Single Aspie Men: Find Your Passion.

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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Why do you think i'm refering to what you are talking about as manure?

"Oh, just get another hobby and you will forget all about not having found the right girl and will never be loved or have sex or get do do everything that everyone else is doing". f*****g Idiots...!

I don't prescribe a new hobby. I prescribe thinking about how we might derive more fulfillment from any and all activities.

Maybe you're right, and I am just like the others. If their advice had no impact then mine won't either.

I think what I was really trying to get at is this; how can you know that you've truly reached the limits of how much happiness one can achieve as a single person?

My apologies if I'm not putting myself across well enough.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s ... y_of_needs

Self indulgence in DIY activities like sculpting clay pottery, watching 1950's movies or painting wooden ducks is NOT on Mazlows pyramid of needs. Love and Belonging is!

Clearly, the pyramid cannot demonstrate what i mean for a person who is asocial or asexual but it proves my point.

Would you like some cheese with that whine?

Yes, I think I am just starting to realize this, that most women will not accept a sexual relationship without wanting to spend a considerable amount of our lives together. This is something that would take a long time getting used to. That's why FWB is way preferable to a relationship, at least for the foreseeable future.

I felt reassured when I once saw an autistic woman on a dating site who said something like, "I don't want another person in my life, I've realized that doesn't work well, but I like sexual encounters, in fact very much so". That lets me know there are women out there in the same position, even if I never come across them.

Would you please use your brain before making a thread about stupid f*****g generic pointless advice?

I'm guessing you've never had a girlfriend, or haven't had one in a very long time so you forget what having a girlfriend is really like. Women aren't these special creatures. If anything, a woman is going to judge you more harshly than me or anyone on this site ever could.

I understand that you've seen a lot of Hollywood movies, and "want what they have"...that isn't real-life dating or anything close. Couples fight, manipulate one another, go without having sex for weeks. On top of it, an inexperienced man like yourself would either last a date at the most (if even that) or would be used for your money. Dating is a social man's game.

And i'm guessing that you are complete moron by creating these threads and answering with stupid statements as you just did. GFY.

That's just a picture. A flawed one at that. My pyramid would be circular.

The map is not the territory.

The activities you list would fall into the 'higher' need categories of achievment, self esteem, creativity etc. I reckon that if you can't 'complete' one tier of the pyramid because you have a brick missing, you work on the others. You can always slot it in later (fnar)

This is a good point. Introversion does present it's challenges in finding a suitable mate. To expand on that, I'll make what's probably an off-putting analogy to some. If you are on a job search for that "perfect" job, and one in which they agree and hire you, the same principles apply,

First of all, you must know yourself and be looking for the job that is your best fit. If you don't know yourself, you will be constantly in jobs that leave you unfulfilled, or worse miserable.

You must be willing to put yourself out in the market socially. Staying in and severely limiting your social interaction will leave with paltry choices, and will also hamper your skills in the long run.

The more you go out and participate and interact with other people, as opposed to things or information, the more your chances increase of finding a mate.

This is what leaves many Aspies (both men and women) at a disadvantage if they seek companionship. Often social interaction is difficult, if not outright draining. But, do it we must if we are to find someone with whom to share intimacy.