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You need to sell your video games if you are that tight for cash.
Also, I think you need medication to help you function better in society. Its not a bad thing. I need it.

Why? video games along with anime are my only source of fun and entertainment.



Here we go with this again. Why do I need to "function" better? For who? For most of the idiots out there in the world because I act "differently" from them?

I'm nice and friendly to most people, I don't think I'm the one with the problem. It's them, maybe they should be on meds. They're the ones who need changing.

Hey, I like playing video games too. But heres the thing.

Although most people are indeed buttheads, the reality of the situation is that they are in control of societal norms and functions. Therefore, it would be best to appeal to them in some fashion. Making concessions to these "idiots" can take you along way. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

You're not being nice to them by calling them "idiots", even if it's fully deserved...

You know I don't give a hoot what you feel towards me. I have a right to be bitter and have this attitude because of the way I've been treated by these idiots all my life.

All i'm saying is you just need to force some confidence in yourself

Feeling sorry for yourself can be very satisfying, I know i do it all the time.

But sometimes you have to pass up that luxury and grab life by the horns

Whats more important, staying alive or video games?
Depends what your priorities are. You said you were going to be thrown out on the street.

You obviously think you function fine then. Pardon me for suggesting something that might actually make you a happier person. Keep your head in the sand, don't bathe for 4 months and then blame everyone else for not wanting to smell you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's pretty much what i'm seeing here.

Not being able to get a job because of aspergers means you aren't functioning properly. Medication helps people get on their feet, and feel a little happier in themselves. It balances out imbalances in our chemicals. I am suggesting you take it for YOU, not others.

They're a form of isolation, and really in the real world unless you're stereotypically Asian/nerdy/geeky, the typical NT or socially popular person shuns people who spend time in front of an XBox/PS3/Wii. True, I know my NT friends enjoy a game of Halo or COD to wind down, and I play Wolfenstein/PacMan on my iPhone to pass time on the bus/train/line/ski lift, ad naseum.

And besides, I don't like anime and I only game on my iPhone since I don't have good eye-hand coordination but I have no problems interacting with a game with a multi-touch smartphone.

Man, this thread is tempting me to go back to the bar and have a few drinks and maybe pickup another girl's number. But I have a 30 mile bike ride tomorrow and I need my brain cells and my liver to work fully. I'm not the most socially aware but I force myself to try to get into those situations. Experience is the best teacher, IMO.

Going to have to disagree here. This may have been the case 30 years ago, but it's not now. Games are very much the mainstream for young people. My age, 25, it's still mainstream, and even more accepted in younger people.

I suggested he sell his games if hes going to be thrown onto the street, at least he will have some money.

Hi there, I know it's slightly OT, but I'm both intrigued and unaware about medication for AS. I cope fairly well in society as it is but if there is anything that could give me that extra push i'd like to know what is best to use (or at least of a thread on the subject).

Back on topic. MR20; maybe you should do some voluntary work. People will be somewhat obliged to be nice to you because your helping out free of charge and it will do your CV no harm

Chris

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Well the meds don't actually treat aspergers.. I mean thats like treating someone for brown hair or freckles.. its in our genes.. BUT some meds can make people with aspergers function much better.

I have ongoing anxiety, paranoia and OCD. I take an anti-obsessive anti depressant to help me function better and minimise obsessive thoughts. It may be a placebo but I find even my sensory issues aren't as bad on them.

It sounds like this guy may very well benefit from antidepressants personally. He seems to be in a place where he can't stand bathing for some reason, I don't know what, but doctors/psychologists analyze the problem to see if there is a medication right for the person, hence how I was matched to mine.

My Dad was a lot worse before he started taking his. He has aspergers too, and its where I got it from. I don't know how they help but a lot of aspergers people seem to function better on them.

true - if we're talking anything sports related like the Madden trilogy, Call of Duty, Halo, Guitar Hero/Rock Band. What I meant to say is games like WoW and Starcraft is what gets and keeps people in isolation - ASD or NT. And I'm assuming MR20 spends a fair amount of time playing WoW or Starcraft. Time to call the friendly Comcast guy or phone company tech to disconnect his internet so he can spend some time in the real world. Sometimes, tough love is the ONLY way for aspie men to learn.

And hale_bopp, I did BAD on SSRIs like Prozac. I was a little too outgoing on the stuff and it made be again weight. Adderall does the trick nicely for me now.

This is a good point. my AS aint a problem these days its the other things that appear to be straddling it



My problems are intermittent - i'm often fine and can deal with anything but then there are bad days where my confidence drops through the floor. It's these days / periods where i pretty much grind to a halt, I won't want to do anything or see anyone. I seem to match every bullet point on this page about ED too.

You're right, I just wanted to let you know for your information. Do with it as you choose.

You have a right to remain in suffering, I'd rather you didn't though.

I shower daily yet I have almost the same problem (although I have a job , I am an Assistant Project manager...).


The gaming is not the cause of social isolation , I thought before that it might contributed in my social isolation but in fact it's not , never it was and never will be.

All my coworkers (and they're all IT people) are crazy about games , many of them are even far crazier than myself and most of them own consoles while the rest are always planing to buy a console.
They are also usually crazy about multiplayer games, my ass is always kicked hard in red alert 3 for instance. I was amazed of how they're into details , tanks' stats , tactics , crazy plans, things that you might learn only if you dedicate plenty of time and trial and errors for them.

All those guys are very IT, geeky , nerdy and gaming-junkies, yet they all have friends ,gfs and spend a lot of time with them outdoor.

I have also a coworker who' extremely typical extrovert (clubbing junkie) who's also an xbox junkie, I know that he always spends long night hours on xbox with his friends after some party.....hell, most non-IT guys do this.

It's the existence of friends (besides job and shopping needs) in your life that make you get out for fun , you only have a social life if you have friends.

I do not go out during weekends and on Friday/Sat nights because I don't have friends (hence no social life) , pure and simple and not because I like to play games.

When I was used to have few friends (ages ago , lost due to distance) , I was used to go out almost every weekend ....and oh , I was much more gaming junkie than today.

Don't assume. I haven't played any of those games or an MMORPG in my life




Why? so people can make fun of the way I dress and look? So folks can talk about how slow and dumb I am? Why would I subject myself to that? If that's the "Real World" I don't want any part of it.

TBH I'd rather stay at home everyday (Like I have for the better part of the past 3 years) and play video games and watch anime. That way I don't feel added pressure to try and "impress" or try to act "normal" around other people, which I know is impossible