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13 Dec 2010, 1:00 pm

This is a prime example of the type of misogynestic thread that needs to be policed on these forums. To the OP you are not even worth helping, you are just another guy with AS who has turned into a misogynestic jerk because you overgeneralize instead of actually legitimately improving yourself. Instead you waste your time being a misogynistic jerk and whining. Seriously, grow up.
1. You are not entitled to a relationship.
2. Quit generalizing women.
3. Maybe part of the reason you will never be in a relationship is you are misogynistic jerk. What women would want to date a guy like you.
4. Women don't think in a hive mind, we are intelligent and thinking individuals.

I could go on. But what is the point.



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13 Dec 2010, 1:10 pm

Here's something that I learned a while back about women. Women want you to impress them all the time, especially on the first encounter. I do good with the initial contact, and she will say "My name is (whatever)" and exchange formalities, but after that, I don't know how to string the conversation along. That's what it is too, stringing it along, because if you don't provide a constant source of entertainment the very first time of meeting her, then she will move on to someone that can. I learned the complicated way just how important and effective (and scary) it is to constantly tell a woman what she wants to hear. It's not necessarily lying, cause if what she wants to hear is what you are going to say anyway, then it's not lying. But again, picking the right one is very important, and the models are going to be snooty, so if you want a decent girl, at that rate you might as well go to a strip club dude.

These are the same kind of women that go to bars trying to find a decent guy, and then act surprised when he has sex with her and doesn't call the next morning. So they keep going after these guys, because there is comfort in the familiar, and then if they meet a decent guy, they don't know what to do. They don't go for good guys, because why take a risk? Taking a risk can sometimes equal rape. At least they know what they are getting with Alpha Douche. Kind of like re-electing a crappy President.

Now, looks are important. Anyone who says looks aren't important are either A) self-righteous, B) really really ugly, and jealous of good looking people or C) a total loser virgin. But looks can't be the first thing that jumps out at you. If it is, it won't work. I know when women are approaching me for the wrong reasons, so do you think that women don't notice when you do it? These are the kinds of women that just assume every guy wants them because they are hot, and not only are you proving them correct, even if you actually thought she was decent, she will just assume you are another shy loser that wants her ass. Bottom line is, arrogant, shallow girls go for arrogant, shallow guys!! If you can't/won't recognize the difference between decent and slu*ty, then you will be alone for a while, because you can't mix and match naughty and nice. Even Santa Claus distinguishes them. And Santa has Asperger's :lol:



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13 Dec 2010, 1:12 pm

I haven't responded because I don't really care anymore. People can trash talk women all they like. I can't be arsed to be offended. If I want to be offended, I will pick a fight but I am in no mood for that. I feel bored of it.

All I did was skimmed this thread.


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13 Dec 2010, 1:39 pm

johnnydangerous wrote:
grendel wrote:
I think you are way too hung up on getting an "attractive woman" and also assuming that the woman should like you because you are also attractive. A person does not have to be the kind of person seen as classically beautiful to be attractive or a desirable mate.
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Well, I'm not on facebook, I don't have 500 fake friends, and I don't lke to go to bars every night of the week.
Apparently, being attractive and getting on well with a woman isn't enough for them. No, they base SO MUCH about you based on your "social status" and "how cool" you are to be seen with in front of their oh-so-hip friends.

Two bones to pick here. One, if you are only approaching "beautiful" women who have 500 fake friends, base everything on social status, and go to bars every night of the week (or any... why look for a serious relationship at a bar?), this is the first problem. Frankly, a lot of people who start out young being more attractive or outgoing than their peers and attracting a lot of attention from the opposite sex put an inordinate amount of weight on this attention, and the social circles that support it. If their self worth is wrapped up in how attractive other people think you are, then I guess they feel the need to get constant reassurance of that from all the shallow social interaction.

Second, why should "being attractive and getting on well with a woman" be enough for anybody? I certainly don't base my interest in men solely on these characteristics. In fact, I am often not attracted to the men that other women constantly swoon over as supposedly being good looking. And just because I do acknowledge a guy is good looking doesn't mean I'm interested in him personally. There are a lot of more important traits.

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I am starting to realize that I will never find a good woman, because a good woman doesn't exist. They ALL think the same. There is NO INDIVIDUALITY amongst them. They are all linked, like the Borg on Star Trek. Women are "the collective" and I am now coming to that sad realization.

