe or someone who random at the moment. I'm not saying all guys like this are as*holes when they do this, I just don't feel comfortable with it.

Wish I could find an attractive gamer girl. There doesn't seem to be any who live in SW Ohio (or if there are, they're either already taken or quick to label me an "ugly creep")

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

^^^^^^^^^^^^

Their sure are a lot of superficial apsie men on these message boards, which i find surprising . I'd defiantly date a "ugly" gamer girl as long as she wasn't morbidly obese as in on a scooter at Wal-Mart kind , had puss oozing out of her orifices I'd take a shot at them,

Not that's gonna happen gamer girls are either taken or more often than not asexual.

Are you good looking BTW ?

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Gamer girls aren't hard to find, i've been through this already with some of you. Participate in gamer forums. Both my flatmate and I are single gamer girls.

Thing is though, they aren't nessicarily going to be interested in gamer guys. I've only met one gamer guy I've ever been interested in.

I tend to go for intelligent classy men, whereas she goes for the athletic sporty type.

You can find just as many fun friendly non gamer girls out there.

My husband and I are both aspie. We met on the net.

The good thing about online dating is, you are on there because you are motivated to find a partner. So is everybody else on there. I asked my husband for advice for the aspie men here, and he said that online is the only way to go, it saves a great deal of wasted time and effort trying to meet somebody in your day-to-day life. It also saves a good deal of embarrassment, if you're not too smooth of a pick-up artist.

He said that he had decided to just "be himself" online, and that way, any women he did meet already knew he was a little quirky. The fact that he and I are both aspies was a happy coincidence. I understood how he thought and why he sometimes went into his own little world. He and I did not have the same interests. He is heavily into computers and whatever else catches his fancy. I am techno-challenged and was more into the biological sciences, cats, conspiracy theories and other assorted things.

If you are both motivated to be in a relationship, and have a "meeting of the minds" as well as a basic attraction, everything else will hopefully flow naturally from that.

Your discomfort with the online dating scene is only because you haven't experienced it as a successful way to meet a partner. YES there will be rejection from NTs. Expect it and try not to take it personally (yes I know, easier said than done). Cast a wide net and be yourself. All life is risk. Many aspies are afraid to try things because of their sensitive nature, but this world isn't geared for sensitive folks, so we must toughen up as best we can in order to get our needs met, too. Good luck no matter what you decide to do.