Feeling unattracted to my NT gf

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Careful.
Your bigotry is showing.

?? Am I bigoted because of my examples of unhealthy food or my criticism of unhealthy eating habits?

What if I substituted cigarettes/smoking instead? Would I still be bigoted?

You'd be bigoted if you spoke of black people as lazy porch monkeys,
of women as ditzy gold digging sammich makers,
and in that same vein
you're bigoted when you refer to people who are overweight or who have gained weight as gluttons who purposefully gorge themselves on junk.

It's kinda sad that I have to spell that out.

That just means they don't love them.
For those who have felt true love for a partner, we might prefer them at a certain weight (I prefer men a little bigger) but we still love them and want to be with them.

I'd never enter a relationship where the guy is judging me on looks alone.

My insight is stop the grass is greener attitude, appreciate someone for who they are or don't be with them.
"there are 5 other girls in the room i'd rather be with"

Well that answers your own question, you shouldn't be with her! It's a pity she can't read minds because she'd be off like a rocket if she knew of your constant "window shopping" for an upgrade.

Yeah I posted the same thing the last time you posted a thread like this. Sorry but I can't like you, not that it matters you dont like me either, but you just seem so hung up on looks.

I can't comment too much because my views on overeating/obesity are bound to be controversial - I'll keep them to myself.

But I sincerely didn't mean to offend you, and if I did, I am sorry...

Right, because obesity and being overweight are synonymous with overeating.



Yeah. Best to just keep that noise to yourself.

Well to be fair the weight has to come from somewhere, even if the person is no longer overeating. I am overweight because I eat the wrong food and don't excersise enough. I became fat because I was on a medication - one that made me overeat with fake hunger pangs.

Sure it does.
It comes from:
diet
exercise level
family genetics
underlying medical conditions
and more



I'm overweight cause I always have been.
I was born double the weight of some newborns, and weighed 150 lbs by the time I was in sixth grade, eating less and more healthfully than all my peers.
At this point, i weigh 178 at 5'1" (down from 215 thanks to weight loss medication).
I exercise daily, I'm a vegan, and I haven't had a soda since my childhood.

It really saddens and angers me to know there are people who would take one look at my size and make up ridiculous judgments about me because of it. The fear of being viewed as disgusting is why some people develop eating disorders.

Why not just say she isnt right for you? Im sure she would hate if you lead her on for another few months, feelings got deeper and then you dumped her and she found out that you have felt that way for a long time.
Wouldnt it be better to be upfront about it now and if you're not sure, let her know that and say you want a break, but be honest.
You might miss her ( you never know) so keep it honest,Saying you want "space" is just such a bad rejection line.She will see through that in 3 seconds most likely and think she is dumped hardcore anyway.

Why would people say that? If that's you in your avatar (I presume such anyway), I have to say you actually look pretty good.

So her boobs, butt, and hips got bigger.. and you're complaining? I feel sorry for this girl too Stop wasting her time and break it off..

Women don't always gain weight on the "right" places.

Thighs, chin, arms, stomach and gut are also common culprits of fat in the wrong places which are common. Not that i'm condoning the way this guy is behaving, taking what he can get because its all he can get, I think he should break it off asap.

Hell no! "Using" is not the right word here. How can I be "using" a girl if I give her all the commitment, romance, and gifts she desires, in exchange for being in a relationship? And if you think I'll drop my current girlfriend the minute a better-looking girl shows interest in me, you're mistaken! It's way better to keep an existing relationship going, where you already invested time and effort, rather than start a new one that's still simply a promise.

2 months...tell her you changed your mind and you want to move on

why say anything else, like it has been said 'you don't love her'

just think how she would feel if she read this thread...a nightmare for any girl, the kindest thing you could do for her is break up because even though she doesn't know about this thread it is still on some level completely humiliating to her ((957 online now, 47,000 possible that could read this thread)) on what planet do you think you should be with her, it is a total lack of regard. If you told her the truth she would probably actually hate you...so not sure why you think it is ok to not tell her the truth. When someone sleeps with you it is an unwritten thing...'I trust you'....and you slag her off like this weighing your OPTIONS....

ps...she already knows you don't like her, set her free so she can find someone else...why does anyone keep secrets like this...why isn't she entitled to the truth...and really she is only one that is entitled to this information

awful

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