Good woman does not necessarily equal beautiful woman. If you are looking for a "good" woman then why are you so hung up on how beautiful she is supposed to be? Yes, a lot of women act like this, and lot of guys who want an attractive woman don't care because they only want her for her looks. If you want somebody with an actual personality, get to know somebody who isn't out flaunting her looks all the time in eye-catching clothes with her girlfriends, and her attraction will be revealed if she is in fact a "good woman". I don't want to generalize your perspective as being that of most guys, but from my (female) perspective, if you love someone they become more attractive until they seem more attractive than anybody else, even if you didn't initially think that when you met them. And your obsession with looks is definitely a turn-off for a woman. Even a beautiful woman (if she has the individuality and goodness you are looking for) does not want to be valued for her looks about all else, she wants to be valued for who she is as a person (who as a result, is irresistibly attractive to you).


I dont need a supermodel, just someone I find relatively attractive. I'm not going after women who go to bars and have 500 friends on facebook, but unfortunately that is the MAJORITY of women these days. Yes, it is sad, but we have toface reality. This is what women are about nowadays. Twitter, facebook, and how much social value and how cool a guy is.

And how exactly am I "obsessed" with my looks? No offense but that sounds like a typical NT talking. Someone who just "doesnt get it" when I speak. I am not obsessed with looks I only brought it up to demonstrate that physical attractiveness doesnt matter when you have AS.

Just forget it. Trying to explain things is very difficult, because people like you misconstrue what the whole point is of what I'm saying, and twist what I say in to what YOU think I meant when I said it. When in reality you have no clue.

Somehow you turned what I said into me being in love with my self, and only going after women who are supermodels. Wow, talk about reading into something that was never there. Is this the NT disorder forum? Feels like it.

I dont want a supermodel. I only want what I see on the street all the time: An attractive woman who has a good heart with a guy like me. But when you have AS thats too much to ask for. You say I am aiming too high, what am I supposed to do? Go out with a woman I dont find physically attractive? it doesnt work that way, that defeats the purpose of an intimate relationship. AGAIN they dont have to be supermodels, but there has to be a level of physical attraction.

I do have one question, how do these women know about "my obsession with looks" and how exactly does it turn them off? Apparently people like you think I discuss my looks when on a date with these women. You dont seem to understand that what I post on a forum is not what I discuss when I'm on a date with a woman.

I'm sorry, but your advice and your analysis of me is dead wrong. Its not up for debate. I'm telling you flat out YOU ARE WRONG. You made an assumption about me, and you are WAY off the mark.

You did not understand what I posted, or what I am about. You dont know me at all and you judged me based on a sentence where I talked about physical attractiveness. From that you deduced that I am an arrogant smug person. Wow, just wow. I cant stand people. I'm sorry but you just "dont get it". Its like trying to explain things to an NT. No offense.


You are an arrogant smug person. The worst kind of douche is the kind that has no idea that he or she is arrogant and smug. If you have to write an entire post such as this one, that gives a point by point analysis of how you are NOT arrogant and smug at all, then you pretty much proved everybody's point in the process. "Wahh, you don't know me! How can you judge me based on things I've written! How could you say such a thing? Wow, amazing. Forget it. I have a question...hahaha! Just kidding, it's a rhetorical question, cause I'm always right! Sorry! More seemingly witty self-righteous repartee. Now I'm going to forget it. Bye. Arrogant NT smug alpha douche that doesn't agree with me! How dare you? NOW I WILL TYPE IN ALL CAPS, BECAUSE I'M CORRECT AND YOU ARE NOT!"



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13 Dec 2010, 1:46 pm

I'm definately better off single - then I'll suffer no bitching and moaning.

Cheers to the females of this modern world for making me see sense, you've shown how demanding and stupid you can be.



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13 Dec 2010, 1:48 pm

starygrrl wrote:
This is a prime example of the type of misogynestic thread that needs to be policed on these forums. To the OP you are not even worth helping, you are just another guy with AS who has turned into a misogynestic jerk because you overgeneralize instead of actually legitimately improving yourself. Instead you waste your time being a misogynistic jerk and whining. Seriously, grow up.
1. You are not entitled to a relationship.
2. Quit generalizing women.
3. Maybe part of the reason you will never be in a relationship is you are misogynistic jerk. What women would want to date a guy like you.
4. Women don't think in a hive mind, we are intelligent and thinking individuals.

I could go on. But what is the point.


Misogynistic's are not born. They're made. Thank you for your opinion.



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13 Dec 2010, 1:52 pm

johnnydangerous wrote:
Misogynistic's are not born. They're made.


Thats right! Humans are born with the whole mating and social thing already in them. Whatever negativity happens to a male as he gets older can change his life path and attitude to the surrounding environment he is in.

A male with Aspergers going through negativity is more likely to not get better. You can't expect somebody born with an affliction to understand their own behaviours



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13 Dec 2010, 2:08 pm

--- End of misogyny thread ---

Making offensive generalisations about either sex is against the site rules.

On a personal note, I'm getting fed up with all these sexist attacks. I think Alex should rename the "Love and Dating" forum as the "hurt and hating" forum?

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