Guys -- who would you choose? (Alternate scenario)

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Yes, they are charactitures -- I was trying to see if If guys here cared about monogamous relationship or preferred open ones

And yes, I don't know very many women. Especially the party scene.

And I have very few actual relationships with women, but most of
Girl 2 is a druggie. I've known a lot of people who are 'recreational' drinkers and 'smoke socially', but who would be entirely honest about that? The extra interests should reflect this -- The Zen Motorcycle Diaries, The Big Lebowski, Warren The Ape, and that she's a practicing Wiccan. I have some 'unwanted' interactions with the Stoner crowd. I also insinuated that she likes to party. A 'red flag' was not that the female friends found her promiscuous, but that she had no friends who knew her for very long. Girl 2 has never read Nietzsche, but it's her 'favorite book'.This is loosely based on someone I knew casually. Also, Girl's 2 inability to commit to a non-open relationship should have been a Red flag.

Girl 1 is a career oriented woman. She likes Jersey Shore and is obsessive with makeup -- but it's also a career for her. 19 is very young to be a licensed cosmetologist. I tried to make her as off-putting as possible as far as interest goes, and the assumptions came in rather quickly. Note that I never said she 'watches' Jersey Shore, simply that she likes to talk about it. Girl 1 is simply trying to 'fit in' with her co-workers in this scenario. This is reflected in the books section: I put Twilight there to throw you off, but Agatha Christie and Nancy Drew suggests intellectual capacity and a commitment to feminism, albeit an uneducated one. Also note that her favorite movie is The Notebook. Girl 1 does suffer from some Self-Esteem issues, but she's far from needing validation.

So yes, It was a test to see if guys would notice these differences and not judge based on predisposed interests. It was also a test to see if we could judge on a case-by-case basis and not on past experiences.

I probably should have used 'Stoner'. I tried to insinuate that she wasn't being forthright by using vague terms.

Smokes weed daily, and drinks 5+ drinks once a week. May experiment with other drugs at parties.

I think Girl 1 actually can be a better prospect for a longer-term relationship like I say, but her career and faith is kinda off putting for me.

I've met a lot of Christian girls who were actually not really fundamentalist, and not actively trying to convert others/think excessively conservatively. I actually prefer girls who are christian, and I'm a diest. The term 'devout christian' can mean many different things, but some people who practice Christianity are actually charitable and well-rounded. Plus, it gives them incentive to work on the relationship as they view the bond more seriously.

Probably girl 1. I wouldn't want to go out with someone who does drugs and who would likely end up cheating on me.

Wow, I was gonna say KnowRainSupreme, the more you described Girl 2, the more confused I got. "Where did he meet her?" I'm glad she is just a caricature, because then I would have to scratch my head and think about everything I've learned about women like that. This is what I've learned about those two types of women.

Girl number 2 is usually submissive at heart, even though she initially appears to be dominant. Girl number 2 usually does not have a categorized taste in movies or music. Girl number 2 will either be an athlete, or a drinker and a smoker. She will not be both. Girls that go mudding and rock climbing are tall and rarely ever delve into drugs too much, and girls that are more into paintball and four wheeling tend to be short, about 5 foot to 5 foot 3, and also don't go too much into drugs (although alcohol isn't sacred). Tall pretty athletic tomboyish girls do tend to wear shorts and a T-Shirt, and the more into sports she is, the less she is into drugs. Some girls like this will play sports, but drugs and boys will win out in the end. Girl number 2 is often a Christian, although not very serious about it, mainly because she doesn't have time to deal with all God's wrath. The more a girl is into Christianity, the more submissive she will be. Girl number 2 is not overly submissive, but certainly enjoys it when a man takes control, almost too much.

Girl number 1 sees sexual intercourse as a form of validation, not so much as an expression of actual love. She will go back to having sex if she feels that she needs more confidence about herself. Girl number 1 does wait a while before having sex, but once she starts, it's very tough to make her go away. You are stuck with her for a while. Girl 1 does not have a short bob hairstyle if she loves makeup as much as you say, and certainly if she likes trendy artist and entertainment, then her hair will be long. Girl 1 is often an avid cook, but takes up this craft in hopes of attracting a mate for a long term monogamous relationship. Girl 1 has held in her anger for a long time, so if you date her for a long enough period of time, and have an argument, she can be very harsh, and will use her weight as leverage (hehe) in her argument. Girl 1 is so convinced that her weight discredits her from having a relationship that she will alienate guys that are good enough, and not even realize it, just because she has it in her head that men won't like her at the end of the day.

So in conclusion, Girl 1 is more dependent, and Girl 2 is more independent. Girl 1 would make a better wife in the long run, and Girl 2 would make a better friend. Girl 1 takes more time to get used to, but has more to offer, and Girl 2 is easy to get accustomed to, but only goes so far. It's like a high draft pick. Do you take the unpolished sophomore with unlimited potential and bad character issues, or do you take the runner up to the Player of the Year that can contribute to your team right away with his skill set, but probably won't become much more than that? You are the GM. Do you take the long term risk or the short term reward? What is your mission statement?

She's someone who trying to come off as one of your friends -- but not. The girl I compared to her was obsessed with being 'that girl'. She was a user though. She took advantage of others, never actually rock-climbed or did many of the things she talked about. I tried to lay it down as if Girl 2 was deceitful from the beginning.

Honestly, the more I read about you the less I think you are who you claim you are. It perplexes me though, that you think it's 'unnatural' for anyone to be in a monogamous relationship.

The question I have is this: If you were in a relationship with Girl 2, and she had sex with another man, would you be angry? offended? Would she only need to tell you first?