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18 Oct 2010, 10:04 am

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I don't find aspie guys appealing tbh usually.
I say usually because some I am attracted to. They are usually the intelligent and assertive ones.

Got to admit though many guys on the love and dating forums give aspie guys a bad name. Some aspie guys are really cool and not bitter.

Generally, personality is a greater factor of character than Asperger's Syndrome. I know about 4 people with Aspergers syndrome in my college's music department alone, and they're all very different. Because of this, a couple of them generally have more "luck" with relationships.

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I'm such a whiner myself its good for me to be around positive, laid back guys so I can learn to be like that.


My trick has always been the "Replace-said-bad-behavior-with-good-behavior" game.



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18 Oct 2010, 10:49 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Not so much a separation of NT and Aspie as much as I would never date a man of the jerkass sexist persuasion (yes that includes "Nice Guys"). And I've never met a man with Aspergers who didn't qualify, though they must be out there.


So in other terms, you mean that all guys here are jerkass sexists , including me, ToadOfSteel , BigK, superboyian, Hector , I am sure you 'met' all those on this board ....heck , even including Apz.


I've never met you or anyone you mentioned there. Thus you are not included in the assessment.


I've assumed you meant by "met" as met them online here since it would be impossible for you to meet enough guys with Asperger in order to conclude a such generalization , probably it's a Norwegian thing more than anything else.


I never generalized anything. I stated that those I had met were like this. And that that was the reason for me not wanting to date them, not that they were Aspies. True I find some here on this forum to be very sexist, but I have never generalized it. Of course there are people here who are not like that, that was my basis for claiming they are out there :P

And I likewise assumed IRL since we are talking about dating. Dating usually meaning IRL, unless otherwise specified. What I think of the people on WP isn't relevant in this discussion because I'm not in a position to date them.

The reason I connect their sexist behaviour to Aspergers at all is because the attitudes of the ones I have met IRL almost exactly match what I observe in the L and D forum. Attitudes that are not, in my experience, common in Norway. Of course sexism is alive and well but not that particular "brand."



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18 Oct 2010, 11:15 am

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Not so much a separation of NT and Aspie as much as I would never date a man of the jerkass sexist persuasion (yes that includes "Nice Guys"). And I've never met a man with Aspergers who didn't qualify, though they must be out there.


So in other terms, you mean that all guys here are jerkass sexists , including me, ToadOfSteel , BigK, superboyian, Hector , I am sure you 'met' all those on this board ....heck , even including Apz.


I've never met you or anyone you mentioned there. Thus you are not included in the assessment.


I've assumed you meant by "met" as met them online here since it would be impossible for you to meet enough guys with Asperger in order to conclude a such generalization , probably it's a Norwegian thing more than anything else.


I never generalized anything. I stated that those I had met were like this. And that that was the reason for me not wanting to date them, not that they were Aspies. True I find some here on this forum to be very sexist, but I have never generalized it. Of course there are people here who are not like that, that was my basis for claiming they are out there :P

And I likewise assumed IRL since we are talking about dating. Dating usually meaning IRL, unless otherwise specified. What I think of the people on WP isn't relevant in this discussion because I'm not in a position to date them.

The reason I connect their sexist behaviour to Aspergers at all is because the attitudes of the ones I have met IRL almost exactly match what I observe in the L and D forum. Attitudes that are not, in my experience, common in Norway. Of course sexism is alive and well but not that particular "brand."


A load of normal guys act sexist and say sexist things behind their girls' backs tho. Of course, that doesn't justify the sexist behavior of aspies here or there , but just saying.....



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18 Oct 2010, 11:58 am

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So other than having luck in meeting the "right" girl, the only thing you need to do is change your personality and don't come across as a jerk.


I'm closer to 30 than to 20...not sure how much I can change my personality. I'm more outgoing than I used to be, but that's not saying much.



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18 Oct 2010, 12:00 pm

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So other than having luck in meeting the "right" girl, the only thing you need to do is change your personality and don't come across as a jerk.


I'm closer to 30 than to 20...not sure how much I can change my personality. I'm more outgoing than I used to be, but that's not saying much.


Good, changing your personality is stupid.



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18 Oct 2010, 2:26 pm

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I don't wish to "date" anyone, but I guess I'd want to date an Aspie if I ever felt the want to date someone.


Grab 'em while they're young. An older male Aspie who has been permanently single or has had a few relationships that didn't end well is likely to be an incorrigible prick you'd regret dating.


So, for example, I wouldn't be worth dating because I'm likely to be an "incorrigible prick". How wonderful.



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18 Oct 2010, 11:22 pm

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I don't wish to "date" anyone, but I guess I'd want to date an Aspie if I ever felt the want to date someone.


Grab 'em while they're young. An older male Aspie who has been permanently single or has had a few relationships that didn't end well is likely to be an incorrigible prick you'd regret dating.


So, for example, I wouldn't be worth dating because I'm likely to be an "incorrigible prick". How wonderful.


