ApsieGuy wrote:
Chronos wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
Chronos wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
So, chronos.(you sound like a 30 something single man hater might I add)
Is it fair for men to expect women to invest lot of money into plastic surgery and working out just to look pretty?
You would only like me to be a man hater so you feel justified in your hatred of women.
Thankfully most men are well adjusted people and I certainly do not rank them amongst the likes of men (and women) like yourself.
As to your question about plastic surgery, though I believe it's a poor analogy...I would not date a man like this, nor would I insist that he has an obligation to date me under any circumstances, nor would I hate him for his preferences.
If a man wants a woman with a perfect body, he's perfectly welcome by me to go out and find her. He'll have a hard time doing so, and women who go through such lengths typically are the shallow gold diggers who DO care how much he makes for the pure financial value. I'm not his type, he's not mine, so I don't care.
I've only every raised the issue of looks because many men on here were under the false impression that any woman can get any guy she wants, and I was illustrating how that is a false perception.
You do realize that as a guy advances in a career.....his value goes up...same with personality.....and muscles
President Obama doesn't look like a body builder to me....neither does Arnold Schwarzenegger now days.
You advance in career, in part, because of personality. Not the other way around.
The only real difference between Ted and Joe, relevant to their occupational progress, was their personalities. Joe actually has a little more education than Ted because he completed highschool and went and some community college certificate program. Ted is a highschool drop out and couldn't afford any college. In fact Ted comes from a poor, working class family and his father spent most of the time in prison, while Joe comes from stable, middle class family and his father has a degree in business.
Even though Joe should theoretically have had an advantage compared to Ted...in fact statistics say Ted should be in prison, Joe's self defeatists personality and fear of leadership and responsibility inhibit him from obtaining things in life he'd really like to obtain. Ted, on the other hand, doesn't really spend much time, if any, dwelling on these issues.
But if you're so concerned about muscle and if having muscle will make you feel more confident because you think all women want muscle men, why don't you start lifting weights? Most men bulk up fairly quickly unless they are ectomorphs.
I can tell you how to do this if you like.
Actually, I have been lifting weights for years....I am also an ectomorph. Yes, It's almost impossible for me to put on muscle. If you've seen my picture, you will see that I am quite thin there.........was even thinner prior to that.'
This is another mis conecption women have. Most men do NOT bulk that quickly:
http://www.thefactsaboutfitness.com/research/fail.htmI think your un-reasonable expectations for men will keep you single for life. You come on here and go "WHY CANT I GET A BOYFRIEND." Some 50 year old trucker weighing 200 pounds hits on you....and then you deny him....and come back here and complain
What unreasonable expectations would those be?
I generally require someone in average shape, and within 6-7 years of my age in either direction but of course there exceptions. I prefer someone of my own ethnic group...but again, there are exceptions. Most importantly we have to have compatible personalities and lifestyles.
Is that unreasonable?
I never asked why I can't get a boyfriend. I think the closest I ever asked was "how" because I wanted feedback from the men on how women should approach/signal to men she is interested in. I was also curious what men found attractive in a woman (as I'm not a lesbian and thus would not know). Nor do I just want "a" boyfriend, obviously, or I would have one, just like many men on here would have "a" girlfriend if anyone would do.
In reality, it's very apparent that not just any one would do.
There is no benefit to having a boyfriend or girlfriend if you are not interested in the person, attracted to the person, or no reasonable level of compatibility exists at that relationship level. This is true among NT's however people with AS generally need a much higher level of compatibility with their partners than NT's or someone is not going to be happy in the relationship.
I don't believe in any of my posts I have complained about not having a boyfriend. I have only illustrated to those with misconceptions, the trials that women with AS face in the arena of relationships, as many of the men on here were/are under the false impression that women with AS have it easier in terms of love and dating.
I will acknowledge, it may be easier for women to get a one night stand (with a man, not any man), and certainly, that's one some of the men on here would like, but actual relationships are different.
31 Oct 2010, 5:08 pm
