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Trust me, it really doesn't take a lot. Giving off a different energy can be enough on its own.

On an added note, when you see any of us in a video blog, your seeing us in a sheltered and self-directed state. Seeing us under pressure, ie. surrounded by people or sights/sounds we don't deal well with, and you usually see a completely different set of mannerisms come out.

Yes I agree with this as well.

What you describe here sounds like most pedophiles. Not accusing you, but pedophiles often feel like they are children too and that their victims are their peers. A 27 year old should not be dating teenagers. If it were my daughter I would have to kill you- sorry, nothing personal intended. No parent would understand why you like their teenager- you would never be able to explain that to them. Maybe there is a way that you can find to relate to mature women- therapy of some sort.

It's a sexual thing for pedophiles & it's NOT a sexual thing with me; I'm a borderline asexual. There's lots of cases in my area with barely teenage girls dating adults. If I was in my 40s & dating 19year-olds; people would NOT be calling it pedophilia.
I tried therapy out before for things & it did not help & cost me a lot of money. I can relate to women closer to my age sometimes if they have different mental things. Taking advantage of someone is the last thing I want to do. I suspect lots of Aspies have problems relating to people their age so I really don't see a problem with it. Maybe I'm mentally retorted or something

I know what you're saying. I feel like a kid too, I could play video games and have light hearted discussion with kids/teens etc and feel like it was my maturity level.

But it's different saying you'd DATE someone that young. It's ok just being able to relate to them, (I get along well with kids) but relating to them is not dating.

Dating is a romantic/sexual type of companionship, whether you're asexual or not. It seems to me like you just want friends, but even being friends with people that age makes one appear a pedo.

Do you realise that a lot of 20 somethings still feel young? It's a sign of the times. 50 years ago we would all have grown up by now. I am 25, I still stay with mum and dad on holidays, I own toys and video games. So do pretty much all the people I know.

And I have hung out with people a LOT older than me to be silly, play video games blah blah blah. You're not looking in the right places for people your age.

Women generally like older guys. Just because it may appear like I'm a pedo; it should NOT automatically mean that I am one. If the girl is having issues with drugs/alcohol, cutting/burning herself, anorexia & self esteem issues; I get her to lay off the drugs & alcohol, she calls me instead of cutting/burning when she's upset & I calm her down & talk her true it, she's happier about things, & I truly care about her & love her with all my heart; How does this make me a bad guy I think it's stupid that society gets to arbitrary set an age thing for love

Trust me nick007, you're not a Pedo. Now, I know a man who's 36 and just broke up with his girlfriend who was (just barely) 18 years old. Creeeeeepy. D:

Nick I wasn't trying to call you one. It is just not understood by a lot of people that you feel like these young ones are your peers. Parents will assume you want to take advantage because they want to protect their children. I can see why you would be mistaken for one is all, and I agree that if you do not have sexual feelings for them then you are certainly not a pedo, but be careful of what you do because some girl's dad might shoot and ask questions later. You know what kind of world we live in now- too many real pedos out there.

I'm glad you guys understand. I don't talk about this stuff offline with people much for obvious rezones but I have mentioned some stuff on other sites before & got attacked for it so I guess I'm a little defensive because I know lots of people won't understand. My psychs didn't understand either & my paperwork says I am one They never told me that thou but they asked me lots of questions about sexual stuff. They said I didn't have AS either thou so that might of had something to do with em misunderstanding. I was in a relationship years ago with a girl who was a bit younger than me. I was not looking for a relationship at the time & we were just friends at 1st. When she told me that she had feelings for me I did not want to get in a relationship with her because it seemed wrong & I was worried about her getting hurt or something. After a bit I realized that we were both happier & I was NOT harming her. We weren't together offline much thou because of distance & I'm not sure how much her parents knew about things but they did not seem to have a problem. They probably didn't know a lot thou & the one boy-friend she had before me had corrupted her but I was a good influence. I never got to tell my psychs all those details thou & I made the mistake of telling one of em that I kind of liked one of my neighbors who was 16 & I was 21 at the time. The psych started telling me how it was illegal & I could end up getting arrested & we had an argument about it. I told him how when her younger sister was 12; she was running around with an 18year-old who was giving her booze & drugs & the police wouldn't do anything about him. I was a family friend & was not a bad influence so I didn't think it would be a problem. My psych did not understand. I found out about that stuff around the time I quit seeing docs & got a copy of some reports witch I burned after reading a couple times.

As for as parents not understanding; I've been told by some before how they wish their daughters or granddaughters who were around my age would be interested in me instead of going out with jerks so apparently I make a good impression to some older adults. There's lots of kids running around with adults here. A guy I worked with was 38 & dating a 19year-old. Another work college's daughter was 14 & dating some guy who was like 22 & her dad was divorced & couldn't do anything about it. I also know a family who's letting a 35year-old live with their 16year-old daughter that he knocked-up & doesn't care about her. Some of the women I worked with were into older guys as well; it seems to becoming a trend. I think it's completely hypocritical that people are going to judge me but they don't seem to care about the real pedos who acridly are harming kids. I never looked for a relationship with someone who's not an adult but I am open to being friends with em & if things started to become more; I'll talk to my cousin about it who's a cop(well technically he's married to my cousin but I'm closer to him than any of my cousins) as long as I'm not having sex or doing any sexual stuff with anyone under 17 & I'm not crossing state lines & I'm not involved with any criminal behavior; it's technically legal.

I don't mention this stuff to people offline but some people do judge me as a perverted creep because of my interest, the way I look/act & the way I talk about sexual stuff. When people have conversations about sex or make sexual jokes; I don't respond the way typical NTs do & people can get a wrong impression.

Noone is saying you are a pedo. I dont think you are. It's just how it probably appears to the outside world.

I can't empathize with being viewed as a "creep".
Being female, my unwillingness/inability to socialize, look people in the eye when they're talking to me, etc
usually just gets me labeled "rude" or a b!tch.


It's interesting how AS is interpreted in different ways based on the gender of the person who has it.

I guess we've all got our crosses to bear.

Yup. I was labeled as a b***h for most of my life. Some people still view me that way but most don't anymore. Probably because I act all happy most of the time.

I think this is it. If you're not friendly, you're creepy. It may be your natural disposition not to be social, but someone who is social can't understand that and will think there's something terribly wrong.

"Someone's not the same as me! They must be WRONG, somehow!! !"

I think it's extra ridiculous considering that it's pretty common knowledge that most serial killers are actually CHARMERS. Jeez, people - just watch an episode of Dexter or Criminal Minds or any other police show - they say that all the time!

But they're only TV shows!!
True, some serial killers are charming. But they also have an under creepiness.
It's an actual medical phenomenom being creeped out by a psychopath, so even if they seem outwardly charming we're evoluationary programmed to pick up on their 'creepiness.'