09 Aug 2010, 7:06 pm
lotusblossom wrote:
jdcnosse wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully 
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise 
I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
I agree. The first time I had sex I was extremely nervous, but I didn't want to not go through with it because I thought that it'd be even more nerve-racking if I didn't go through with it. I thought that she'd probably think I was a weirdo. lol
yes I dont think he would have forgiven himself if he had not 'gone through with it'. I think thats the most esteem crushing thing for guys when they realise they have 'missed opportunities'. I think I was right to press my advantage as I knew he would get over his nerves once he got started, and he did, more than made up for it lol!
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I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
Yeah I think that's pretty much what's going to happen. He really does have bad anxiety. I used to, but I've had enough experience that I'm kinda past that and he unfortunately isn't.
You know what he was really upset and so was I, because he didn't tell me the reasons he was nervous until two days later. When were talking in the car he just said this isn't how real relationships start. He basically made me feel like a slut for wanting to have sex with him two months in after we'd done all the oral stuff and slept in in the same bed a couple times, which I kinda didn't get. All I know is that I felt not good enough, and unwanted because he would brag about how excited he was that he was going to lose it. Anyway he got upset in the store when I started educating him on the different condom brands and types, he told me not to be so loud even though I was almost whispering and there was no one around. I over estimated him. When we made up he said he did need the extra push and that next time we hang he'll listen to what I have to say about the different types of protection. He changed his song from wanting to wait to wanting try after I told him about my past experiences and how safe sex can be if you know what your doing.
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09 Aug 2010, 7:16 pm
Angel_ryan wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
jdcnosse wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
I agree. The first time I had sex I was extremely nervous, but I didn't want to not go through with it because I thought that it'd be even more nerve-racking if I didn't go through with it. I thought that she'd probably think I was a weirdo. lol
yes I dont think he would have forgiven himself if he had not 'gone through with it'. I think thats the most esteem crushing thing for guys when they realise they have 'missed opportunities'. I think I was right to press my advantage as I knew he would get over his nerves once he got started, and he did, more than made up for it lol!
You know what he was really upset and so was I, because he didn't tell me the reasons he was nervous until two days later. When were talking in the car he just said this isn't how real relationships start. He basically made me feel like a slut for wanting to have sex with him two months in after we'd done all the oral stuff and slept in in the same bed a couple times, which I kinda didn't get. All I know is that I felt not good enough, and unwanted because he would brag about excited he was that he was going to lose it. Anyway he got upset in the store when I started educating him on the different condom brands and types, he told me not to be so loud even though I was almost whispering and there was no one around. I over estimated him. When we made up he said he did need the extra push and that next time we hang he'll listen to what I have to say about the different types of protection. He changed his song from wanting to wait to wanting try after I told him about my past experiences and how safe sex can be if you know what your doing.
He could have just gotten overwhelmed (because I know there's many different kinds of condoms alone). Not to mention you're taking the private thing (sex) and talking about it in the store, even though there was no one around he probably was still nervous. I'm male and it took me awhile to get comfortable buying condoms. Now I don't worry about what the cashier things because I'm the male, so I should buy the condoms, and it's good that I'm playing it safe. lol
You took it slower than I did my first time lol In fact my first time we didn't even do much foreplay, just makeout and then the sex.
It's nothing you did, he's just got to get comfortable that if you guys do want to have sex, it'll most likely require condoms, and that there's really not much difference to them. I've tried many different kinds and I haven't noticed a difference from the ribbed ones vs regular. Although those warming ones worked.
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09 Aug 2010, 7:29 pm
I lost my virginity by sticking my wang in there 
Then filled the bag with the contents later and not "shortly" after neither
09 Aug 2010, 7:31 pm
09 Aug 2010, 7:52 pm
09 Aug 2010, 8:04 pm
10 Aug 2010, 1:30 am
lotusblossom wrote:
when they realise they have 'missed opportunities'. I think I was right to press my advantage as I knew he would get over his nerves once he got started, and he did, more than made up for it lol!
Thank you very much for the lovely boosting post.
10 Aug 2010, 3:07 am
Keith wrote:
I lost my virginity by sticking my wang in there Then filled the bag with the contents later and not "shortly" after neither
Then filled the bag with the contents later and not "shortly" after neither How did she feel about being referred to as 'the bag'?
10 Aug 2010, 3:59 am
Moog wrote:
Keith wrote:
I lost my virginity by sticking my wang in there Then filled the bag with the contents later and not "shortly" after neither
Then filled the bag with the contents later and not "shortly" after neither How did she feel about being referred to as 'the bag'?
You know I meant condom, right?
10 Aug 2010, 4:16 am
10 Aug 2010, 4:31 am
Hector wrote:
It took a while for me to connect the dots. The first thing I thought of was that you were referring to a woman as a "bag". The second thing was that you were talking about masturbating into some sort of bag. The third thing I thought of was a condom.
yes I thought that too
someone else called their sexual partner an 'it'
oh dear.
10 Aug 2010, 11:12 am
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