are you still virgin?

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The university is an hour and a half away from home. So it's far enough to keep her from popping up without calling me first. This is my last year though so I'll be home for a few years after that to raise enough money to move out.

Yes. She says that she wants me to be married and have children someday but I'm not too sure. :/

She knew about him and she HATED him. She never met him but on the grounds that he had long hair and listened to metal music, she deemed him unfit for me. She doesn't know that I went to third base with him and it's none of her beeswax. Let's just say that she sounded really happy when I told her that he left me, even though I was sobbing on the phone. D:

Also, medicinal my ass. She has no prescription. She just sips it when she's stressed. She'll go through a bottle a week sometimes. :/

I lost it at age 29.

Yea.. from the sounds of her.. I would wonder if she does want you having children period.
The wine.. I figured you would say my ass... or something close.
but sounds like it is her excuse.. 'medicinal' ..
so you could say the same thing with a meal..
stress relief..

A glass of red wine a day is meant to be good for you.

I agree.. but I think this 'woman' needs more of the bottle to make her 'relax' where her daughter is concerned, then the actual wine..

She sounds like my girlfriend's mother (who happens to not like me on the grounds that I have long hair and listen to metal).

My question is this: Regardless if whether or not you choose to have sex, how on earth would she enforce her rule of hers?
Also, the remark she made about killing you is pretty disturbing. If my parents threatened to kill me, that would be one thing. If my parents threatened to kill my child (hypothetically - I don't actually have a child ), I would be furious.

The effects of such overbearing parents tends to have a ricochet effect when the children get older. Its best to give kids the information they need to make intelligent decisions on their own rather than being a dictator which will lead to rebellion.

Surya - Yeah, I don't know. But if I were to ever ask why she's so strict with me, she'd just say "I'm your mother" and leave it at that. I could say the same. I like my strawberry smirnoff. It's tasty.

Ambrose_Rotten - I have no idea. If it were to actually happen, I think she would just hold ye olde Christian guilt over my head. "It's fine...you'll just have to repent to the Lord." She's pro-life so she wouldn't let me get an abortion but she's okay with killing me while preggers. I don't get her sometimes. :/

n4mwd - Pretty much. That's not how she works, sadly.

Erisad, you won't go to Hell for having sex outside of marriage. I was told when I was younger that I would go blind if I mastubated - the old saying. Years and years of mastubation and I can still see perfectly fine. Whats happening with your mother is probably due to your grandma and what she told your mother before you were born that sex has to be done in a certain way. Because your mother felt pressured as a child, shes now carrying on and pressuring you, kind of like a sick version of parental revenge.

Probably. Granted, she won't see it this way. D:

I'm a virgin and plan on staying that way until I find a guy who I actually love, and not the kind of "love" that ends in a few weeks, months, or a year.

Actually, I would rather wait until marriage because maybe then I'll be able to financially support a baby. I think it's pretty careless when people have sex when they're not ready to support a kid. SH-- happens! Yes I've heard of condoms and every other contraceptive out there, but so have a lot of pregnant women who thought that those things would surely prevent a pregnancy. It's not like taking a chance with gambling money or something; I could possibly be responsible for a whole new life, and I'm just not ready for that or even the slightest chance of it happening. /rant

I think its probably too late now. It appears that he may have left WP.

Lesson learned, I guess.

Yes and it doesn't look that it will be changing any time soon.

I am 20 years old and still a virgin!