Let yourself be the judge of that. Don't let people like that get under your skin - especially, since MenInTights probably didn't even have you in mind when she posted that (I highly doubt she even meant that to be offensive).



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19 Oct 2010, 11:43 am

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I don't wish to "date" anyone, but I guess I'd want to date an Aspie if I ever felt the want to date someone.


Grab 'em while they're young. An older male Aspie who has been permanently single or has had a few relationships that didn't end well is likely to be an incorrigible prick you'd regret dating.


So, for example, I wouldn't be worth dating because I'm likely to be an "incorrigible prick". How wonderful.


Let yourself be the judge of that. Don't let people like that get under your skin - especially, since MenInTights probably didn't even have you in mind when she posted that (I highly doubt she even meant that to be offensive).


MenInTights's statement was clear enough, according to her warning, Jono is included in the group that women should avoid dating.



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19 Oct 2010, 11:50 pm

I never have, but I would. It just depends on the individual in question.


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20 Oct 2010, 2:42 am

Although not all are pricks, she has a point.
All the Love and Dating pricks are guys who have been butthurt too many times, or just a few times and they're more over-sensitive than others.

Fair enough I guess. I can see why it would be annoying. But it won't get you a woman.



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20 Oct 2010, 3:09 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Although not all are pricks, she has a point.
All the Love and Dating pricks are guys who have been butthurt too many times, or just a few times and they're more over-sensitive than others.

Fair enough I guess. I can see why it would be annoying. But it won't get you a woman.


I dare say the only thing less attractive would be a proclivity for domestic violence.


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20 Oct 2010, 3:24 am

Historically I haven't known any AS guys, let alone to date them.

Though I'm sure I'd get along with them better...I think.



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20 Oct 2010, 3:35 am

I agree with some of those who have posted that it depends on the situation. I used to date an NT and it was a horrific relationship. And recently, I tried to court a girl who I swear was either a diagnosed or recessive AS. That concluded in being shipped to my frequent destination, the "friend zone." I guess it would be a romantic notion of people finding similarities and connection through AS. Nonetheless, with the track record I have, I don't think I'll have the experience to tell you whether there can be an AS couple.



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20 Oct 2010, 7:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ambrose_Rotten wrote:
Jono wrote:
menintights wrote:
jmnixon95 wrote:
I don't wish to "date" anyone, but I guess I'd want to date an Aspie if I ever felt the want to date someone.


Grab 'em while they're young. An older male Aspie who has been permanently single or has had a few relationships that didn't end well is likely to be an incorrigible prick you'd regret dating.


So, for example, I wouldn't be worth dating because I'm likely to be an "incorrigible prick". How wonderful.


Let yourself be the judge of that. Don't let people like that get under your skin - especially, since MenInTights probably didn't even have you in mind when she posted that (I highly doubt she even meant that to be offensive).


MenInTights's statement was clear enough, according to her warning, Jono is included in the group that women should avoid dating.

Typical. They penalise us for having been rejected in the past, then wonder why you get George Sodini-type scenarios. But of course, they can get away with such blatantly-expressed prejudices, but if we say anything like that we'll be branded "sexist," and whatever other shaming terms!

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I dare say the only thing less attractive would be a proclivity for domestic violence.

Where I live, a proclivity for domestic violence is a huge turn-on for them!



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20 Oct 2010, 7:26 am

Well someone with AS was in a relationship with me for 3 n a half years, so in answer to the original question, yes they do.

Their still as much a pain in the arse as NT women are, moaning, nagging, ego's the size of planets. Always right, no sense of bloody direction what so ever, god never gave her the map my god we'd of ended up in bloody timbuktu through the scenic route....

So yes thats my death sentance pretty much gartunteed now :lol:



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20 Oct 2010, 7:43 am

BPalmer wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ambrose_Rotten wrote:
Jono wrote:
menintights wrote:
jmnixon95 wrote:
I don't wish to "date" anyone, but I guess I'd want to date an Aspie if I ever felt the want to date someone.


Grab 'em while they're young. An older male Aspie who has been permanently single or has had a few relationships that didn't end well is likely to be an incorrigible prick you'd regret dating.


So, for example, I wouldn't be worth dating because I'm likely to be an "incorrigible prick". How wonderful.


Let yourself be the judge of that. Don't let people like that get under your skin - especially, since MenInTights probably didn't even have you in mind when she posted that (I highly doubt she even meant that to be offensive).


MenInTights's statement was clear enough, according to her warning, Jono is included in the group that women should avoid dating.

Typical. They penalise us for having been rejected in the past


I have a lot of respect for guys or people who can get rejected loads of times and still retain a healthy attitude towards the opposite sex. A lot of respect.
I think you will find guys like you get "penalised" because of your sh*t attitude towards women. No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story. Even if you portray being a "nice guy" when all you're thinking is sexist hate, people can see through the "nice guy" act and thats the only reason "nice guys" finish last.