What is it you want?

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Thanks for the hug. Here's a hug for you. :O)

I want to find a man who can tolerate me and share my values,
marry him,
and be a SAHM.

It is credible and effective to plan to have offspring. It is understandable that you should desire to reproduce before or around the age of 25 since this is when you are in your reproductive prime; (when you are optimally functional as a reproductive being and when males would find you most physically attractive).

Unfortunately, there are not very many suitable mates available as many individuals in current society have disease, ignorance, or both. If this is not the case then they are already occupied with another individual and can rarely provide the quality or quantity of care required to raise two sets of young in the absence of a eusocial society.

Continue your search with well mediated judgement. As you are an Aspie, I would like to see you succeed.

Best wishes with your plans. I hope that things turn out for you.

I want the same thing everyone wants in a partner. Understanding, acceptance, and reciprocation. The specifics vary from person to person, and for me, I want a partner that is simple and active. I could add a couple more things, but I'm too lazy.

I want my own Valkyrie. A valorous shield maiden renowned both for her skill on the battlefield and in the bed chamber

And the kitchen.

married by the time I'm 26, have 2 kids (preferably one of each) by the time I'm 30. Hopefully this is doable. Sometimes I really doubt it...

I want to go on lots of road trips and explore America from top to bottom, eat lots of good food, and party with lots of girls. Hopefully while I am doing these things I can improve other people's lives and leave the world a better place. My penultimate goal is to die in the arms of a beautiful woman, not alone and forgotten.

Good luck man, but if you're Aspergian you need to emotionally prepare yourself for this NOT happening. But do realize, it's not all it's cracked up to be... See the quote below.



It does sound a little harsh, but I agree with this line of thought.



Actually this isn't too far off...

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And that, gentle readers is why the birthrate in all Western countries and countries like Japan has fallen below replacement level.
That is why our numbers are falling like a stone and our countries are being colonized by people from the Third World.

White people are already a minority in California.
By 2050 the Dutch and the French will be a minority in their own countries.
The English are well on the way.

But I am sure you have better things to do than watch the collapse of Western Civilization.

Thinking about "the big picture" serves no purpose for us. We as individuals have to consider what we want for ourselves. The main point here is that whether or not we have anger issues or whatever, we are cynical to the extreme and a lot of us think having kids is no fun and not worth the trouble, and overall a bad decision. The further along the spectrum you are the less likely you are to be interested in children and want to have kids, at least that's what I think.

At any rate, being stuck in the same place for the rest of my life would be the death knell of my inner peace, and it's pretty much impossible to have and support children without staying put, unless you are a multi-millionaire, and I'm not interested in kids anyway.

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I plan to be single my whole life. It's what I've always known. Being in a LTR scares me and so does the thought of kids. I can barely look after myself what sort of mother would I be?

I can't speak to the marriage part because my ex was a cheater and isn't around, but I have a daughter. It's one of the best things that happen to me. Of course, it's challenging, but I love it. I will have more with the right person.

I'm not set on any specific desires. If I think about an ideal, I would like to have a long-term romantic partner who is also my best friend, someone with whom I can share mutual love, respect, understanding, support, and fun. That's the theoretical ideal, but I'm not set on it. I won't be devastated if it doesn't happen and, in fact, don't expect it to. I'm open to the possibility that it might, but it does not seem likely to me. Maybe in a few years, I will change my mind, but for now, this doesn't pain me. My second choice ideal would be to remain single and romantically uninvolved. The problem is that making attempts at the first (i.e., dating) automatically destroys the second while not being likely to succeed in achieving that first ideal (but the only way to know is to try). Bit of a Catch-22 of sorts.

actually i have the same exact plan except i want a boy and a girl by my mid 20s and i want to be married early 20s at the Chapel of Las Vegas in a drive thru wedding

Become a sperm donor. That way you get to leave your genetic imprint without sacrificing your lifestyle.