Five hobbies that impress women

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That's not true; I teach plenty of adults music, and the only reason half of them don't end up excelling is because they give up too quickly.
People live until the age of about 80. That's heaps of time to get good. You don't suddenly lose the ability to learn once you hit 18.

English literature isn't a male-dominated field, as far as I can tell.

The most efficient hobby that women will never tell you about is:
Listening to them

It is:
- Cheap (no fancy instrument to buy and carry)
- Easy (you just listen and ask to carry on)
- Works any place indoor/outdoors, you take it with you anywhere and you can't forget it (not like your DIY garage door)
- Works anytime (you don't need a camera flash)
- Is totally Aspie-compatible (you just have to learn to ask subtle, indirect questions to make them talk more)
- Universal (what if you play the harp and meet a heavy metal fan?!? A whole lifetime talent wasted!)

It is like DIY Volunteering for their cause, it might be painful, but it's much less dangerous than sport

I still got dumped even though I tried so very hard at this... was I just not good enough?

apparently so, for god sakes move on

3 things that come to my mind can go wrong:
- the confidence
It is important she feels safe with you. Your behavior has to make her feel safe, it's a posture that must display confidence (still) and attention (arch and tilt the head a bit). What you say in the beginning has to be pertinent to engage the theme

- the theme of the conversation
It always start with chit chat (there are some other posts about this) Every woman has at any time something to confide or ask for an opinion, even if you are a complete stranger, if you get the confidence right, the conversation can to lead to this, and it has to lead to this. The key after you set the confidence is the pertinence, the insight. And this is where we, aspies, rule. You have to say what is never said out loud. It has to reveal the unfairness, the lack of meaning or the awkward position of people in the society, problems with parents or friends...

- the questions
It's not about you, it's all about her. So don't narrate your life unless expressively asked, and if you relate to what she says, just think about the feelings you had and ask her if she felt that way. Never ask simplistic questions, like "why did you do that?" but instead "how did you felt" Again you have to act a bit and assert what she says with the head or with "I understand".

agreed, to me it is impressive. maybe because i fail at it.


sort of. this may be true. but i often look for an ulterior motive there.


not sexy to me. i used to play along with the guys, and i was very competitive even though i sucked at the games. really, really sucked. i was the token special needs player i think.


interesting. perhaps sexy. i am also a photographer (surprise, surprise), so if a guy is really really amazing at it i would be impressed (not that i am amazing, but talent is cool)


no way. get back in the kitchen and fix me a sandwich... while i fix the lamp. shoo.

it is a very effective method.


also true. comfort in your skin breeds confidence. be confident at something and it becomes very attractive... i.e. a confident Z-scale train modeler would turn me to putty! (okay, that one was a trick because even a non-confident Z-scale modeler would be dang hot!)

Yes you were not good enough because you are clingy, whiny, and pathetic and you want everyone else to suck as much as you do.

If I'm not being accurate let me know...

It can be very effective but it has to be done right.

I can pull it off if I feel comfortable around a girl and Ive done this several times, however I had some problems in the past and apparently you cant avoid your past.


I took the joking thing a bit too far when I was 12 and I became the class clown for about 3 years, I changed schools last year and by the second week someone had already found out and they started asking me to repeat some of the jokes,if I go to a party and I see someone I dont recognize being overly enthusiastic around me Im almost certain what comes next(huge problem with facial recognition)and I try to avoid them/create the worst impression ever(last time I was asked to tell a joke I asked the person to tell me one first and I told the same joke 2 minutes afterwards, the other person started laughing so Im still trying to figure out what am I doing wrong ).

The bolded section is definitely inaccurate.

The bolded section is a reference to something ToadOfSteel said on the happy thread( link provided) he hasnt been able to answer yet so I believe we should at least wait until he answers the questions that were made before jumping into conclusions.

In my experience, if people fancy you they find your hobbies cool because they like you and want to like what you like.

Actually I find cars quite boring... and expensive ones just seem like a waste of money and fuel. The only thing I really care about with cars is the fuel efficiency, and often expensive cars are a bit rubbish for that.

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Yes, it can be impressive! Art is fascinating in all it's forms.

Play an instrument: I've always regretted that I didn't learn how to play... I often walk around with a new melody on my mind with no way to "get it out"... I especially want to learn to play the guitar...

Volunteer: Yes, but I only do it if I know what it's for. If it's for some red cross thing or the like, i don't, mainly because I don't trust the larger organizations. I've thought about collecting old computers from people and sending them to 3rd world countries for school and educational use, though this requires money... which I don't have at the moment.

Play sports: Sports don't really interest me... on the plus side, she won't have to worry when soccer nights come along

Photographing: I love it, and i've racked up some skills with small amateur cameras and cellphone cams, but i'd like a professional camera in the future...

DIY aka. being a handyman: I can repair close to anything electronic and most things that have water running through them, no worries there

on the bad traits:

Cooking: I love cooking, I hate Jamie Oliver's food... he always seems to put cheese in everything...

Surfing: Don't have the balance for it...

Wine appreciation: I love wine and other appreciative types of alcohol (ie. whiskey, schnaps), but I only really care about the taste, not how it got to taste that way...

Playing records: i'm not a DJ, but putting on some music for the vibe doesn't hurt

Drawing: I like to draw, but nothing really beats painting for me