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09 Dec 2010, 8:13 pm

Wombat, your definition of "cheating" may seem perfectly logical to you, but relationships are not always a logical thing. A large part of being in a relationship is trust, and how can you expect a girlfriend/boyfriend to trust you when you're getting a bit on the side?



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09 Dec 2010, 8:19 pm

cheating is cheating. Whether you're married or just in a relationship, it doesn't make any difference.



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09 Dec 2010, 8:27 pm

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Maybe it's different for aspies but I don't think a single person that will live till the age of 80 will never have cheated.


Are Serious? Seriously? That's not true at all.

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don't always assume that someone who cheated is a bad person.


It certainly says a lot about their nature if they mess around with someone's feelings. Unless they were forced to cheat in a relationship with a gun to their head. Cheating is a selfish act, selfish and hurtful to others. What do you call these people? Decent people? I wouldn't. Maybe they are nice to others, work hard and give to charity, but the fact they cheat means they have absolutely no respect for their partner.

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Of course you have to make the difference between players who regularly cheat on their girlfriends and don't give a sh** and people that actually love their GF/BF but for some reason have cheated.


If you're committed to your partner you don't "love" them enough to respect their feelings. "for some reason?" I'm sorry it doesnt matter if they cheat all the time or once, the point is they cheated.

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Then that would mean that she is the bad 'un. An untrustworthy woman, not worthy of a man's time and marriage.


Well obviously the girl is going to be a waste of any mans time but the man was foolish to enter a relationship with a known cheater.



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11 Dec 2010, 5:14 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Well obviously the girl is going to be a waste of any mans time but the man was foolish to enter a relationship with a known cheater.


How did he know she was a cheater? For every smooth talking seducing man there is a woman who likes to wrap men around her finger and then mess them around.

Been there done that.



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11 Dec 2010, 11:21 am

Wombat wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Well obviously the girl is going to be a waste of any mans time but the man was foolish to enter a relationship with a known cheater.


How did he know she was a cheater? For every smooth talking seducing man there is a woman who likes to wrap men around her finger and then mess them around.

Been there done that.

because the OP was going to cheat with a woman who was already in a relationship. that makes the woman a known cheater... because she would be cheating with the OP.


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12 Dec 2010, 4:14 am

Wombat wrote:
To me real "cheating" is after you are engaged or married.
Then you have given your solemn vow not to look at anyone else for as long as you live.


Wombat, if you are in a standard relationship with another person, then exclusivity is implied. Therefore, dating someone else while you are in that relationship is cheating regardless of whether you are a married couple or just a boyfriend and girlfriend in school.



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12 Dec 2010, 8:34 pm

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Wombat wrote:
To me real "cheating" is after you are engaged or married.
Then you have given your solemn vow not to look at anyone else for as long as you live.


Wombat, if you are in a standard relationship with another person, then exclusivity is implied. Therefore, dating someone else while you are in that relationship is cheating regardless of whether you are a married couple or just a boyfriend and girlfriend in school.


spot on! And I don't think having AS or not changes the goal posts when it comes to cheating. Cheating is Cheating plain and simple.